hi
well i always wanted to do something like this, i might have a knack for it, might not!!! either way i will be honest and always try and do my best=)
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I am going for another job interview tomorrow. I was laid off last month and things got tough so I had to come back and stay with my mom until I can get another job. Anyway, I had my outfit laid out and asked my mom what she thought of it. She said it looked very professional for the job and that I'd look great. Then she said I should take my nail polish off before the interview to look more serious about the job. My nail polish is pink right now. Is it inappropriate to have painted nails with nailpolish when showing up for an interview? (link)
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i went for an job workshop once, and i think you should take it of. your nails should be clean and smart. if you want nail polish put the clear nail polish. the requirements for some jobs is that your nails are clear and short so thats already an important factor to take into consideration. Even earings should be small for the interview, hair must be up, not too much make up. grown up and professional. God bless for the interview. tell me how it goes.
Fingers crossed**
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18, Female.
This is SO weird, but I'm not complaining :) Just curious.
I've only been fingered twice, nothing else has been in my vagina. Well I get wet really easily, and it's a lot. The first time I had sex, I was SO scared it was going to hurt and it didn't hurt ONE BIT, NOTHING. I was shocked, is this normal? I'm scared if I do it again or something it's going to hurt, but I don't know if it will since it didn't the first time??
And, the guy I had sex with didn't believe I was a virgin. Long story, no I don't regret having sex with him we're friends. But what I'm asking is ..is this a good or bad thing? He knew I was before, told him to be careful with me and he said he would but I know he still didn't believe me. After we had sex and were laying in bed, I said you took my virginity you know that? I was a virgin. He smiled and looked at me and said "No you weren't ;)"
I don't know if I was loose or something, or if I was just good at it? Haha I was wondering, why he still didn't think I was a virgin before I had sex with him. What do you guys think? (link)
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hey
well the thing is sometimes you can lose your virginity if you excercise a lot especially if you do a bar sport like in gymnastics or something like that or horse riding. or the fact that you get wet easily does contribute because thats the liquid that supposed to make it easy like lubrication lol. so maybe thats why it was easier for you. everyone goes through different experiences when it comes to sex, sometimes it can be painful but the fact that you were wet and he went slow could have been a deciding factor.
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I am losing my virginity this weekend and I know it's going to hurt a lot. I don't want it to because my boyfriend thinks I've had sex before. I've NEVER been fingered and NEVER masturbated. I never even wore a tampon. It'll really be my first time having sex in any way so it's a big deal for me to not sound like it hurts. My boyfriend already had sex with 4 girls before so he knows what to expect from somebody who isn't a virgin.
My question is what would be the least painful way to lose virginity. Like should he be on top then so he doesn't notice or is there an exercise I can do or what? Is there something I can put on me down there that will numb my vagina? (link)
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regardless of what age you are , i'm going to take different approach. i'm sure you have considered all the options but, i want to take my approach as one of your girls.
its not always as painful as you think or hear. there is some joy at the same time, that surpasses the pain you will feel. my only concern for you is the fact that he doesn't not know you are a virgin.
i'm sure you do love him but , being a virgin is really not overrated. i advice you to tell him that you are on , and still willing to lose your virginity to him. it really does suck if you going to use an excercise or a sex toy to lose it. i really urge you to tell him, so he can go slow. he might just go really hard and make the experience less enjoyable than it should. tell him, so he can go slow, please use protection, whether its the pill or condoms. take extra caution.
so thats me being your girlfriend, this is me being your sister. please wait , his already had sex with 4 girls and they are put in the past. having sex with a guy already ties you with someone for life. its a bond you should share with someone who you really are a hundred percent sure with , someone who knows will accept that gift . its a gift, and you are very special because you still have it..
start slow, start with the fingering , have a feel with what it feels like before going for it. imagine those four girls , that his had sex with and doesn't talk to them anymore. do you really want that momentarily secureness. the fact that he doesn't know you are virgin. already shows signs that you acted like a different person to get him. he didn't fall in love with you. give someone that chance to fall in love with the real you.
what ever your choice is, tell me how it goes. fingers crossed**
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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hi
well what happens between you guys should be private. it should something that is obvious to him because i'm sure you let your guard down when you are with him. i'm sure you tell him stuff that no one knows about it. by the looks of it i gather you are very pretty for him to even have the group or people who are willing to listen to what he says.
the fact that he did hide it and puts out things about you is wrong. it is wrong!! stop crying , this are one of the things thats should not make you bitter or sad, rise above it girl!
when it comes to the choice of leaving him, confront him first. i know his been an idiot so far but, there must be a reason you are with him . so confront him, tell him how you feel about it. tell him , how hurt you are about what his putting on facebook. facebook really is not a secure source, your parents or relatives could even find out all the stuff. so confront him , if he says it does not matter or if he down plays your emotions. go, leave him. his not worth your time or your love.
its also important because , this how future guys will treat you if you let him , go on his merry way. i hope it helps, tell me how it goes. fingers crossed.
