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I am fun and can give good advise wothout laughing. It may not always work but I will still do my best to anser honostly and fully. I have honestly had my fair share of problems in life and can use experience to anser problems.

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my boyfriend's birthday isn't until september, but i want to put a lot of thought into his present. i have no idea what to get him. please give me as many ideas as you can. he is a huge sports freak, so it could have to do with sports maybe or anything else. thank you soo much.

Somthing N.F.L. like a sports bag. Sports would be the way to go, or you could get him watch.

Hey guys,
I'm 15/f and I was wondering if you can buy wireless laptops anywhere, and if so how much would they cost? Also, would you pay for your internet service the same way as if it were a regualar computer? If anyone can, please let me know. Thank you so much :-)

Dell, circut city, best buy all of them have great laptops. I think you pay the same fo internet and all laptops come around the same price of 900$
Daisyswim

This might seem like im depressed but i really have nothing to be depressed about. At night I cry for no reason i just feel the need to cry. I start to realize that after the tears comes a rainbow but thats not exactly right becasue after i feel like i need to regret crying over nothing.Sometimes i stay up past 12 am and find reasons to cry and other times i try so hard not to cry. This doesnt give much detail and it might be hard to help me.. it can seem akward if you im me on my sn but it would be really great and nice to take sometime out and help me..my sn is xxloveablebabexx0 if im away then please leave me a message and ill im you when i get back. Thank you!! ill rate high!

Somthing I know for shure is that somthimes a girl just needs to cry. It is a part of growing up, just let the tears flow. I usuly feal better after a good cry. Hope I helped
Daisyswim

hey..
I have kind of a darker brunette color and im looking to dye my hair blonde. i want like a golden blonde.. or like britney spears in her my perogative video. the problem is that my mom said if i go to a pro to do it i have to pay for it myslef. and i really had my heart set on getting some new things for school. So if anyone knows any good brands of "do it yourself" dyes that actually work to dye brunette hair blonde.. id really appreciate it. and please dont say im stupid for wanting to dye my hair blonde.. caz im sick of the same old same old.. and i really need this. So please please give me some good brands that will work! thanks in advance.

Loryel works, just be carefull not stain your clothes
Daisyswim

I am 12 and a half and 4 weeks ago I hooked up with a boy named Luke and I really like him. Although I am supposed to go out with him I am really scared because when my mum will pick me up if she sees him, that she will abandon me from seeing him. I am scared to tell her that I have a boyfriend because I am scared that she wont allow me to see him. Please help!

A guy is a guy and even if you do like him then it best to be truthful with your mom. Even if you don't want her to be you mom will always be in your life, not some boy. Hope I helped, and sorry if I sound a little mean
Daisyswim

last night, i had a dream that i was showing my friend our old house (i actually lived there) and we went in the backyard and we had a big ravine in the backyard and we went to the bottom and a fox jumped out in front of us and ran into a path in the woods. then a coyote or a dog or a wolf or something, attacked the fox and bit its snout. the dog came after me but i kicked its head and he backed off. but right after i kicked him, he was really really friendly and he knew all commands one could ever think of!! its like he knew the english language. then the fox came back out and the dog was sitting next to me and i told him "get him boy!" and so the dog who i named Blaster, attacked his snout again. but no blood or killing. the fox ran away. then my friend seemed to just dissapear because i didnt see her in the dream anymore. then we were in a totally different house and my brother and sister were tossing my stuffed animal dog named Shultzie around and i got mad and told Blaster to attack them.he bit my brothers leg and my sisters arm. but my parents thought it was neccasary. haha. so then i walked in the kitchen of my dads house with blaster. i think i started crying just a little bit and my stuffed dog was all dirty and the collar broke off. then i looked ay blaster and petted him. then i woke up.

does this dream mean anything? i dont have a dog..could it mean im getting a dog? please answer. sorry it's so long. will rate a 5!

I am no dream expert but here goes. It could have somthing to do with how you are gaurding somthing inside, some secret that you are not telling your friend. The fox could represent that you want to tell the secret but the dog inside is bighting off the snout so it can't tell. Next part, Your brother and sister could be fighting, and you and you feal cought in the midle like your stuffed dog. Maybe your inner dog attacked them to get them off your back or maybe because you wnat them to settle it. Your parents might think it is a good idea for them to stop arguing. Your stuffed dog was dirty and you were crying, you felt torn and wished that you could have solved it using differendt meens. Like I said I am no expert but I gave it me best shot, hope I helped
Daisyswim

I have a guy friend and I think I like him... as more than a friend. What should I do? I don't know how to react around him.

Please!

I was un the exact sane situation last year. I had the hugest crush on my best friend! It was weird but I jsut went with the flow. Act norrmal if you do he will see the best in you. Do not tell, at least not yet it could ruin your friendship. My best friend and me never got together, evern though we got really colse and I am shure he has a crush on me now. My crush went away maybe yours will too. Hope I helped
Daisyswim

I am 11 and I weigh about 140 pounds. I really try to not eat junk food but it is really hard. And I am always hungry!! Do you have any advice??

