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Parents Reaction
So, my boyfriend and I haven't been dating for very long and we decided to NOT have sex for a longgg time down the road. Which I think is great! But we're young and live with our parents and stuff. I mean we do things like dry humping and touchy feely and things like that but I get soo paranoid that someone's going to walk in or say something. My opinion is we're not having sex, we are being responsible but we DO have hormones! What do you think? Do you really think our parents would freak out? Do you think what we're doing is okay?
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hormones can be the sweetest of things and bring you the best times however, imagine that little oceans are formed by little rivers. sooner or alter its gonna turn into sex. you have to ask your self and think about the future.. are you gonna have regrets? is waiting really overrated? talk to someone whose done it because honestly thats how it all starts.
Hormones are something that can reach a point were you can't control them , and the funny thing about it is you think you can control them but, then you lose the battle.
your parents should be your best friend, you are at the stage of growing up and then you need people to guide you.. at the end of the day when God gave you your parents HE put a bIG stamp saying " APPROVED"!
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This is what I think
Parents do not want to know about their children doing anything sexual even if your not having sex. They still think of you as their little baby even if your a teen. Some parents would freak even if they see u kissing someone. I think it's very responsible of both for u deciding to not have sex because some teens do not have that kind of self-control. Like you said we do have hormones and teens hormones are especially going crazy. I don't think your wrong for what your doing but I do think you should not do it around your parents or in the same house as them. Hope my advice helped.
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My advice to you is going to be much different then others, i am 20 years old so am one of the younger advisors. To answer your questions, yes what you and your boyfriend are doing is AWSOME your decision is very mature and great, alot of young people these days including myself jump into bed and have kids at a young age. But you have chosen to play safe which is the good way to go. Now on the parent fact i honestly i dont think that your parents will have a big issue with it depending on your age they probably expect you to make out, parents arnt stupid and definatley not blinde. What i would do is noone has to know your personal business, just respect your parents while doing so. As the walking in fact they may r they may not chances are they probably wont. But if they do sit down with them and explain that you are not plaining on having sex until you are older. They will be proud of you ad themselves. Or plain B would be you and your boyfriend sit down with both sets of parents and explain to them you care for eachother very much and you dont plain on having sex. I would go for plain A personally. Hope iv helped let me know how things turn out.
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I can only tell you how as a parent my wife and I handled this situation. Of course as parents of a single child, a boy who is now in his mid 30’s, it was a little different for us. Our basic game plan was going to be the same regardless of whether we had boys or girls.
My wife and I decided early on that we would be as open as possible with our children answering all questions in a frank and up front manner as their age allowed. We also felt that we wanted our children to be comfortable coming to us telling us what was going on in their lives. The only thing that we would draw the line at was drugs. This was our basic plan for raising our child.
To be honest some of our friends thought we were wrong, that our view was too lenient and that our son would take advantage of our leniency. He knew what my policy was about alcohol and he abided by it to the letter. We knew when he became sexually active and we made sure had and used condoms.
I believe had we had a daughter our plan would have worked just as well for her. A parent cannot watch over a child 24 hours a day. All a parent can do is to make sure the child is armed with the information they need to stay safe and to provide the protection they need to keep them safe. If we had had a daughter she would have been told when she was ready for sex her mother would take her to the doctor for birth control. Would we have allowed her to have sex in our home? Probably, I’d rather she had been safe then somewhere where she could be hurt. If that meant letting her entertain boys in her room, so be it.
This was the plan my wife and I had. We felt better the devil you know then the one you don’t know. Your parents have their own values and judgments on what they will tolerate. Most 17 year olds have already had a full sexual experience. Your parents might assume you too have had sexual intercourse. By talking with your mother, which might be easier for you than talking with both of your parents or just your dad, you could be putting her mind at ease as to this matter.
I don’t know your parent so I cannot say how they will react. What I can say: knowing is a lot better than not knowing and speculating as to what you might or might not be doing.
For what it is worth I feel you are being mature in how you are handling this issue. Mutual masturbation and masturbation, dry humping are excellent ways to relieve sexual urges.
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Yes, what you are doing is okay and
Yes, your parents might freak out.
Frankly, the best thing you can do is also the scariest thing you can do -- TALK to your parents.
Very few people manage to have their sex lives NEVER interrupted by someone they live with. That falls under the 'shit happens' category of life, but you might be able to save yourself (and your parents) for that fretful, horrible conversation after it does happen, but screwing up your courage and dealing with the issue before it arrises.
Tell them what you and your boyfriend have agreed on. Tell them you make out pretty hot and heavy but that they don't need to worry about sex and you wanted them to know that. Ask them if you can talk to them about it - someday - when you think things might go that way. If they are letting you alone in a room with him they already know you are humping like bunnies. They might be happy to know its nothing more than that. (Obviously, gory details like the exact sex acts you WILL engage in are not required sharing. Keep it general and possitive.)
This will be very uncomfortable for everyone, but it puts you in a good, trusting position with them, and if they do stumble in on you and your boyfriend they will think "Shit... uh, that was awkward." instead of 'Oh my God! My Baby! What else is he doing to my baby! I'll kill him!"
I exaggerate, but still.
Talk to them about it.
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Everyones parents are different, only you would know what your parents would say.
My advice, dont get caught if you think theyd flip.
What is done behind closed doors stays behind closed doors.
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Parents arent gonna be like.. "Oh,... you're just dry humping...? ... Just touching eachother's privates..? Oh, alright.. I'll just leave you crazy kids to it.." .... lol. I know my parents would freak the hell out. They wouldn't even let me be in a room with a guy with the door closed, and I'm 20.
They don't know for sure that you agreed to not actually have sex, and they don't know if that will change in the heat of the moment,so I would think, especially with a daughter, they would not even want it to get to that point, especially not in their house. If you're going to do that, do it at his house. lol
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