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i'm one of those people who looks SO much better tan. like i should have been born with this skin color ha. is there anyway i can keep it? like without having to put on self tanner and stuff (link)
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Get a spray tan regularly. Don't go for sun beds because if you get cancer then your tan won't seem worth it. Good luck x
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i have this friend and she talks to this quy but she isnt sure if he is right for her he is always hiddinq stuff from her & he doesnt seem to respond to most of her textes . i dont know i really care for her i quess wanna know how to help her outt
siqned :
helpless
p.s can you help quick please (link)
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Does she really like him? Because it doesnt sound like he really likes her. Tell her that you wouldnt put your friendship on the line if you thought you didnt have to get involved. Then tell her what you think. If she's a true friend then she'll value your opinion. If not, she'll come around soon enough. Guys like that never cause trouble between close girl friends for long. Good luck x
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im nobody and have always been. dont want any pity . i want it done now (link)
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I hope that you're still alive to get this answer. I'm not going to judge whether what you plan on doing is right or wrong because I know nothing about you. What I would say is that there is always a way of finding something good in a terrible, unbearable situation. If you want to die then i doubt you will have had time to ask an advice website for tips on how to do. If actually what you want is to be told that you're a somebody then this is me telling you. I know nothing about you. But I'm sure i could find positives in you. I don't pity you. Why would i pity someone that wants to take their own life? But i think it would be a waste of a life if you did. You can turn this around. Let me know if you need any help. I hope you're okay x
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If my boyfriend just touch my vagina with his panis and the liquid is fell into my cloths and on my thies than three should be any possibility of getting pragnent. He is only touch my vagina not pussing and his penis is not going inside me.
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If its possible that his sperm got into your vagina then yes you could be pregnant. x
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the right thing to do to break up with someone is to do it in person but like what do you do as an allday type thing? do we go to the movies or to one of our houses or what?
how akward will it be finishing off the day since i would have to drive him home and he lives 50 min away. i dont think my heart could take it to see him sad especially for that long.
how and what do i do? (link)
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Tell him you need to talk. That should maybe give him a hint.Tell him before you meet up that you'll have to be somewhere afterwards so you can't give him a lift home. Then meet at a park or something and keep it short. If its really what you want to do then get it done and leave. Dont give him the opportunity to change your mind. Good luck x
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16/f : sorry its so long. i need help!
so over a week ago my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me. it was random because nothing was that wrong that week. normally things use to get really ugly because i use to get frustrate because we couldnt see each other during the week and i took it out on him.
once he broke up with me he texted me right after saying it was a break for now and i believed it because he had nationals this weekend and this is something he needs to focus on cause its do or die for getting in to college. but the next day after he broke up with me i texted him bugging him by what he had meant by the break and he said that we were done but then the next day he said we werent then again the next day he said we were done again. i was confused but i know i pushed an answer out of him and i think he just wanted me to shut up but im not sure? does he really mean its over or was he just trying to get rid of me so he could focus for this weekend?
the only reason he gave me for the breakup was that his feelings faded but then the last text he sent me was im just busy and i got that. it just made it seem like things were still open and he just needed time away.
im not sure if im just making this up in my head or if we could still get back together. his regionals were this weekend and i havent talked to him in five days because everyone said i should keep away which i have. but his birthday is on thursday and im gonna say happy birthday but is that all i should say? ive been thinking myself about things and i figured some stuff out and i would like to tell him but i dont know if it would be too much or not. (link)
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Wait til his birthday. Then text him saying something like 'happy birthday i hope you have a great day and that regionals went well' and see if he responds. if he doesnt, forget him. if he does, keep talking. if the conversation results in you two getting back together then make sure he knows its his last chance. his head might be all over the place if he has important competitions, or he could just have gone off you. either way, only talk to him on his birthday, when you have a reason to. don't say anything too full on to him to start with. keep it simple. but if he doesnt treat you like you deserve to be treated then get out, because its not worth it. good luck x
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hey. my name is evan. im 15 years old and a freshman in high school. i have been diagnosed with malignant melanoma which is a skin cancer for the 2nd time. im tired of trying to keep the secret that im sick again. im gonna do chemo this summer but i feel like im gonna burst if i dont tell my friends. my parents said not to cause i already get made fun of alot and i dont wanna get teased about this. what should i do? should i tell my friends or keep the secret like my parents want. i just feel like i need to talk to someone. thanks for the help.
