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E-mail: x0melkneex0@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Leesburg, Florida
Occupation: Student
Age: 16
AIM: impulse xox
Yahoo: guiltypleasures_o6
Member Since: July 18, 2004
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Last Update: August 14, 2004
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Have you ever had a orgasam?How old were you if you did?

yes i have. i was 15.

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My friend just told me today.. that she ALWAYS throws up after she eats. As much as I'd love to help her, I just dunno what to say. Cuz she might get mad. I don't want anything bad to happen to her. The past couple days shes been telling me that shes been haveing bad stomach pains and she feels sick ALL THE TIME. I wanna help her, I don't wanna make her mad and say the wrong thing though. Should I just forget about it, and let her live her life the way she wants it? What would you do? Please I need help.. =(

*amYy.. my AIM sn is NaInErZzZ

no, don't continue letting her do that to herself. it's not safe. you need to tell an adult as soon as possible so she can get some help and be back on the road to recovery. she'll thank you in the long run.

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ok my boyfriens thinks that i am pregant because i have been complaing about my stomach hirting. and i tryed to tell him that its not that because i havent fucked in like 3 mouths. so what should i tell him....?most importantly how am i gonna get a test with out my parents seeing it.....? they still think that i am a virgin!!!!
help me please becasue i cant lose him!!!!!

you can get a test at your local walmart or even a convenience store, and you can pay for it there then go straight to the bathroom and take the test. your parents don't have to see it, if you take it there. and you should tell your boyfriend you're not pregnant. if he doesn't believe you, let him come with you while you take the test, that'll prove to him.

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i had unprotected sex with my bf..and then like a week later i got my period...but i got my period like 2 weeks early....what does this mean?? i dont think im pregnant...am i?

it was stupid to have unprotected sex, to begin with. and no, you're probably NOT pregnant... but you're very lucky. next time use protection.

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Ok well i been wid mybf for over 9 months and i have been thinkin bout"IT" lol well i wanted to wait till i was like 16 but i dont think im gunna b able to wait that long cuz im 13 now turnin 14 next month but i feel im conforablen stuff n im almost definately positive my bf iz!! lol so my questions iz do u think i should or do u think im to young?!?!?!?! plz help!! thanx



~*~ Should I?!?!? ~*~

yes.

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hey ya'll ..i just turned 15 and i was just wonderin..when does your chest usually become fully developed?..like i'm a 34B & iduno i think that's small..but i'm already 15..is that guna b my chest size? or am i yound enough that i'm still developing?..=/..thanx xOx

don't worry, you got a ways to go before they stop growing, lol.

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i know that you told me to talk to him about it but see his mom is crazyyy!! and she wont let me talk or come near the kid... so i really cant and its been like 2 weeks and ive hooked up with 5 other guys sounds slutty but im not , i jus dont know what to do with myself but i give up now i wana b single and take time to heal..

to start with, no i don't think that sounds slutty. if you want to do that, then it's your own free will and you can do whatever you want. so don't think it sounds slutty, because the people that matter won't care. maybe you DO need time to heal though.. maybe you just need a little time off, ya know? and when you're ready you can get back in the game and it'll be fine. but if you really really like him, don't give up even if his mom IS crazy. okay? keep pushing. good luck.

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Ok mel what would you say if your ex-boyfriend had been tryin to call you all weekend and everytime he called you werent there and you never called him back. What if he was tryin to make a truss for treating you bad friday at school by inviting you to a movie. Please answer thanks MEL MEL.

Well, I don't know... Maybe she had been a little preoccupied because she screwed up, hit a pot hole, and got a flat tire and has been trying to get it all fixed ever since she hit it? just a guess. ;) i'm sure she'd still like to go to a movie with you sometime though... that is, if you still want her to go. just ask her, i'm sure she's not angry at you for treating her bad at school friday though. oh and about not calling you back? she probably was never informed that you had called. maybe she has a new cell phone number because her nextel was turned off? ask her. good luck.

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Hey, well my dad had a problem with smoking cigs years ago, and I caught him smoking again about 2 months ago. He told me not to tell anyone so I didnt. Then about a month and a half ago my brother went into the garage and found a pack of cigs. (They were my dads) I dont know why but I said to him, "Those are mine, dont tell dad." I told my dad about it and he said to keep that story. My brother again found more and I took the blame. I didnt feel right about lying to my brother and I thought he has a right to know, so today I told him about it. I feel bad now because my dad might get mad. Do you think I did the right thing? I'm not sure.

i think you did the right thing... Personally i wouldn't have taken the blame at all to begin with. Because if he thinks he can smoke again with no problems, then he should be able to take responsibility for it too. you don't have to take blame for things like that, even if it IS your dad. your dad might have a problem with cigarettes again... talk to him about it. if he gets mad then he's just being selfish. i applaud you, you did good!

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((I'm 15/f))I think i am ready for sex but im not all that sure cause sometimes i think about it and think that i might regret it in the future. I REALLY like this guy tho. Also, I'm kinda scared that it will hurt really bad and i'm scared that i might not know what to do. What do u think?

i advise that you don't have sex yet. you say you think about it and think that you might regret it in the future, and that's not a good sign. when you're ready you'll know it. don't feel pressured to do it just because everyone else is, alright? you're better than that.

