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my friend needs help
my friend is a 12/f
she is dating a 16/m
they have been hiding it from EVERYONE for a month a 3 days. they want to wait to tell their parents when they think the time is right.
so she told me that if they ever wanted to kiss or be alone they had to go into a closet at their church.
so do u have any advice for her. thank you in advance.
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Ok your friend is too young to be dating a 16 year old. I didn't date a 16 year old until I turned 14. I think they should take a break and wait until she's older and more mature. I'm not saying she's not mature but just look at it this way. HE IS 16! SHE IS 12! Do you really think he is being completely faithful to a 12 year old when there are so many girls who are his age and more developed? You have to think about that kind of stuff. I'm not trying to get on your friend, I'm just telling the truth. But like I said, they should take a break because that's a big age difference.
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My advice for her is that they break up.
Your friend is a little bit too young to be dating, and her boyfriend is too old to be a dating a girl that age. He should be dating 14-15 year old girls...not 12 year olds.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Some states do have laws governing age difference and “Statutory Rape” charges and charges of Leading to the “Delinquency of a Minor”. Generally if there is four years age difference, some states differ on the number of years, the older child can be charged with Statutory Rape or other charges.
Sexual intercourse does not have to take place for these charges to be brought. All it takes is the parents of the younger child to have suspicions that the older child is wrong in some way and to bring charges with local law enforcement.
I would suggest that your friend find someone in her own age group to hang out with, she is to young to be dating.
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i've heard before that if you think a relationship is going to work out, you wouldn't hide it from your parents. and i think the age difference is kinda big..it's only 4 years but she's only 12.
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EDIT: Thanks for providing more information. I think you are right. The age difference is pretty big especially considering she is only 12. I think that you should try to talk to her about hwo she shoudn't keep it all to herself. I think it's important that her parents know especially inc ase something bad happens. And also, I know you are concerned and you want her to be ok. I think if you talk to her about it, it might help a little. She has to be willing to listen to you and hear you out though. Hope that helps :)
What kind of advice are you looking for? Is there anything specific she is having problem with?
In general I would suggest that she at least tells some people she's with him. And when she hangs out with him, she should let a couple people know where she is. This was if (and i hope it won't) something bad happened, someone will know where she is to be able to help.
If you specify the question, I will be happy to asnwer it :)
I hope that helped a little.
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