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tell or not about skin cancer?
hey. my name is evan. im 15 years old and a freshman in high school. i have been diagnosed with malignant melanoma which is a skin cancer for the 2nd time. im tired of trying to keep the secret that im sick again. im gonna do chemo this summer but i feel like im gonna burst if i dont tell my friends. my parents said not to cause i already get made fun of alot and i dont wanna get teased about this. what should i do? should i tell my friends or keep the secret like my parents want. i just feel like i need to talk to someone. thanks for the help.
~evan n
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If you trust your friends then tell them. Did you tell them the first time? How did that make you feel? Sometimes your parents mean well and think they know whats best for you, but actually its important for you to deal with this in the way you want to. you shouldnt have to keep it a secret. its nothing to be ashamed of. good luck with everything evan :) xx
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If your friends are truly friends then they won't make fun of you. Plus, who in the right mind would make fun of somebody with cancer?! I wouldn't! I would tell your best friend and thats it. this way you have somebody to talk to and your friends don't need to worry! 'Cause you don't want to make your friends worry, all you would want is for them to be happy, right? Thats what I would want for them. And also there is no reason to tell them because you will survive and nobody will even know that you had cancer again, except for your best friend who you told in order to talk to during the treatments.
Hope I helped
-musicissoul301 13(m)
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if you feel close to your friends then there shouldnt be no problems with you telling them. i wish you nothing but the best of luck. i feel so bad for people that have to go through things like this. but ive always said you guys always show us how great life is. how much we should be greatful. i thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. God has alot in store for you. God Bless
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Only a ruthless and ignorant bastard would make fun of someone with cancer. It says a lot for their lack of character.
The choice to tell people of your condition is yours alone. You might want to tell people privately and on a need to know basis. Telling everyone projects their fears on to you when you have to deal with a severe battle to get well. It may serve as an unwanted distraction with all eyes on you.
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iv had the same type of cancer for a long time actually. im sorry to hear its back though for you, stay strong youl do great :) .i say you should not tell many though, only tell two or three, your absolute closest. im in a very close group of friends and only three of the 9 know only because i dont want anyone to feel bad for me becuase i say i am fine. but if you like you can tell four but dont let them tell others. have your best friend or so for support and youl be set. friends always give the best advice. tell your most understanding one who knows you the best, who swears not to tell anyone and ask him what you should do since he knows you. good luck, hope all goes well :)
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You're parents have good intentions, but in the end they're not the ones having to deal with the affects of this disease every day. Tell your friends. You'll need all the support you can get and its only fair to tell the people who care about you what you're going through. They deserve the opportunity to be there for you and you'll also need people around you who can just treat you like a normal person sometimes and help you laugh and enjoy things. You may get teased by some people, but it would probably feel worse to have to deal with this again all alone. Good luck!
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