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It doesn't seem like we have touched on this subject much. I know how contravercial it is...so please dont pass judgement on me. I want advice not a lecture. 2 years ago on Aug 8th I has an abortion. I was 7 weeks Pregnate. I strugle every day with the descion i made. This time of year is the worst though. I had no support from anyone who knew including the scumbag who I had sex with. I mad a rash descion. And to this day I know it was the wrong one. It was increadably selfish. I had more options but I took the easy way out. I should have taken responsibilty for my actions and I didn't. With all that said, my quetion is...what are my chances of being able to conceive a child again. Are they less...or does it make it more difficult becuase of the abortion. Please let me know any info or websites you may know of that can help me. Thanks for your help ! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

hey there! after i read your question i did a search on yahoo, and i found this site:
http://www.abortionfacts.com/
It has ALL kinds of things in there... I didn't take the time to look through them all, but if you don't find what you need then tell me and i'll search for you more. But i'm 98% positive that the abortion shouldn't affect anymore pregnancies. I'm sure you can still have more babies, so don't worry too much about it. I give you a pat on the back for feeling guilty about what you did, because that shows you care and have feelings. it might have been a rash decision but you can't take it back now, so don't stress over it too much, you'll be okay eventually. best of luck

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How much oes it usually cost to join the YMCA. I need to start going to a gym but I dont have that much money to spend on gyms. Thanks!

why go to a gym? everything you need is in the comfort of your own home :). isn't that weight off your shoulders? all you have to do is sit ups or run. nothing expensive.

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okay, my ex bf had sex with this girl like 3 yrs younger than him about 6 months ago, she gave it up to him really easily, they werent even going out or nething..then he asked her out like 2 months later..but then he broke up with her after like acouple weeks..now i hear that they are back together as "fuck buddies"..do u think he really likes her, or is just using her?

sounds to me like he's using her. oh well, it's their mistake not yours, don't get caught up in the crazyness.

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Hii.. im 13 years old, and im kinda changin my style. i wanna get a punkiish style, i've been taken guitar lessons for over 2 years... and now im in a band, and havn't really picked up the style yet, still stuck in that gurly faze... so i need some really good advice on like where to shop, and what kinda stuff i would buy... s0o can you please help me!!!! ~*~ i rate ~*~ thankx, lots of love

why are you trying to change your style from what you ARE to what you WANT to be? if you don't know what to buy already, then it's not you. you can't buy something because it's a certain style and then expect to be comfortable in it. be yourself, and i'm sure you'll be more successful. :)

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my mom and dad are getting a divorce...well its my cousins bday and she likes my toher cousins more (thats my age) so she chose her to sing at the wedding and made me not even be part of it i was really hurt..my mom got defensive..and like now my whole family hates her for divorving my dad and for bitching about it..and i feel like most of its my fault..i just feel like everything always is cuz my cousin thats gonna be in the wedding is perfect..and ive just always been a bad name to the family..i feel so guilty..i just need some advice..

i'm sure you're an awesomely brilliant, smart, beautiful, talented person. don't feel so bad. it's natural to be kinda down after stuff like that, but don't let depression get the best of you. it'll get better, i promise. it might not seem like it now, but it will. no worries. good luck! :x

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okay, I have this guy friend named "Joe" and we hav been frends for 5 years and alot of people say we shud go out , but we deny it! i like him and i wanna no how to no that he likes me before making a move. how can I find out he likes me? I rate!!!!

the easiest way is to get up the nerve to just ask him. don't be scared, if ya'll have been friends that long it shouldn't be too weird.

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ok well..is doggie style getting it up ur ass

exactly.

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my friend always tells me im her best friend, but she tells everyone else that too. im never in her info on AOL or nothing @ all! in her xanga its all about these other people like how much she misses them and stuff. what should i do about this problem??

it doesn't sound like much of a problem to me, really. maybe she does tell everyone else the same thing, but hey, only SHE knows the truth. and if she's not your best friend, then why are you so worried about it? maybe she doesn't have you in her AOL profile because she thinks you already know how she feels about you and she doesn't need to write about you? you never know.

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Who thinks Hilary Duff is fat?

why did you even take your time to ask this question? you probably don't like her, which makes you bitter to her looks. she's pretty, actually. and she's not fat. even if she was, none of us here have the right to judge her.. Only God, the man who made her, does, so get over it.

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I met this guy last week at choir camp. i really like him alot. he gave me his phone number, but i dont know what to say to him when i call. i am mostly afraid of calling and having one of thosse uncomfortable silences. Can you help me? i have no idea what to say to him when i call! PLEASE HELP! i am a 16 year old female. i dont really know him all that well.

if you like him, then give it a shot. just call him, girl! what have you got to lose? and anyways, if you both like each other then a conversation is bound to arise when you call him. and if you have one of those weird silences, then hey, maybe he stopped talking to think about you! ;) be positive. good luck, i hope it works out for you!

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