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breakup and confused on what to do!
16/f : sorry its so long. i need help!
so over a week ago my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me. it was random because nothing was that wrong that week. normally things use to get really ugly because i use to get frustrate because we couldnt see each other during the week and i took it out on him.
once he broke up with me he texted me right after saying it was a break for now and i believed it because he had nationals this weekend and this is something he needs to focus on cause its do or die for getting in to college. but the next day after he broke up with me i texted him bugging him by what he had meant by the break and he said that we were done but then the next day he said we werent then again the next day he said we were done again. i was confused but i know i pushed an answer out of him and i think he just wanted me to shut up but im not sure? does he really mean its over or was he just trying to get rid of me so he could focus for this weekend?
the only reason he gave me for the breakup was that his feelings faded but then the last text he sent me was im just busy and i got that. it just made it seem like things were still open and he just needed time away.
im not sure if im just making this up in my head or if we could still get back together. his regionals were this weekend and i havent talked to him in five days because everyone said i should keep away which i have. but his birthday is on thursday and im gonna say happy birthday but is that all i should say? ive been thinking myself about things and i figured some stuff out and i would like to tell him but i dont know if it would be too much or not.
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Wait til his birthday. Then text him saying something like 'happy birthday i hope you have a great day and that regionals went well' and see if he responds. if he doesnt, forget him. if he does, keep talking. if the conversation results in you two getting back together then make sure he knows its his last chance. his head might be all over the place if he has important competitions, or he could just have gone off you. either way, only talk to him on his birthday, when you have a reason to. don't say anything too full on to him to start with. keep it simple. but if he doesnt treat you like you deserve to be treated then get out, because its not worth it. good luck x
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I think whether he wants you or not today doesn't matter. As difficult as it is, you should move on. A. You don't ever want to be with a guy who wants you one day and doesn't the next. There is no trust in that relationship, and certainly a lack of care and commitment. B. You should NEVER have to wait around for a guy, no matter who the guy is. There are other guys out there you should be scoping out. If you wait on this guy and put your own life on hold, it's like saying that his life is more important.
If I were you, I would text him and tell him that. Tell him that you don't know whether he wants to be with you or not, but that frankly you don't care. You're moving on. etc. After 8 months, I know that will be really difficult. But honestly, it is the most healthy thing you can do for yourself right now. You deserve better than this loser.
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Awww.... well it is very obvious that you are really into him because if you weren't you would be able to understand all the hints. You could be rite about him blowing you off to stay focused but i doubt because if that was the case he should have just told you that you would have understood. But your feelings are defenitely strong so i believe you should give it a shot. Tell him happy birthday and tell him you want another shot for you guys to be together again. Tell him how much it means to you that you guys are together. If he doesn't feel the same way understand him and support is decision. Which doesn't mean be all golly about it and just put it behind you it means just want him to be happy good luck.... hope i helped.... i think that it is still worth the possiblity it seems as if you are making excuses for him try and work things out i think you two should get back together because it is obvious that you really like him..... good luck
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