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If you trust your friends then tell them. Did you tell them the first time? How did that make you feel? Sometimes your parents mean well and think they know whats best for you, but actually its important for you to deal with this in the way you want to. you shouldnt have to keep it a secret. its nothing to be ashamed of. good luck with everything evan :) xx
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I have always drank A LOT of liquids, More than the average person. I've been tested for diabetes and it came out negative. However to give an example I drink about 3+ milk cartons of liquid a day and most of that is either water, vitamin water or Sobe water. However, I have a HUGE gut! When I touch it, It jiggles and I can always feel liquid moving around in my stomach. :( I don't really want to go to the doctor and have the prescribe me water pills I would really like to loose it the natural and healthy way. A month ago I have changed my diet I now eat vegetables and I walk 2 miles a day but does anyone know anything other way I can loose this water weight? I want to completely loose my stomach. Thanks (link)
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Try drinking less fluids for say a week. Just to confirm that it is water weight. Or you could always try diuretics to make you pee so that the liquid isnt in your system for long :/ i don't really know. stay healthy. keep exercising. and i know you dont want to, but sometimes only doctors can give you the answers you want. you never know, you might have a problem so maybe go get it checked out? good luck x
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so the other day, all of a sudden my vagina got very itchy. i couldn't stop scratching it. now in every position i go to it still itches but hurts in like a burning way. what would this be? it doesn't hurt when i urinate, but when i go to wipe it does. also, there is no weird smell to it as if it were to be a yeast infection. (link)
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Have you thought of shaving rash? Try wearing loose underwear rather than lacey ones. Go for comfy pants and see how that goes :) also try not to wear tight clothing at the moment. hope it gets better soon x
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My boyfriend and I hooked up last night, i gave him head and he came. Then about 5 mins later I went to the bathroom and peed and THEN i washed my hands :( Is there a chance im pregnent?! (link)
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no. bless you. at no point did his sperm enter your vagina. so no. you wont be pregnant :) x
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so i hve this friend who i like and were friends and i love when we hang out but theres a problem. she has this friend. lets call her "Pillow" and pillow is really annoying and all of my friends cant stand to be around her. so whenever i make plans with my friend..lets call her "blanket" she always at the lastminute is like "ohh btw pillows comming too" and i cant say no. so then all other people who also find pillow annoying get mad at me and it causes this whoe problem. how to do keep blanket as a friend without having to be with pillow? (link)
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Firstly, don't ask blanket to choose between you and pillow because you might end up losing blanket altogether. tell blanket that you'd like to spend some time just you two. or organise events where you have to book tickets or numbers before you go. so invite her to the cinema with all your other friends and tell her you need to know if blanket is coming because you have to book tickets. that way she'll feel rude if she invites pillow along. or go out for a meal and say you have a table booked for 5 people, is she able to come? then you dont seem too out of order and you get to go out with just blanket and your other friends. Good luck x
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so basiclly i realized that i need more guy friends. i used to have alot and i kinda burned those bridges, so now how to do i befriend new boys? (link)
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Okay are you male or female? Because that could change the answer :)
Male-maybe join some clubs, get involved with sports and stuff and get to know the people. Also maybe organise an event so that you can go out with loads of guys that you know. They dont have to be your friends at the moment, but if you invite a group of them then they are more likely to attend and then maybe you can start re-building some of your bridges.
Female-joining clubs is still an option, or alternatively go to a few festivals this summer as they are always good for meeting new people. Get some of your girl friends to arrange an evening and get them to invite some guys that they know and tell them you invite their friends too. That way you wont be the only one that doesn't know everyone there and you can make friends with them easier :)
Good luck xx
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i have ben with my boyfriend for nearly three months and i really feel like we need to breakup but i cant bring myself to it. for the past month i have thought we needed to, iv even tried to piss him off and iv brought it up to him but covered it up because he is head over heels in love with me. i feel horrible about it but i cant bring myself to do it at all, how do i go about doing this without hurting him too badly? and dont say just do it. any tips, tricks? 16/f (link)
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1.Meet up.
