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friend of a friend
so i hve this friend who i like and were friends and i love when we hang out but theres a problem. she has this friend. lets call her "Pillow" and pillow is really annoying and all of my friends cant stand to be around her. so whenever i make plans with my friend..lets call her "blanket" she always at the lastminute is like "ohh btw pillows comming too" and i cant say no. so then all other people who also find pillow annoying get mad at me and it causes this whoe problem. how to do keep blanket as a friend without having to be with pillow?
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Firstly, don't ask blanket to choose between you and pillow because you might end up losing blanket altogether. tell blanket that you'd like to spend some time just you two. or organise events where you have to book tickets or numbers before you go. so invite her to the cinema with all your other friends and tell her you need to know if blanket is coming because you have to book tickets. that way she'll feel rude if she invites pillow along. or go out for a meal and say you have a table booked for 5 people, is she able to come? then you dont seem too out of order and you get to go out with just blanket and your other friends. Good luck x
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I've been in this situation before.
First you should tell "Blanket" about how you don't like "Pillow". tell her why you don't like her, and tell her that you just want to hang out with her, not "Pillow".
She should understand, and if not, then she's not a good friend in the first place. Also I would recommend trying to get along with "Pillow", you might actually end up liiking her when you get to know her.
Hope this helps(:
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Pull blanket aside and tell her how you feel in the nicest way you can. She should understand that not everyone in the world can get along. If she takes it the wrong way then just give it time, shell end up coming to her senses if shes rlly a good friend.
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