The key to still getting to eat junk food and then not gain, in to only eat a little. It's ok, I eat junkfood all the time, I just eat it in moderation. Become aware of what you eat, look on the back of all the boxes, and or packages and eat only a serving. Whatever you do be ok with the way you look, if you think you look hevey then look again your eyes can be deseving. Do not use the scale too much, it can damage you self asteme. If you are always hungry then pick up a hobby, swim, play spots, jog, anything that can get you moving. Whatever you do, do not let it take over your life, do not become Anorexic, it looks worse then a little husky. Go to your friends for suport, they are the best people to talk too if you know that they will lisson and have a helping hand. Do not compare yourself to those women on magazens, they are to skinny, be avrage, it's the best to be. Hope I helped and if I didn't I am realy sorry. Peace be with you
~Daisyswim~

well at school we are getting to choose electives and i want to do choir, but i have heard from someone (call him R) told me you have to try out and he said i wouldnt make it!!! it really hurt my feelings. i was just wondering should i still do choir??

Hurt in Hawaii :)

The best part about choir is you don't have to try out. Even is you don't sing that well ( like I do) then you can get better. Tell R that he is a pea brian that he should read my Persuasive Essay and try to understand the first line. Stand tall you have the guts to try
~Hamburger-stealer~

15/f
well i have this friend and i love her to , but i m afraid to tell her that i m . cause if i do she mite stop being mi fiend!! what should i do??

A friend will except you for whatever you are. If she dosen't then she may not be the best friend for you. She hopfuly will except you for whatever and whoever you are.
~Daisyswim~
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i have a really mean evil stepdad, and he is like the laziest most selfish guy on the planet!!! he says do stuff for others but he never does stuff for me!!! i him with all my heart!!! what should i do???

It doesn't matter what your step-dad is like, it just matters what you are like. As long as you are a kind and carring person it won't matter in the end and you will end up on top. Believe in your self and good luck
~Daisyswim~

well i have a friend who has a better rating than me and i have been on it alot longer than her!!! so i asked her a question and i rated her a 3 when it should have gotten a 5, but i later changed it to a 5!! what should i do!!

If you made it right in the end, then all should be forgiven. No worries, forgive and forget as I always say. yes, she won't mind

i just got my ears pierced, andmy earrings hurt whenevr i talk on the phone any advice??

My advise is, let your holes grow in. That's just my opininon considering I don't belive in putting a hole in my body.

i have this friend and she is really nice but some of my friends think she is annoying and i just want everyone to get along!! wat should i do??

Somtimes friends can be annying, but you are still there friend. If your other friends don't like her much then it is ok. Annoyingness is somthing everyone has we just have tow ork threw it. Tell her to lay of the lame jokes of what ever is bugging people.Good luck
Daisyswim

sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her?

Oh I am so sorry!!! This is not your fault, you should be scarred but you will get threw this. First, you should talk to your mom. It may be a little scary, but you should do this. Your mom will belive you. Next tell her about your step-dad, and step-bro hitting you. Tell her it is true about the rappings show her the test, I don't care what but get her to belive you!!!!!! A mom is a mom and you are her child, she should protect you. No matter what happens you should come first to her not a man. Your steps should could go to jail for this you know. Try to keep a cool head what ever happens just know I am here if you ever need to talk. Please just try to get threw this without to many tears. If ever the world seems to much then your mom will be there for you. Good luck, be strong, and goodbye
~Daisyswim~

hey, how can i get a guy to notice me and to like me. my friend said i should get my ears pierced and wear dangly earrings to help me get moticed but so far its not working!!!!! can you help??

Be yourself. What I did was become friends with my crush befor any major moves to be shure i like him. Friendship is the best way to go. Even if doesn't work out between you two you will always have a friend who is a guy. I have plentty of x crushes who are my friends and it is great ( they didn't know who I was until I starrted hangging out with them)

i want to dye my hair out of a box as opposed to getting it done professionally. is this a bad idea?

It's not a bad idea, but it's not the best idea either. The box is cheaper, but it may not look as good, wheil pro. is expencive but really looks good. It's really your call personally I wouldn't die my hair at all natural is better. Do what you think is best, you don't worry about ratting me
Daisyswim

i really like this guy, and i have heard ors that he might like me. i heard them about a month ago. but now thanx 2 some blabbermouthed friends, he knows. i havent really talked to him since. cause i used to occasionally flirted w/ him. but now.... i dont know wat 2 do!!!! help!!!

Talk to him. A guy may not always want to talk about his fealings but, if you really like him then he should. No matter what happens try to stay friends, freidships last longger then boyfriends so keep that in mind. Hope I helped don't bother ratting me,
Daisyswim
There is more to life then a guy. You may like him but all the same you need to experiense all the fish in the sea, things may work out between you two and they may not. Hope I helped a little more

a used to have this friend (E) and she was nice, but now she is mad at me and my friend (S) for no reason. and she has been mad at S for two days, and today she got mad at me. all of us, me, S, and E, were going to do something for the lipsync, but now she has turned trator and joined (L)'s team with a song she doesnt even like just so she wouldent have to be w/ us!!! and now for a school project we are in the same group!!! and to say the least she is being a b****!!!!!! i keep telling myself it will blow over but now i m unsure!!!

~amanda

PS: sorry for the length!!!

A,
You need to know that it is ok to be mad at your friends. Sometimes, things need to blow over, but other times you need to know when your friendship is going the rong way. Being mad, and then beig friends again is ok as long as it dosen't get out of hand. If it dose then all you can do is hang out with other friends, (I know you have plentty) The project, just work your hardest with your team C and try not to let a fight get in the way of a grade. Remember our deal, good luck and you know where to find me
K

My boyfriend and i have been going out for a while now and he wants to do more things then hug/hold hands.. he wants to kiss/make out and i have never done that before.. so my question is how do you actually make out and what do ou do with your tongue and mouth thanks i rate 5's

Women inganewidty, you'll know what too do, dont' do it if you don't feal comfortable. The time will come and you will be ready.

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