Pick somewhere neutral like a park or go for a walk.
2.Plan what you're going to say.
Something like 'thank you for the past three months, they have been amazing but i just feel that its best if we go or separate ways' blah blah blah.
3.Say it.
Get it over with quickly so that he doesn't have a chance to convince you to take him back.
4.Leave.
Tell him that you'll always care about him and be there for him if he needs you but that you have to go. Tell him that you'll talk to him tomorrow.
It wont be easy or nice, but it never is.
Good luck x
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im going to florida and i was going to bring my friend along but i was just wondering if it would make it hard on everyone but i dont mean it in a bad way at all shes my best friend. she is 17 im 16 and theres a guy thats 15 and then nineteen 18 year olds. plus she doesnt know all them to well but were all in the same tiny school.
Were driving 14 hours to florida, we will all lay out in the sun most of the time and she is the only one thats black and she doesnt like to she sits with a towel over her even at pools so i would feel too bad, she also is the only vegan so food choices would be hard but im with her everyday im perfectly fine with it i just dono about everyone else. I am the only vegetarian but im not strict enough i would eat a lil meat if i have no other options. Also she isnt responsible at all shes over a year older than me but i take care of her for everything and yea were gonna be partying i dont want her to get hurt. she only drinks, i only smoke. she also cant swim. this would be the best vacation in the world if she could come. i love her to death she is my best friend but i dont want this trip to be a hassle on everyone else.
what do you think i should do? bring her or not? if she does come what are some good destin florida area vegan restaurants? and what do we do about us tanning and on the beach 24/7? (link)
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Invite her. Tell her what you'll be doing. Tell her who is going. I'm sure she'll think of all the possible negatives about the holiday. Tell her if she doesn't want to go then thats fine but then leave the decision up to her. That way she feels included and if she thinks she'll be able to deal with it then you won't feel so responsible when you get there. Good luck x
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alright my friends are way to over protective.
i like to hang with guys thats just me. even with my bf its hard to even hug.
like seriously they need to learn its my choices and who i hang with
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Just talk to them and tell them that although you love spending time with them, you get on really well with guys as you find them easier to bond with. Explain that you can have more than one group of friends. But if they annoy you that much then maybe it would be best for both of you if you made a new friendship group? Don't take good friends for granted. Good luck x
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The past three nights, I have gotten sick. I all of a sudden get really nauseous and need to throw up. Im asking if I am pregnant because I know that a lot of women actually get 'morning sickness' at night (my mother did with me and my brother). I am on birth control, but last week when I had sex with my boyfriend I was also on antibiotics which I know lower the effectiveness of birth control. I was just wondering what everyone thinks the chances of my being pregnant are. Im supposed to get my period in the next four days. Thanks for the help! (link)
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Wait to see if you get your period. If you don't, take a pregnancy test. No one can really tell if you are or not just through an advice website so its best to make an appointment with your doctor if you want professional medical advice :) Theres always a chance as birth control is only 99% effective. I hope you get the results you're after. Good luck x
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Ok, I love my boyfriend to death. He is so amazing except for one thing; he's TOO honest. I know, I know it sounds stupid but I don't know...sometimes we play this little question game like if we're bored or something and we just ask each other questions. I know I probably shouldn't ask questions if I'm so afraid of the answers but I don't know...I guess I just expect him to answer all of my questions nice and sweet for some reason. Ok, for example: The other day I asked him if he thought he would get tired of me if he hung out with me for too long and he said "yeah, probably...I have to have time for hobbies and stuff" and it's like I know that logically, what he's saying makes sense, but would it have really hurt for him to just say "No, of course not!" or something? :( It just seems that he doesn't really think about how sometimes his honesty can hurt me...I mean part of me feels ridiculous for even being upset about this because all anyone ever wants in a relationship is honesty right? But on the other hand, this isn't the first time he's done this...and then after he says it and I explain that it hurts me, he's just like "Yeah, I can see how that would have hurt you"...I don't think he understands how much it hurts me? I don't know...what do you guys think I should do? Or should I just drop it? (link)
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If you love him to death then this is a part of him that you'll have to get used to. Is his honesty problem getting better with time? I don't think you should encorage him to be dishonest but explain to him that sometimes you would rather he thought about how what he was saying would make you feel and possibly twist the truth as a result. For instance, if you asked him would he get tired of you if you hung out for too long, he could answer with something like 'not if we found loads of activities to do'. Talk to him about it and if he's the amazing boyfriend you say he is then he'll understand and listen. Otherwise, think how long you can last like this. Sometimes, just relax a bit, I'm sure he's not saying these things to hurt you. Good luck x
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I have been dating my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I am so in love with him. We are very serious and I see an amazing future with him - but theres just one problem.
