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Bulimec
My friend just told me today.. that she ALWAYS throws up after she eats. As much as I'd love to help her, I just dunno what to say. Cuz she might get mad. I don't want anything bad to happen to her. The past couple days shes been telling me that shes been haveing bad stomach pains and she feels sick ALL THE TIME. I wanna help her, I don't wanna make her mad and say the wrong thing though. Should I just forget about it, and let her live her life the way she wants it? What would you do? Please I need help.. =(
*amYy.. my AIM sn is NaInErZzZ
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Omg please help your friend out! I know from experiance. You are probably going to look at me of a very low perspective for telling you this but Im willing to take it because i want to help you out as much as i can and your friend! Okay so here it goes.
I was he same exact way. Mine may not be as bad but I was 15 years old weighing <107> which isnt bad and I was 5'4". It started out with skipping breakfast..then lunch...Then i ate very little of dinner. I lied telling my mom i ate at my friends house but ofcourse I didnt. One time my mom took me to burger king ad I ordered so much food so it looked like i was eating alot. Then before we went home she had to stop in the store so i told her i would wait in the car and eat since i wa soooo hungry. well what i really did was throw my food out the car window! I would do anything to stay away from food!! I kept it for a secret for so long. Well my teacher <who is my FAVORITE ONE> caught me throwing my lunch away. He caught me more than once and suspected something. so he told my counselor and they kept a close eye on me since I wouldnt let them inform my mom. Now since Everyone was watching me i was forced to eat MORE so thats when I stared to eat 10x more then threw up afterwards! My councleor and teacher would take me to a restarunt <that we had in our school> and it was like they were watching me eat!! My friend who is my BEST FRIEND IN THE ENTIRE WORLD told my teacher about what i was doing. Ofcourse I was mad at her in the begining but the more I relized what she just did the more i relized she did it becasue she cared. It takes guts to help a friend when you know they are going to be mad at you! Anyways My teacher, guidance counclor and my best friend knew what was going on and they still agreed to not tell my mom <thats another story because they know how she is and..> But later on in that day I was called down to the office and Thats the day I started to get help. Now I cant say im 100% better and I dont think I ever will. Theres one thing I do know and its how many people do care..such as my friend! Shes the one who helped me when I couldnt. I cant thank her enough for it either! My nails and hair arent brittle anymore. I dont have dark circles around my eyes. I can acctually concentrate in school and i get much better grades than i did last year and most of all I dont worry 24/7 about how fat I think I am <okay maybe sometimes I do, but like i said I dont think I will never be 100% better>
I hope you dont just forget about your friend and try and help her! I know you can help her out even if you just talk to her and confront her about how much you care for her and what ever you do DONT FORCE HER TO EAT MORE!! that will just make it worse thats like taking alll the drugs away from a druggie! they will go crazy!!! She has to gradually eat more durring a period of time.
Once again I hope I helped a little and if you have ANY QUESTIONS please im begging you dont hesitate to emial me or talk to me online. my s/n is chesneysgal3. I dont like giving my s.n out but I really want to help because no girl should go through this! It was the hardest thing in my entire life!
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hey amYy. this is a pretty hard question. let's see...the first thing you need to make sure your friend knows is that no matter what, she will always be beautiful in god's eyes! he loves her exactly how she is. and he created her to be everything she is! i don't know if you are a christian, or not, but either way, everyone needs to pray, and everyone needs to know that eating disorders are VERY dangerous! it's hard to talk to someone that thinks that they are doing the only possible thing to look beautiful. so you are right when you say that you need to be careful. explain to her that you care about her very much and don't want her to get hurt but you feel that puking isn't a very healthy way to make her self feel more confident. tell her how beautiful you think she is already. tell her how much you love her. tell her all of that. and if she still doesn't want to change what she is doing, then pray! everyone needs to pray. and prayer is ALWAYS helpful! god will never turn his back on you. no matter how much you feel you have screwed up. he will always love you!!! no matter what! don't just ignore this. be consistant. because you need to make sure that your friend understands how much danger she is in! this could hurt her very much. so don't let her just do it. make sure that you are always reminding her how beautiful she is, and how dangerous it is to puke daily! i'll pray too!!!good luck with your friend, amYy...((**mAlloRyJaNe**))
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Even though you are worried about making her mad you need to confront her and talk to her. She's going through a really rough time right now and the best bet is to get her to a hospital. Bulimia is very serious and is horrible. Tell her that she is scaring you and she needs help.
~Hope I was of Help~
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Tell her parents. Harsh, yes, but it might save her.
Bulimia is horrible. It ruins your teeth, your esophogus.... Not to mention malnutrition and dehydration.
