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moved to a new state last summer
I moved to a new state last summer and i havent made that many friends at my new school. There was this girl who was also new who didnt know anyone and she was really down to earth, so we became friends. Over the school year shes become very stuck up, materialistic, and rude to people who try to be nice and talk to her. So im her only friend, and for a while she was my only friend. Ive made some friends with some very nice guys which have invited us (me and my friend) to sit with them during lunch. She never wants to because she thinks shes too good for them. I really dont see anything wrong with them, they are just trying to be friends with her. So i told her to stop being mean and to come sit with them sometime. She always refuses, which means im stuck with her and i dont get to sit with them. Then they get upset (not mad at me) when we dont sit with them. Each day she becomes even more and more rude and i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Sometimes i feel like she doesnt like sitting with me either. Today during lunch she was on her phone for 45 min out of 50 min. She just kept me sitting there, and when i said i wanted to go sit with the guys she said no. I got really mad and just got up and left to go sit with them because i didnt want to just sit there and listen to her conversation. It was rude for her to be on the phone the ENTIRE lunch period (which is the only time i see her). Anyways, do you think i had the right to do what i did? I know it wasnt very nice, but shes been so mean to people and i thought she deserved it. What would you do in my position?
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It sounds like shes holding you back. I went to a new school in 9th grade and I made friends I only had for a while and realized they weren't going to be close friends. You have the right to sit wherever you want, so tell her you want to sit with the guys and she can come if she wants. If she's mad about it, tell her your sorry but you don't want to sit there and watch her talk on the phone and not talk to you. If she doesn't change her attitude then it's her loss.
Good luck,
-Abby
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i think you deffinently did the right thing. if she isnt being nice you to you then you shouldnt have to put up with it. you should do what you want... if that means making new friends or sitting next to those nice guys at lunch. dont let her hold you down!! good luck!!
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Yeah, you had the right to leave. I know it's mean, but your kinda deserved it. Your friend is very controlling and that sux. If I was in your position, I would've left too.
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Yes you had the right. i think I would do the same thing if I were in your position. You don't deserve to have a friend that's rude to you and your friends.
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oyu did the right thing by walking away... you know, if she thinks shes better than everyone else, then she need to be left alone, and eventually she will realize she needs you again, and that she needs you as a friend. but have you talked to her about it? she may have something that is bothering her, or have a problem at her house with her family or something.. and she just doesnt want to be hurt. i dont know, but some people dont know how to deal with stuff liek that and all they really need is someone to talk to.
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way-2-go . you did the right thing going and sitting w/ the other guys. it sound to me that your other friend is feeling insecure that nobody else will like her so she is trying to control you, (her only friend) so you wont move on and leave her behind. so maybe you should either talk to her, or forget abot her and move on. hope i helped!
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i am having the same problem w/ my friend and i think you made the right choice. if you have stoped liking her, and you like the other people better, then go sit with them. and it doesnt seem like she likes you so why are you hanging out w/ her? hope i helped
pinky :-P
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Good for you for getting up to go sit with the guys!! I don't know what this girls problem is, but it seems to me like she's trying to control you so that you won't have any other friends to hang out with! She doesn't sound like a good friend at all. I really do believe you did the right thing by going to sit with the guys. If this girl thinks she's better than everyone else, then let her be alone! I'm sure you'll find that these guys you're sitting with are going to be much better friends that the girl is. My suggestion is if you want to save your friendship with this girl (which I can't figure out why you would, but that is your business), I would suggest talking to her about how you feel. If you're okay with letting this "friendship" go, then just forget about her and go your own way. You're obviously a much better and nicer person than she is. Don't feel badly for leaving bad friends behind. You DEFINITLY did the right thing. Hope I could help! Good luck with your new guy friends!
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I'm glad that you walked away and honestly - you should've done it sooner! This girl has the idea that she can walk all over you without you saying anything so you can do three things:
1. Be the bigger person and simply tell her you don't want to be friends anymore and walk away.
2. Give a good piece of your mind about what you think of her and stop being friends with her.
3. Just let her walk all over you.
So it's up to you but if I were you, I'd dump her a.s.a.p and start hanging out with those two guys.
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