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im not all that sure i am ready for sex?
((I'm 15/f))I think i am ready for sex but im not all that sure cause sometimes i think about it and think that i might regret it in the future. I REALLY like this guy tho. Also, I'm kinda scared that it will hurt really bad and i'm scared that i might not know what to do. What do u think?
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This is what I think
Before you have sex MAKE SURE IT'S WITH THE RIGHT PERSON! If your for sure he is the right one then let him know this is your first time and you might not know what to do. If he care about you he wouldn't mind that you are inexperienced. And it will hurt. That's just apart of sex. If your too worried about pain and if you keep having doubts then most likely your not ready. My opinion is you should WAIT UNTIL YOUR IN LOVE. Because if you want to have sex because your tired of being a virgin, you will regret it in the future I promise you. If you need more advice just message me. I hope my advice helped!
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Ok.
So, is the boy trying to talk you into having sex with him?
If so, i wouldn't give it up to him..
If not, then i think you might be ready as long as you trust him, talk to him about it, and know him well enough..
the pain varies.
it might hurt like hell or it might not hurt at all.
either way it's something you can never get back.
if you trust this boy enough then sit down and talk to him beforehand and make sure he doesn't just want to "hit it then quit it" because i've experienced that!
i hope my answer helped you a little bit.
Good luck.
-Kissme623.
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take it from me if you really like a guy and you not dating dont do it. unless you are in love not like its not the best idea for your first time. your young becareful , are you on the pill if not then you need to wait till you are.
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If you are doubting having sex and are worried that you will regret it in the future, that should be a clear enough red flag that you are not ready and should not go through with it. You are too young to be having sex anyways. Kids your age have sex to fit in and because they think that they're ready and they usually end up regretting it.
Also, losing your virginity is going to hurt no matter what age you are. You could be 15, or 25, or 40 even and it'll hurt. Better suck it up.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than fore the boy. At 15 you are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always must have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
Before you make your decision please review the following website.
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If you are having any regrets at all about sex, Then you are not ready.
Sex is something that should come when you are truly ready and fully and completely trust a person who is faithful too you and you have been with for a long time and that being said over a 6 month time period.
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If you think you'll regret it then you
probably aren't ready there's no law that says a person has to have sex at a certain time plus your
young anyways you don't seem confident about it & you seem unsure and unexperienced so i wouldn't do it if i were you i'd wait until your more mature & you feel one hundred percent confident your ready to have sex(:
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if you think you MIGHT regret it, then you aren't ready. just cause you like the guy doesnt mean you have to have sex for him to like you back. plus you're only 15...wait until you are truly positive you are ready.
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i have a 3 words answer for you "don't do it!" it's as simple as that -Macy (rate me!)
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Really...everyone is PYSICALLY ready to have sex..but mentally..you have to determine that one out on your own..Because your right you could lose it to a guy..then a week later he never talks to you again and im pretty sure you'd regret it...But you do what you want to do...It's your decision...your the one who knows if your mentally ready or not...Hope i helped...Natalie
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If you arent sure if ur ready then dont do it. Cuz most likely you prob. will regret it in the future .. i think 15s to young to be having sex but thats my opinion but if u reall want to make sure ur really like the guy A LOT! OR maybe wait a year or 2.. sorry thats all i can say good luck ...
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laura
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i think that you should do what ure heart tells you...it will hurt but thats something ure going to have to go through
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no babe. no way. sex can wait. if this guy really likes u he will wait 4 u.
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If you think you will regret it in the future, then your not ready for sex. To me it seems that your body and brain are conflicting with each other. Your body is ready for sex, but mentally, your not. Here's how i see it, you say you really like this guy .... you should love the guy your having sex with. It makes sex better. Also, about the pain thing, the first time, it's always painful, but it doesn't hurt as bad as you think. And eventually, it starts to feel good, once your body is over the shcok of something different in your body. And with sex, everything comes naturally. If you are confused about anything, go to [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) It's not a porn site, it is a site that gives information to women and men just like you.
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I honestly think you should wait. Wait until that special person comes into your life. Wait until you're married, otherwise, you'll regret it. I was 17 when I first had sex and, yes, I married that person but I regret it because the night of my wedding it wasn't as special as it could have been. Your first time having sex will hurt and you'll bleed from it a little but after that it doesn't hurt. I hope this helps!