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I started dating my boyfriend last month and he treats me really good. The problem is that his friends really don't like me. They keep telling me that I'm hideous, ugly, and skanky and that he deserves so much better. I haven't really said anything to him about it but he never says I'm pretty or beautiful like guys are suppose to do. It's weird. What should I do? Do you think he thinks I'm not pretty? Should I tell his friends off? (link)
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"find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot,
who calls you back when you hang up on him,
who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat,
or will stay awake just to watch you sleep…
wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats,
who holds your hand in front of his friends,
who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on.
one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares
and how lucky his is to have you…
the one who turns to his friends and says,
“that’s her!”
~ anon ~" this is a poem that always comforted you. his not really worth it if he cant stand up for your in front of his friends, talk to him about it. otherwise his friends are just gonna go on about it and not respect you..
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I went out with a guy for about 2 years and he was my best friend. He cheated on me a couple times and was a complete jerk...but he's a nice kid. his actions are stupid and i was wrong for taking him back. right before my birthday last november he broke up with me, telling me he wanted to take a break...yet he still loved me.
a month later he got a girlfriend and i hooked up with a guy. but then later that year in around march...we became friends again and he told me that the girl was just a rebound. my ex and i were friends but then got into a huge fight . he called me names and told me he doesn't care about me one bit and to get the hell out of his life. it was horrible. ever since then he hasn't talked to me.
yesterday was the first day of school and he seemed different. he called me by my nickname to his friends, held the door for me and little things..yet never talked directly to me. i'm so confused..and it really bothers me that i still think about him after 10 months. all my friends have boyfriends and are so occupied with them that i can never talk to them about this ..and when we do get together they talk about their boyfriends/text their boyfriends. i have no one to talk about this stuff. please help.
why does my ex choose to be friendly..yet not talk to me ... (link)
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the problem this days is girls not knowing their wealth! girl sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on. there are so many guys who want to treat you better and one day you will be surprised when one of the guys is like , i really did like you but, you were always hooked onto your ex. guys treat us the way we treat ourselves. let go , i always want my readers to be happy. moving on is not so easy but, at least all the stress will be off your shoulders. be grateful for those two years , awesome and loving but , you have to believe your best days are ahead of you.
join a sport or a different organisation in school, there will always be people to talk to. just give them a chance to let them see you as a beautiful , bright lady! give yourself a fighting chance.
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Ok so I've been going through the year with no issues so far...except for one little annoyance. There's a girl who's in five of my classes this year, an ex-girlfriend to be exact (and oh lucky me, the one one I've ever had a bitter break up with on her end, not mine). We dated in the beginning of last year-for a month-and were friends at the beginning of this year and were over the summer as well.
I'm confused though. She'll try to provoke arguments with me for no apparent reason just out of the blue in the middle of class. I'd always just ignored it all this year pretty much and let her be a drama queen, but recently I wanted to just shut her up, so I responded to her for the first time telling her that if she really hated me so much (her big thing is that she claims to hate me and lies about things when she's in that mood and when she tells me to leave her alone-though I'd never responded to her until this point-she approaches me the next day as if nothing happened), that she'd stop telling me about it and just leave ME alone instead of obsessing over me so much and trying to get my attention. She broke down after going silent for a minute or two, though there was no venom in my voice and I said near those exact words, keeping it as brief as possible.
I don't feel guilty, but I'm wondering now if I have to do this every time she provokes me to just get her to stay quiet and cut the obsession crap. What can I do to get her to get off me and if possible be friends with her? I've already attempted everything I can think of, including just trying to figure out why she "hates" me by asking her in a serious conversation. I don't care which way it goes, but it'd be nice if we could remain friends out of convenience.
Any suggestions? And did I do the right thing?
Thanks,
-Xehanort (link)
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hey
girls are so emotional!!! breaking up can have so many impacts on us and we take it differently. i went super quiet , when it sunk in thats when i cried. Girls think differently to boys, i think that sometimes you can't be friends with your ex especially if one person still has feelings for the other person.
at the same time if your were friends first give her time, to realize you guys were not mean't to be. Be careful of what you say to her because, girls analyse every single word..all the best!
