I am a virgin but I'm still pretty young (16). My boyfriend has had sex before and he's a little older than me (18). He asked recently if we can start having sex. I love him a lot but he doesn't know I'm still a virgin. I don't want to be embarrassed and tell him about it but I heard that if we have sex then I will bleed on him. That sounds a lot more embarrassing to me.
So, I want to tell him that I haven't had sex yet. How do I tell him this without making him mad, upset, or afraid? I do want to have sex with him and I love him a lot so I know he deserves to know but I don't want to scare him off or make him mad that I haven't told him sooner.
What are the right words?
This is what I think
Ok first off if he get's mad when you tell him you are a virgin that means he wasn't the right guy anyways! There is no reason to get mad. So with that being said just come right out and say it. Just say "Baby (or whatever you call him), I'm still a virgin". It's not your fault if your still a virgin so if he get's mad I think you should just leave him alone and NOT have sex with him. But don't tell him while you are naked and about to have sex lol. Tell him way before then. I hope my advice helped! If you need more advice just message me!
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So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year.
The thing is, sometimes we'll have a shitload of fun together and I'll be the happiest human in the world. Those days, we'll have good conversations, probably spend a lot of time together, and just have a lot of fun wherever it is that we go. But then there'll be other times when things between us are just tense and we'll just have a very heated argument about stuff that's barely even important (probably because we're both stubborn and refuse to change our minds). Or on weekends, he won't even bother communicating (calling, AIM) for days in a row. On those days, I'm just asking myself why we're even together.
What the hell do I do? I feel like our relationship has bipolar disorder or something.
This is what I think
This is exactly how me and my ex boyfriend were! Well I made the dumbest decision and broke up with him! Don't mess up like I did. You two need to sit down (face to face) and talk all of your problems out. NO ARGUING! Just talk and if you feel like you are about to get mad just excuse your self for a couple of minutes and calm yourself down. Y'all seem like you have a GREAT relationship and trust me you don't want to lose that because it hurts when the person you really care for and love is gone! Well hope my advice helped. Write back and tell me how it goes!
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18f. this might be a little long, but i will be so appreciative if you could give me any advice, i can't stop thinking about this.
so i've never had a serious boyfriend before, never had a real boyfriend at that. i don't want to sound conceited but all these guys want me and everyone thinks i'm pretty but i tend to push guys away because i have a bit of a trust problem.
well i recently met this guy nick. he's so different then anyone i've ever liked before. most guys i've liked are jerks and haven't even cared much about how i felt, didn't go out of there way for me, but they were hot. now nick is the complete opposite..
i've only known nick for a few weeks and he's such a good guy, any girl would be lucky to have him. he bought me dinner, he covered me with a blanket when i fell asleep at his house, i went to the beach with him and met all his friends and he never once left me so i wouldn't feel awkward, he comes from a great family, just the little things that he does for me i love about him and im so comfortable around him. i went to his house with no make-up on and he still thought i looked beautiful. theres just one big problem .. i'm not really attracted to him physically :(
everyone says looks aren't important but shouldn't you be attracted to the guy you're with? we're not dating or anything .. yet but i'm just so use to being really attracted to the guys i like and when people say they want to see a picture of him i'm like aaaahhh..
i feel so selfish, so self-centered for feeling this way. he's not ugly but he's not hot either. i don't know what to do. i don't want to lose him, i think about him all the time but i don't know if i can go on with someone without being SO attracted to them. everyone always told me i would end up with some hot model as a boyfriend and i feel like i'm somehow going to disappoint everyone .. but i feel like it shouldn't be about looks and i can't get over that.
can someone please tell me what you think i should do??
This is what I think
Ok I know what you mean by having to be attracted to the guy you want to be with. Well let me tell you a little story. I had a boyfriend who wasn't ugly but he wasn't hot either. I showed my friends pictures of him and they always said I could do better. Well eventually I thought to myself this is my life not theirs. I love him and that's all that matters. So with that being said f-word what people say. I think you are too worried about what your friends think. If you really like this guy looks shouldn't be oh so important. If you go based off of how someone looks all the time, you will never find anyone (not trying to be harsh). So I think you should go for it! He seems like a great guy so do you really want to lose someone like that? Hope my advice helped! Write back and let me know how it goes!
