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Boy Crazy
13/f
Ok, I have just gotten out of a 1 year relationship with someone. [We'll call him Jay.] We are still best friends and all, but that isnt my problem. You see, I like this other guy now, and I think he likes me. But when I say I like someone else, Jay goes all sad on me and says stuff like, "I know you hate me and I understand that you want to be with another guy" Which isn't totally true. Because I still want to be Jay's friend. How do I tell him to back off without being mean?
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"(Jay)you know i don't hate you and i do still want to be your friend. you're a really great friend. but you have to get that we broke up and i'm going to see other people. you will too. we can't just expect eachother to stay single becuase we aren't with eachother." something to the effect. you have to be honest if you want to be friends and be able to date other people. you're right you shouldn't have to be mean but you do ahve to tell him.
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I think you should explain to him how great of a guy he really is. Tell him that being with him for a year has taught you a lot of things about a relationship and he will always be in your heart; you'll always be there for him when he needs you or wants to talk. Explain to him that you guys are only 13 and you need to meet new people, both of you guys. He may think that you're the one, but he hasn't been with enough girls to know that yet. Tell him that his soul mate is out there, he just has to get up and look for her. You weren't it, but you'd love to still be friends with him. Explain that you love him, but it's just not the same type of love it was when you guys were together. Everything happens for a reason, so I'm sure something good will come out of this break up. He just needs some time. Time heals everything. He'll be okay with everything in time, I'm sure. ♥
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Here's what I'd say if I were you
Jay, you're my friend and I love you, but seriously you need to give me some space. We're not in a relationship anymore and I don't want you to worry about me dealing with any more guys because it's going to happen. I don't hate you, you're a great guy, but we're only 13 and I want to meet new guys. Do you have a problem with that?
Maybe that's a little on the mean side, but if he's going to be a littly pussy about it then let him be. He'll just feel stupid about the whole ordeal later on in highschool when he looks back and wonders why he didn't see how good of a FRIEND you were.
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Hon, you're 13. OUt of a year long relationship...wow. Interesting.
Sweetie, you just need to go out with that boy you like. Go out with him. Jay is probably feelingjelous because another guy is gonna have a girl that he still has some feeligns for.
Tell him that "I know that you're feeling jelous that I'm gonna go out wiht (whoever) but you need to let go. You're my best friend and no one can take that spot but boyfriends...well life jsut moves on like that"
Or something like that
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just explain to him that you only want to be his friend, tell him how there is another girl out there for him and just because you do not want to go out with him you still want to be his friend and he need to understand that because the longer he is stuck on you the more he is going to be hurt because your not with him
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