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So, my boyfriend and I haven't been dating for very long and we decided to NOT have sex for a longgg time down the road. Which I think is great! But we're young and live with our parents and stuff. I mean we do things like dry humping and touchy feely and things like that but I get soo paranoid that someone's going to walk in or say something. My opinion is we're not having sex, we are being responsible but we DO have hormones! What do you think? Do you really think our parents would freak out? Do you think what we're doing is okay? (link)
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hey
hormones can be the sweetest of things and bring you the best times however, imagine that little oceans are formed by little rivers. sooner or alter its gonna turn into sex. you have to ask your self and think about the future.. are you gonna have regrets? is waiting really overrated? talk to someone whose done it because honestly thats how it all starts.
Hormones are something that can reach a point were you can't control them , and the funny thing about it is you think you can control them but, then you lose the battle.
your parents should be your best friend, you are at the stage of growing up and then you need people to guide you.. at the end of the day when God gave you your parents HE put a bIG stamp saying " APPROVED"!
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22/F
I'm in a male-dominated field at school, taking summer classes. I haven't had a summer term before, so I've never had to worry about this.
Is it weird to wear a dress to class? Knee length, nothing fancy, just a sun dress. I like wearing dresses in the summer, usually, but I'm only one of three girls in 60 people. Would I look too fancy, or like I'm trying too hard?
Thanks! (link)
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you are not trying to hard, don't ever change who are you are for someone else! if you like dresses then ROCK them! being a girl rocks , its an honor and a privilege =) and its super hot, its understandable!
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13/f
I need help. I am so confused and dnt kno wat to do. I currently have 2questions up and this will be the third on this guy I like. His name is David. We've been best frends since 4th grade. I KNO for a fact that he likes me more than a frend bc he asked me out at the beginning of 6th grade. I Tod him no that I wasn't allowed. Wen I have had a bf befor.
So now he thinks I'm not alowed. Then we always txt each
other perverted things. Like me /"did you finish ur egg
project."/ him /"not even close"/ me /"urgunna get an F"/ him
/"ya an F in doing you"/. Then I walk home with him after
skul. I also go over to his house all the time bc we live
3houses away. I like him sooooooooooooo much. And he
knows I like him bc I Tod him in a txt. Butwen he asked me
y I liked him I told him bc he is funny. And he said he likes
me bc I'm funny and good l looking. His exact words. But I want him to ask me out so badly. But there a problem. My mom knows I lik him and she dosnt think that dating your nabor is very smart. And if we do become bf gf she wnt allow me overto his house bc shell think things are happening. So if we do goout I'll haveto hide itfrom her which will be very hard. Bc I tell her everything. So pls help me. And how do I ask him out. Thankyou in advance. (link)
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well your mum should e like your best friend who you can tell everything to, she is older and wiser. she is your support system when no one else will be there for you. so let her in, she only loves and cares for you. she wants you to have a great future, she wants you not to have regrets. imagine if she didn't care and let you go over Davids house?
things happens, especially at a young age . as for David don't hide him, guys that are willing to do that are not your kind of guy. slow down on all the sex talk baby girl you still are 13 and so young! keep your mind and head pure. but, if you still want to ask him . hint to him if your parents have allowed you to date. tell him there are no barriers now and then he will ask you out!
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My boyfriend says we have a normal relationship. I try to tell him it's not. He expects me to tell him everyone I pass in the hall way at work, what they say and send him pictures. If they come in my office he says they only made an excuse to come and see me that things should be controlled differently and men should not be able to just walk in my office. He takes these things out on me as well. Last Friday my boss called me in his office because he was about to leave for the day. When the boyfriend called I wasn't at my desk. he called and left vmails that were rude and ugly and when i called him back and explained he Said "you were in the office w/ 2 men?" "What else happened" Would you feel as if he is suggesting that something un professional could have happened by saying something like that? I'm at wits end and he seems to think he is doing no wrong. He says he has the right to know who I talk to and what is said and where I am and thinks if I have a problem w/ it then I have something to hide. (link)
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i agree these are warning signs of an abusive boyfriend but , then i asked myself if you are complaining about him you want him in your life.as women thats the hardest thing to do, letting go.
well i recommend you sit down and talk to your boyfriend about changes that you want to see, tell him you are not happy with the way he behaves.