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what will happen to my son if he keeps dating his girlfriend when he turns 18 and she will be 14
This is what I think
Let's just say she gets mad at him and they break up. Some girls are childish at that age and she can say he raped her or anything of that sort. I think it's best they go their separate ways until she gets older. Hope my advice helped!
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alright my friends are way to over protective.
i like to hang with guys thats just me. even with my bf its hard to even hug.
like seriously they need to learn its my choices and who i hang with
what should i do
This is what I think
It's nice you have friends who care about you but it's your life not theirs!!! Just let them know that in a respectful manner. You have to learn stuff on your own. And if they get mad at you for that then that means you need better friends. But if they are your true friend they will understand! I hope I helped! message me if you need anymore advice!
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so i like this guy. and i guess he could just tell that i liked him. he went to one of my friends and was like i think blah likes me. and my friend was like yeah i kind think so too. and he was like yeah me too. and then he went to my other two friends and told them that someone told him that i liked him. i do like him. i think he went to my friends to confirm it. i do like him but i dont think he likes me because if he did he would talk to me. and he doesnt act like it. i would ask him but im to shy to do it and i dont like to get rejected straight to my face. and i dont want my friends to get into it. so what do you think?
This is what I think
Boys can be shy too. So don't you think you won't get anywhere if you just sit there and not do anything about it? I used to be very very shy and I hated being rejected. But one day I got tired of not knowing. So I just went up to the guy I liked and told him I like him. He ended up liking me too! So see you never know until you try! Just try! Even if you get rejected just know he lost a good thing and just move on to the next one! I hope I helped! Be sure to write back and let me know how it goes!
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F/17
For years I've been shaving down there, and basically I need a way to stop getting red bumps and cuts.
I use a new razor almost everytime, and I use anti-bump gels. I can't figure out the best way, I think my skin is just too sensitive. Is it better to wax? And what strips are recommended?
Any ideas?
Thanks :)
I had the same problem! What I did was find razors that are for women with sensitive skin. The bumps stopped coming up. But with the cuts, you just have to be extra careful when shaving.
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ok..... welll i read your column of how to tell my mom i had my period but the problem is that she overreacts
once i waited only 2 days to tell my mom i needed a bra and she flipped out its been about six months now from my first period and i have no clue how to tell her with out being grounded or killed or kicked out she over reachs to everything
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Periods are natural. You did nothing wrong! Every girl has a period! You can't get in trouble trust me! And you have to tell your mother as soon as possible so she can get you the proper things you need. You had no control over this so remember you can't get in trouble! Just go up to her and say "Mom I started my period". And sometimes mothers get very sentimental because this is a sign their little girl is growing up. I remember when I first started my period my mom took me out to eat and we just talked. So tell your mom! WELCOME TO WOMANHOOD! If you need more advice just message me! I hope my advice helped!
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((I'm 15/f))I think i am ready for sex but im not all that sure cause sometimes i think about it and think that i might regret it in the future. I REALLY like this guy tho. Also, I'm kinda scared that it will hurt really bad and i'm scared that i might not know what to do. What do u think?
This is what I think
Before you have sex MAKE SURE IT'S WITH THE RIGHT PERSON! If your for sure he is the right one then let him know this is your first time and you might not know what to do. If he care about you he wouldn't mind that you are inexperienced. And it will hurt. That's just apart of sex. If your too worried about pain and if you keep having doubts then most likely your not ready. My opinion is you should WAIT UNTIL YOUR IN LOVE. Because if you want to have sex because your tired of being a virgin, you will regret it in the future I promise you. If you need more advice just message me. I hope my advice helped!
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16 and 17 year old girls, what are your opinions on and experiences of sex?
Being a 16 year old girl turning 17 in two months, and still a virgin, and also the kind of girl people assume have had sex, I'm definitely not comfortable with my lack of experience, and can't come up with any reasons why I havn't had sex except for, well, it just hasn't HAPPENED.
So I'm interested to know what other girls my age think. Have you had sex or are you a virgin? If you're a virgin, what are your reasons and how do you feel about it? If you've had sex, how did you lose your virginity, what is your sex life like now and how do you feel about it?
A lot of detail (though obviously I'm not asking for anything too personal or graphic, just your thoughts on the subject) because I really hate being a virgin at my age, and would like to know what your views are.
I'd really appreciate answers, thankyou!
Well I'm 16 and I'm a virgin. I think the reason why is because I'm waiting for the right guy to come. A lot of guys did me wrong in the past and that's all they wanted from me. So that's when I decided I'm going to wait until I'm in love. And there is so many diseases going around these days so I want to be very careful who I decide I want to have sex with.