I's not that big of a deal but he has a little bit of a wandering eye. While I know he would never cheat on me, he constantly tells me which girls he thinks are "total babes" and which celebrities he would love to get with. I know this is normal, but it makes me uncomfortable and insecure. When we go to the beach, he stares at other women. Just the other day he took one of my lingerie catalogs and was drooling over the girls while I was sitting right next to him. When I get mad or upset about it he just laughs or blows me off.
And it's started to make me feel like I'm not enough, and that's why he looks elsewhere. I used to be very confident and outgoing but now I feel like if I were just skinnier or had bigger breasts that maybe I could keep his attention. Now I feel uncomfortable having him see me naked and he complains all the time. He gets frustrated because I won't stay naked after sex or strip for him.
I tried explaining to him why I've gotten so insecure and how him gawking at other girls bothers me but he laughed it off or changed the subject. It's embarassing, I don't know how else to go about it.
I realize he is portrayed in a negative light in this question but he really is amazingly sweet, caring, funny and and all-around great boyfriend. I know he's in love with me and I want to be with him but hate feeling this way. How can I solve this issue?
Thanks for all who reply.
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No relationship is perfect, all relationships have problems but you seem genuinely upset and stuck about this. You can't see that theres anything left for you to do. Tell him that its upsetting you to the point of you considering to end the relationship and ask him that if he is going to look at other girls (which is normal) that he does it while he isn't with you. Encourage him to go out with his mates, just a group of guys, to give him the opportunity to have a testosterone filled night and enjoy being a lad. Obviously, only do this if you trust him to stay faithful. But then after spending a night out with his boys, get him to spend a night just with you. If hes a good boyfriend like you say he is, he'll understand your problems and that you're upset. If he doesn't accept that it upsets you then think about yourself and how much longer you can be in a relationship like this. If you can't see yourself lasting long then end it so you can find someone that deserves you and considers your feelings. Good luck x
Hey I'm responding to your feedback :)
I think that you really don't seem happy in your relationship. The long distance must put a serious strain on your relationship and the lack of contact between you must be really hard for you to deal with. You seem like the type of person that needs a bit more attention than you're getting at the moment and from what you've told me, I think that you should seriously consider ending your relationship. I know it must be hard for you but I feel like the way you talk about him, you know that the relationship is coming to an end but you're trying to come to terms with it and get someone to convince you that actually you're being really silly and selfish. Well I don't think you are and I think that you must have loads of good things to say about him but for now, it's not working out. Maybe take a break if you really aren't sure? But otherwise, go out and find someone that meets all of your needs :) Good luck and I hope you find this helpful xx
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well i really like this boy and i dont know how to show it he means the world to me and we broke up yesturday and i really love him. i never felt like this.he tells me time but i want him so badly. he says he loves me and i dont know what to do to get his attention to get him back? we been together for four months and i dont want that down the drain. he met my family and everything and i dont want to lose him i cry alot now. (link)
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So you say he loves you, and you love him? You need to have a conversation with him, in a park or somewhere neutral and talk about your future together. If he is reluctant, tell him that you just want one last chance to explain everything to him. Tell him how much you love him. Tell him that you don't want to lose him. If you've only just broken up then theres a chance that you could make it work. But if you can't convince him then you have to accept that and leave him behind and be strong. Good luck x
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Help me! I want to get a pet like a dog. I wanted one since when I was a baby my dad bought me a suffedone but I figured out that it was fake when I was 5 years old. So I need a way to get a dog or a pet. But how? (link)
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You can't just get a pet without the permission of the person that owns the house. Maybe come to some form of agreement with them? Like if you get good grades at school then you can get a pet. A pet is a big deal, and if other people in your house aren't prepared to look after it then it might be best for the animal if you don't get one just yet :) good luck x
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