this will help with your professional job, since you work with same people. give it time , its all easy to say dump him but , its hard. if he makes you happy, let him know, communication. if he doesn't like it give him a week or so to see if he will behave better. if not then its time to cut your losses and move on. your best days are ahead of you ! have fun
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K so I'm 13, in 7th grade, (girl) and all my friends (girls) are like all prude, but I would like to grind and make out with people that I'm not dating but all my friends would judge me. We have parties all the time so there's a lot of grinding going on. I didn't grind at the last party because my parents were invited but in school today my friend and I were joking around and I ended up in front of him against the wall and he started grinding me without holding my waist and now everyone is making a huge deal out of it and calling me a slut and I feel horrible but I really want to do stuff like grind! Am I being a slut and should I feel bad??? (link)
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well trust me i went through so many unstable hormones even now when i am 20=) but i am not perfect but, i found ways to try and keep my body pure. they are books by Robin Jones Gunn! she writes about love, life! and they helped and gave me good verses! i wanted to grind and all that stuff and i thought it was fun for some time but, at the end of the day when you are home and having regrets its not worth it!
theres a verse in the Bible , that talks about waiting to awaken love until its time. your body is a temple, you will see when you are older that at 13 its about enjoying life. the grinding will come later when no one is there to take advantage of u. on t.V it may all seem fun,but its all a fleeting thing. go out have fun, know your parents! wait until you don't feel ashamed or guilty.
and don't let people or don't give them power to say what you are! its normal to feel all these things, just limit what you want to watch and less gossip gil=)
you are nrot a SLUT!! you are a beautiful , girl with a bright future! Enjoy being young! time moves so fast~
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this might be hard to follow.
about a month ago me & this guy messed around & almost had sex. i still think i got preggo ,but i got the plan b pill two days after. & then i had my period ,so i'm not pregnant. i know i shouldn't have done anything with him, but what's done is done. anyways, i'm a freshman & he's a senior. i didn't tell anyone but three of my friends. they're all people i know i can trust. but now ,it being a month later ... people know about what i did with that guy *john*. i thought him being a senior, he wouldn't tell anyone ,because i would of thought that it would make him look desperate for going for a freshmen. i didn't tell anyone ,because i didn't wanna be known as a slut. he knows my friend *jessicas* big brother *joe*. joe is 21 ,so he's not in school. but joe has a 17 year old brother that told all his friends at school. so now all my older guy friends know about it & soon, it'll probably be all around school. my mom knows about it, but that's because i told her.
anyway, basically, i just don't know how i'm gonna cope with it. does anyone have anyways that i can just ignore people. or anything? i just hate all of this. :/
anything will help. (link)
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i agree with almost everyone people will always be nasty , especially the ones that are jealous about you..small minds talk about other people and thats a fact. the great thing is your support system is in place, all the people ho you actually do love and care what they think.. its going to hurt ,a and heart breaking but, this are the times your character builds up.. you cant ignore people but, you just have to believe you will go through this and that at the end of the day your support system is stable..when you show people you don't care and are still happy then you have given them no power..no one likes losing and they will move on faster=)
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Can u tell me any good love songs for falling for your best guy friend. And it had to be pop r&b or hip-hop. Hope this helps thanks your very much.
f/14 (link)
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hey
well good songs are
-Hold you down: Jennifer Lopez and Fat Joe
-if this isn't love: Jennifer Hudson
-Happy: Leona Lewis
-who do you tell: Tamia
-my boo: Alicia Keys and Usher
that song with Pharrel and many girls around him..
-with you : Chris Brown
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DETAILS****i told her i liked her about a week ago,and things arent really awkward wich is awesome.But i dont know where to take it from here,i need someone that has experience to help me.thank you
,Declan (link)
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well give her time to adjust, its something new and suprising to her.. girls always like to take time with weighing the pros and cons of every situation ! its in our DNA! the positive thing is she did not say no and hasn't been awkward. give her time, keep showing her you care and give her sometime. show her little things to show her actions speak louder than words! all the best
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My best friend always invites this one kid to hang out with us! He is really mean and says mean things to both of us. Like calling us stupid and stuff like that. I tell him to stop and he doesn't. He is also a huge liar. But she always
asks him to hang out. I told her not too because he's mean and she does anyway and will be like oh force of habit. What do I do?
******she doesn't have a crush on him, he's gay;) (link)
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well maybe she hangs around him because, she knows or has known someone who had difficulty with coming out of the closet..but, regardless you need to move away from her and make new friends. have you heard the saying show me your friends and i can tell your character..its good to let people go, it inspires growth inside. if she can not respect your wishes , try to move on! i know its hard but, how long will you depress your emotions..thats how depression grows! learn to put you first sometimes, surround yourself with positivity!
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