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19/f
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I am so in love with him. We are very serious and I see an amazing future with him - but theres just one problem.
I's not that big of a deal but he has a little bit of a wandering eye. While I know he would never cheat on me, he constantly tells me which girls he thinks are "total babes" and which celebrities he would love to get with. I know this is normal, but it makes me uncomfortable and insecure. When we go to the beach, he stares at other women. Just the other day he took one of my lingerie catalogs and was drooling over the girls while I was sitting right next to him. When I get mad or upset about it he just laughs or blows me off.
And it's started to make me feel like I'm not enough, and that's why he looks elsewhere. I used to be very confident and outgoing but now I feel like if I were just skinnier or had bigger breasts that maybe I could keep his attention. Now I feel uncomfortable having him see me naked and he complains all the time. He gets frustrated because I won't stay naked after sex or strip for him.
I tried explaining to him why I've gotten so insecure and how him gawking at other girls bothers me but he laughed it off or changed the subject. It's embarassing, I don't know how else to go about it.
I realize he is portrayed in a negative light in this question but he really is amazingly sweet, caring, funny and and all-around great boyfriend. I know he's in love with me and I want to be with him but hate feeling this way. How can I solve this issue?
Thanks for all who reply.
This is what I think
Guys always look at other females. No matter how in love they are. It's just in their blood. I used to feel the same way! But i learned to just tune them out or change the subject. Hope this advice helped! Message me if you need more advice!
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im pretty good friends with a lad in my class and i think i like him a little bit if you know what i mean haha. he does things that makes me think maybe he does like me but im not sure, maybe you guys can help me.
- when hes got his ipod on he always sings arts of the songs to me.
- when ever i look at him across the room hes usually looking at me,a then he smiles or pulls a silly face so that we both laugh.
- he tends to tell me random storys about his life.
- when ever he can he comes an sits as close as possible to me.
but weather hes just doing all these thigs because were friends i dont know, and by the way he doesnt know that i like him as more than a friend.
This is what I think
Ok guys are VERY confusing. So the best way to figure this out is to ask him! I know you may be nervous to and I don't blame you because I used to be the same way. But one day I decided to grow some balls (not literally). So you can't worry about what he will say. Just ask him because he could like you or he may be doing this because you both are friends. I have a lot of guy friends who treat me like that. And remember boys can be shy too so if he does like you, maybe he's nervous to tell you. Hope my advice helped! Message me back and let me know how it goes!
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Female,13.Hey , umm I like this guy and I flirted with him and he flirted back, but when I asked him out he wasnt single!!!! So I was crushed. Then next semester, he still wasn't single and he started flirting with my play sister and his play brother started flirting with me so then a few months after that, my new crush asked my play sister out and said yes. Now she isn't single, im single, my ex crushes arnt single, and im the only one ,and another one of my play sisters in the clique, are single. So should I be jealous of them who have bf's and gf's?
This is what I think
Being single isn't so bad. It gets boring sometimes though. You shouldn't be jealous of your friends. I know it's hard because when I was in the 9th grade i was single and my friends were always lovey dovey up with their boyfriends in the hall. It used to get on my nerves so bad. And it was worse for me because I was in the 9th grade and they do way more then 13 year olds. But anywho I got over and just started talking to different guys getting to know them. When you get to know guys instead of rushing into a relationship you will be more likely to stay with that person for longer. So just ignore your friends when you see them with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Just know one day you will find a great guy! if you need more advice just message me. Hope my advice helped!
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I'm 14 and I'm a girl. I started going out with this guy a week ago and I thought he really liked me. But I found out that the first time we kissed that he got paid to do it. I really like him though and I want it to work but I'm not 100% sure of what to do. Oh I'm one grade above him but were the same age. Please help?
This is what I think
If a guy get's paid to kiss you that means he really didn't want to kiss you which can also mean he is not into you. Why would you want something to work out with someone who is not into you like your into them? I know you can't control how you feel about him but just try to move on. If you need more advice just message me.
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I'm 16 year old girl from the us. So last night I was with my boyfriend and we had a great time. I came home and went to bed and had the strangest dream. I dreamt that I made out with my best guy friend Brendan because he just broke up with his girlfriend. and I normally don't remember my dreams but i remember it in detail. and in real life he actually just broke up with her too. what did this dream mean? it doesn't make any sense to me. ive always cared about Brendan but we've always had a brother sister relationship. idk what to do.
