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not attracted to him?
18f. this might be a little long, but i will be so appreciative if you could give me any advice, i can't stop thinking about this.
so i've never had a serious boyfriend before, never had a real boyfriend at that. i don't want to sound conceited but all these guys want me and everyone thinks i'm pretty but i tend to push guys away because i have a bit of a trust problem.
well i recently met this guy nick. he's so different then anyone i've ever liked before. most guys i've liked are jerks and haven't even cared much about how i felt, didn't go out of there way for me, but they were hot. now nick is the complete opposite..
i've only known nick for a few weeks and he's such a good guy, any girl would be lucky to have him. he bought me dinner, he covered me with a blanket when i fell asleep at his house, i went to the beach with him and met all his friends and he never once left me so i wouldn't feel awkward, he comes from a great family, just the little things that he does for me i love about him and im so comfortable around him. i went to his house with no make-up on and he still thought i looked beautiful. theres just one big problem .. i'm not really attracted to him physically :(
everyone says looks aren't important but shouldn't you be attracted to the guy you're with? we're not dating or anything .. yet but i'm just so use to being really attracted to the guys i like and when people say they want to see a picture of him i'm like aaaahhh..
i feel so selfish, so self-centered for feeling this way. he's not ugly but he's not hot either. i don't know what to do. i don't want to lose him, i think about him all the time but i don't know if i can go on with someone without being SO attracted to them. everyone always told me i would end up with some hot model as a boyfriend and i feel like i'm somehow going to disappoint everyone .. but i feel like it shouldn't be about looks and i can't get over that.
can someone please tell me what you think i should do??
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Ok I know what you mean by having to be attracted to the guy you want to be with. Well let me tell you a little story. I had a boyfriend who wasn't ugly but he wasn't hot either. I showed my friends pictures of him and they always said I could do better. Well eventually I thought to myself this is my life not theirs. I love him and that's all that matters. So with that being said f-word what people say. I think you are too worried about what your friends think. If you really like this guy looks shouldn't be oh so important. If you go based off of how someone looks all the time, you will never find anyone (not trying to be harsh). So I think you should go for it! He seems like a great guy so do you really want to lose someone like that? Hope my advice helped! Write back and let me know how it goes!
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