Get her to a hospital. There are special hospitals all over that treat eating disorders among other mental problems (Self-injury, anxiety, depression etc.).
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Well tell her it scares you and that your worried for her, just talk to her about it and why she does it and all that. a lot of bad things could happen if she continues doing this, there are tons of sites online to help you look more into if you want, but its very serious, and if she doesnt stop when you talk to her, then you may want to tell an adult, or her parents. She should stop before she ends up with very serious concequences or she ends up dead. and it sounds like she is already not doing to well if shes having stomach problems now then she really should go to a doctor. :) hope i help
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i dont think its very safe to just forget about it because um like she could die so like i think u should tell some one
~jessica~
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Hey hunni I would talk to your friend about it and ask her why she is doing this stuff PRAY about it and then confrot her about it and then yall both PRAY together GOD answers PRAYers everything will work out for the better just have faith and believe in JESUS CHRIST!! tell me how it goes ! love ya always ~*+Kayla!+*~
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No you def.Dont want to forget about this.Your friend is hurting herself to the point where it can kill her.You need to talk to her and tell someone so she can get help whether she gets mad at you or not.Because if you dont do something your going to lose your friend by what shes doing to herself.This is a really serious problem and your friend needs some help.So dont even think twice about going to tell someone and quick before its too late for your friend.I hope ive helped because that is the right thing to do trust me.And if you need anything else let me know.Good luck with your friend.:-/
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IF ITS HER EATING AND THEN THROWING UP SHE HAS AN EATING DISORDER AND ITS CALLD BULIMIA, AND SHE SHOULD REALLY CONSULT AN DOCTOR...RIGHT AWAY! IM SORRY YOU HAD TO KNOW THAT BUT PLEAZ HELP HER!
-STEPHANIE
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I have been through the same thing but i was the one suffering.. I ahd an eating disorder... I personally think you should tell her how you feel and look some stuff up online so you know more information and tell her about it... I am sure that she will appreciate it... Also i would tell her parents so they know about it and they can do more to help her...But if you have anymore questions about you can im me BeachGurl31187.. Good Luck!
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you have to do something, even if it's to just tell her parents - warn her that the acid in throwing up can ruin your teeth and your esophagus and you don't get nutrients that your body needs!! i had a friend who had an eating disorder and i didn't kno what to do so i didn't do nething cuz i didn't feel it was my place to do nething and after she got help she told me she wished i would've said something and i always wonder what would've happened if i did........
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I think you should do some research about bulimia, print it up and find pictures and stuff of girls with this disorder, print them up and show her what this is doing to her. Maybe write her a letter telling her how you feel about it. Make it a sweet letter and let her know what she is doing isnt right, try asking her if you can take her to a doctor or someone to help her. Let her know that you are there for her and that You want to help. Best wishes to you.
-holly-
hope i helped
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Hi,
I understand this is a very difficult situation for you, as her friend to be in. The thing is sometimes in life the right thing to do is not to say, well that's their choice and that's that. You're friend is ill, this is a medical condition that can and does kill people. Talk to your friend explain that you can't do nothing and plead with her to get help. If she won't - you tell someone, her parents would be the obvious choice. I understand how you would feel doing this, as if you've violated your friends trust and I understand she may well be furious with you - BUT it's the right thing to do and as a true friend you've got to do it and hope she appreciates that, or comes to in time.
Derfel
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no, don't continue letting her do that to herself. it's not safe. you need to tell an adult as soon as possible so she can get some help and be back on the road to recovery. she'll thank you in the long run.
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well wether or not your friend wants it she needs help. i would confront her about it cauz it's serious. tell her that your there for her.
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Please try to convince her to tell her parents. Bulimia is a serious problem, and you really need to confront her about it. Believe me i know from experince. Think of it this way, would you rather have a dead friend or one thats may get mad at you for a short time but in the end will thank you for what you did? Well i hope this helped
<3 xox britt
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definitly don't let it go. People can get real sick from being bilmeic! You should talk to her about it first... ask her if there is anything u can do that would convince her to stop. You can also tlak to someone like an adult u really trust. If your scared your friend will find out ur talking about her to someone.. then u can ask the person to keep it between u and tehm for now.. until u feel like u have a plan to help her or something... hope i helped.. if i did.. you can always leave one in my inbox!
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no your friend needs serious help bulimea is a serious eating disorder and i wonder how long this has been going on. it's not healthy and can lead to problems later in life from all the throwing up, it wears down the lining in your stomach. In fact that might be why she is having stomach pains but i'm not sure. she should see a doctor so that she can from there get proffesional help.
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