This is what I think
Sometimes dreams doesn't mean anything. Stop worrying about it so much and focus on your BOYFRIEND! Like you said, you and Brendan are just FRIENDS. If he tries something with you just let him know that before something happens that shouldn't. If you need anymore help just message me. Hope everything works out and stop worrying so much. Everything will be fine.
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So, to make this short there is this boy who my friend dated while ago, prolly over 5 months ago. She got over him, and she now has a boyfriend. Well, her ex, "Paul" and I have been talking quite a bit, and have been harassing each other for a long time. We both decided that we didn't want eachother, and that we were just friends because ALL of our friends said that we acted like we were dating. So, I went over to his house, and he and I kissed, and it was like a fire was lite in my stomach! I was in a state of euphoria for about 2 days after we kissed, and it was just amazing. He agreed and said that it was equally as amazing. Now here is the hard part, he keeps going all weird. Like, not talking to me and acts like he wants nothing to do with me. We dated for a day, and he said he couldn't do it becuase he was still in love with my friend, his recent ex. So I said, fine I respect that, and then he said he really likes me, so we are "complicated". He keeps wanting sexual things, to which I say NO, and he is persistant! Its annoying, but I like him SO much I dunno what to do. Do I just wait and go with the flow? Or do I assume he just wants me for sex? If you need anymore info, just comment and I will fill in any holes! Thanks!
This is what I think
Ok I went through the same thing recently so I know how it's going to end up and it's not good! I betrayed my friend for a BOY! In the end all he wanted was sex and I realized I made the biggest mistake because I messed up a great friendship with my friend for a guy who just wanted sex. My advice to you is to leave him alone completely! Even if your friend is over him it's still not right to be messing around with her ex because she is your friend! Just trust me on this one because if you continue to mess around with this guy you will get a bad name and your feelings with get hurt. If you need more advice just write back. I wanted to give you this advice because I don't want this happening to anybody else because that was a painful experience!
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my friend is a 12/f
she is dating a 16/m
they have been hiding it from EVERYONE for a month a 3 days. they want to wait to tell their parents when they think the time is right.
so she told me that if they ever wanted to kiss or be alone they had to go into a closet at their church.
so do u have any advice for her. thank you in advance.
This is what I think
Ok your friend is too young to be dating a 16 year old. I didn't date a 16 year old until I turned 14. I think they should take a break and wait until she's older and more mature. I'm not saying she's not mature but just look at it this way. HE IS 16! SHE IS 12! Do you really think he is being completely faithful to a 12 year old when there are so many girls who are his age and more developed? You have to think about that kind of stuff. I'm not trying to get on your friend, I'm just telling the truth. But like I said, they should take a break because that's a big age difference.
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hello peoples.....i am a 13 year old girl. im in year 8 and today i just found out that this boy, who is in year 9 (15 years old) wants to ask me out! i dont relly know what to do about it cuz we have been friends for nearly 2 years now....and i really like him but im not sure about going out with him :) can someone please help me out id really appreciate it ^_^
This is what I think
Talk to him on a relationship level but don't go out with him yet. Get to know him on a more personal note. Give it at least a few weeks and if he seems like the type of guy you can see yourself with then go for it! But I'm telling you this now. I'm in high school so I know how high school boys are. Most of them just want to get in your pants but there are some good ones. Just be careful and don't believe everything a boy says to you. Well hope my advice works. Write back and tell me how it goes!
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So, my boyfriend and I haven't been dating for very long and we decided to NOT have sex for a longgg time down the road. Which I think is great! But we're young and live with our parents and stuff. I mean we do things like dry humping and touchy feely and things like that but I get soo paranoid that someone's going to walk in or say something. My opinion is we're not having sex, we are being responsible but we DO have hormones! What do you think? Do you really think our parents would freak out? Do you think what we're doing is okay?
This is what I think
Parents do not want to know about their children doing anything sexual even if your not having sex. They still think of you as their little baby even if your a teen. Some parents would freak even if they see u kissing someone. I think it's very responsible of both for u deciding to not have sex because some teens do not have that kind of self-control. Like you said we do have hormones and teens hormones are especially going crazy. I don't think your wrong for what your doing but I do think you should not do it around your parents or in the same house as them. Hope my advice helped.
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