Crystal
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in my opinion i dont think that you should have sex at that age. what if it ends up that you get pregnant or catch an std...then you'll really regret it. dont throw your life away and have sex and this early of an age... hoped i helped *gabby*
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If you only think you're ready,you're not. The first time you have sex,yes it's gunna hurt. But you know what to do,you know the birds and the bees. At 15,no you don't like this guy enough to have sex with him.
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Personally, I wouldn't have sex, especially @ ur age (which also happens 2 be my age too). Even tho u may really like this guy, I don't mean 2 sound mean, but ur most likely gonna eventually get hurt and then later regret the whole thing. It's best 2 just wait until marriage, cuz even tho it may be hard (I totally understand how hard it is), @ least u know ur with sum1 u love and who loves you back. You may not like my advice, but frankly, its prolly the best way 2 go if u think that u may regret having sex w/ him.
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*Follow your heart on this one, it's up to you, not other people.*
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It kind of refers to the quote "Out of sight out of mind" because when you have sex when your young it lingers for a while on your mind, but within weeks you really don't think about it. But I will say once you do have sex, it becomes that much easier for you to say yes to that same guy again, and when your a bit older it makes it that much easier to say yes to more males. I am a male and I had sex at a young age, I wish I never did because then I got the idea that sex was fun and that since girls were willing to have sex with guy I would be willing to have sex with more girls.
Chris
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I think u should wait if ur havin second thoughts on sex. You should do it with someone very close and special to u. Everything that happens during sex happens naturally, you don't have to b scared about u not knowing what to do
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look i mean (this is just me) i think that if ur not sure to have sex then wait i mean it wont hurt anyone and dont get pressured just tell him that your not ready and u wanna wait. I think hell axcept that and if he doesnt..is he really worth it at all?
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OK, I am going to start out by asking... what are your feelings for this guy (like or love?) Secondly, how does he feel back? Like, how does he treat you? And finally, how long have you been together? I believe that sex should only be 'had' if love is the case from BOTH parties. There are too many possible side effects from having sex. Not to scare you, but it WILL hurt you really badly, because your body isn't used to that type of "activity." I personally, don't believe that you are ready. If you are having all of these worries and doubts, you shouldn't even be thinking about sex.
Well, this is all I can think of right now, but if you need anything else, you have my name.
Good luck (stay safe)
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you clearly have doubts, so your not ready yet. your 15, if you love this guy and he loves you then he should respect your decision and you should be comfortable with making that decision. i think you should wait untill you have no doubts and untill you know you wont be regretting it in the future. also, if you think any consequences that could negativly change your life could result from it, then don't.
so my advice-don't do it.
hope i help.
curiousgeorge997
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Well, i'm 14 but i'm one of those weird teenagers that talks to her mother about these things. No, i'm not saying talk to your mom. That's your own choice. But, I can tell you that if you are having second thought about sex..dont do it. You definitly will regret it if you aren't 100% sure you want to. Make sure it's something you really want to do. And as far as it hurting..im not going to lie to you. It might. I really might i've read and read about that and i've heard everything there is to know. Sex hurts depending on who the person is. Yes, it hurts but it's a common thing so if you go through with it the most you can do to stop the pain is just stop having sex. I'm sorry that's all i could do to help you. Remember to make sure you are 100% sure you are ready to do this before you do it. Good luck!
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i advise that you don't have sex yet. you say you think about it and think that you might regret it in the future, and that's not a good sign. when you're ready you'll know it. don't feel pressured to do it just because everyone else is, alright? you're better than that.
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if u think ur ready, then maybe you should hav sex with... this guy. but hav u talked 2 him bout it? what if he doesn't want 2? (he prolly will. im jus sayin.) Good Luck *Samantha*
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First of all.. if you should have any doubts, then your probably not ready. Second of all, you have to remember that you hold your virginity in your hands and if you have sex, its gone. Everyone is scared or thinks about it hurting the first time, and no one can really tell you if it will hurt or not, because every one is different. When its your first time, some or most people dont know what to do, but the best thing is to just go with the flow. That doesn't mean that you have to do what the guy wants you to do, it just means that if its something you want to do, then you have to learn like anyone else.
Celeste
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