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hes in love, i want outtt! i cant bring myself to hurt him..
i have ben with my boyfriend for nearly three months and i really feel like we need to breakup but i cant bring myself to it. for the past month i have thought we needed to, iv even tried to piss him off and iv brought it up to him but covered it up because he is head over heels in love with me. i feel horrible about it but i cant bring myself to do it at all, how do i go about doing this without hurting him too badly? and dont say just do it. any tips, tricks? 16/f
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1.Meet up.
Pick somewhere neutral like a park or go for a walk.
2.Plan what you're going to say.
Something like 'thank you for the past three months, they have been amazing but i just feel that its best if we go or separate ways' blah blah blah.
3.Say it.
Get it over with quickly so that he doesn't have a chance to convince you to take him back.
4.Leave.
Tell him that you'll always care about him and be there for him if he needs you but that you have to go. Tell him that you'll talk to him tomorrow.
It wont be easy or nice, but it never is.
Good luck x
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There is no way to let someone down easy. Whatever your "reason" you are still telling him that you don't want to be with him so it doesn't matter what you say. I would do it as soon as possible, the longer you wait the harder it will be for both of you.
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Unfortunately there is no way to let him down easy. He's going to be hurt. That's that. You'll have to make your peace with that. You can do him the favor of doing it face to face. I would suggest looking at it like ripping off a band-aid. Quickly. There will be pain but the sooner you do it the sooner the pain will disappear. This is one of the lessons in love you will learn throughout your life. Sometimes we hurt people we care about, sometimes our feelings change and its nobody's fault. But we have to do what we know is right, even if it means some pain along the way. In the long run you'll understand it was all for the best. Good luck!
P.S. - Ok, to answer your question "but how"? The only way to do it is to come right out with it. There are no words that will make it hurt less. So sit him down and say "I'm sorry. I know this sucks but I want to break up" then if/when he asks why you can explain that your feelings have changed, it wasn't him, you just don't feel the same anymore. Sometimes that happens. Be prepared for him to be upset, but don't let it throw you off. Of course he'll be upset, but he'll be glad in the long run. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? That's not a very fun relationship. Just do it and get it over with. You'll feel better.
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