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I feel I am a worthless individual
I am a 40-yearl old female, married with no kids. My parents visit us often. They adore their son-in-law. Me, on the other hand can't do anything right. I have a kind heart that reaches out to one & all around me- which according to them is "me allowing them to become sponges". I am torn 'cos the conflicts have only become worse over the years. I try to have a fresh start & everytime it ends on a sour note. Can you please advice?
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Many of us have been where you are. I myself have been there and have all the emotional scares and memory photos to go with it. The fact that your parents adore your husband goes with the territory and while it is meaningless, it does not do anything for your self-worth.
You have not given enough information about yourself, although you have given enough information about how you feel, for me to offer any advice on anything you can do for yourself. What I can suggest is two things you should do. Things that helped me get a better self-image and allowed me to put this feeling worthlessness behind me. No one is worthless; we all have a place and function in this world.
The first thing you need to do is schedule a physical exam with your family doctor. You need to make sure there is nothing physically wrong that could be causing you to feel the way you do. With me it was found that a chemical deficiency was causing a mild depression. The chemical was Serotonin; easily replaced with a daily pill. My doctor also suggested talk therapy with a psychologist, which I I followed, to help overcome the years of depression I had suffered because of the chemical imbalance.
Are you suffering from depression? I’m not trained to tell, neither have you supplied enough information to make that call. Your doctor is trained and will ask the right questions or refer you to someone that can make that diagnosis. Statistically one in three suffer from some form of depression, so the chances are that you may be one of the one in three that do. The psychologist can also help you deal with your parents, something I had to learn to do as well.
Depression is more common than we believe it to be and more people unknowingly suffer undiagnosed from depression because they fail to see the warning signs. Individually the warning signs can be looked at as signs of something else. Collectively they can point to depression. Only a trained physician can make that diagnosis.
You should be screened for depression. Even if you are not suffering from depression a talk therapist can help you with the problem you have written about.
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Hello YOu! And sorry you're not worthless, no one is! No matter how pathetic some people are. We all have down stages in our lifes where we feel as you do. And trust me at this time in my own life I have many crosses to bear myself.
And sometimes I even wake up so sad and so miserble and so full of regrets that it's almost unbearable. But soon those feelings leave and I try to focus on the postives things in my life no matter how small they might be.
And one thing you can not do is, look at someone else life and compare it to your own. And don't let anyone make you feel any less than a person or small. You have to block people out no matter how hard it maybe. And you have to focus on being a better person. God still allows you to live every day on this earth, and it's really for a reason.
I'm the last single women out of seven sisters who's married. So just imagine how my family gatherings are. I get real lonely and I do have family members that others sometimes put on a pedestal. But I've come to realize is... We all have our own time to shine... And we cannot look at movies, or listen to songs, or even look at others life and expect ours to go that way.
We have to find ourselves and be happy with ourselves.. Because truthfully that's the only way things will ever get better! We can't sit around wating for some prince charming or some other great oppurtunity to just fall in our lap. We have to find happiness within ourselfs. If we start buildin they will eventually come and so will happiness... At Last
- The best of luck to you and always-
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