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What is the least painful way to have sex for the first time?
I am losing my virginity this weekend and I know it's going to hurt a lot. I don't want it to because my boyfriend thinks I've had sex before. I've NEVER been fingered and NEVER masturbated. I never even wore a tampon. It'll really be my first time having sex in any way so it's a big deal for me to not sound like it hurts. My boyfriend already had sex with 4 girls before so he knows what to expect from somebody who isn't a virgin.
My question is what would be the least painful way to lose virginity. Like should he be on top then so he doesn't notice or is there an exercise I can do or what? Is there something I can put on me down there that will numb my vagina?
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Okay, when I lost my virginity, it hurt a lot! But after the first time, I let him finger me & then I practice stretching as in splits to relieve pain on my inner thighs. But let your boyfriend finger you but make sure when your ready, 3 fingers have to be in. Practice doing the splits everyday, it takes away that inner thigh pain. When it all comes down to having sex, take it SLOW. When it starts to hurt, let him know.
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ohk . dont freak . what i think you should do before your big weekend is get ready . be shaved and alll dolled up Lmao . but you will be very tight witch will make the dick harder to insert into your vagina witch will cause you pain and most likley to scream Lol . a position that well be goood is missionary . he should be on top the first time . once ur hymen also called cherry pops you will bleed . but after the first time alll the sex is worth it . it will deffinatly feel better the second and the rest of the times . i hoped i help . have funn (:
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regardless of what age you are , i'm going to take different approach. i'm sure you have considered all the options but, i want to take my approach as one of your girls.
its not always as painful as you think or hear. there is some joy at the same time, that surpasses the pain you will feel. my only concern for you is the fact that he doesn't not know you are a virgin.
i'm sure you do love him but , being a virgin is really not overrated. i advice you to tell him that you are on , and still willing to lose your virginity to him. it really does suck if you going to use an excercise or a sex toy to lose it. i really urge you to tell him, so he can go slow. he might just go really hard and make the experience less enjoyable than it should. tell him, so he can go slow, please use protection, whether its the pill or condoms. take extra caution.
so thats me being your girlfriend, this is me being your sister. please wait , his already had sex with 4 girls and they are put in the past. having sex with a guy already ties you with someone for life. its a bond you should share with someone who you really are a hundred percent sure with , someone who knows will accept that gift . its a gift, and you are very special because you still have it..
start slow, start with the fingering , have a feel with what it feels like before going for it. imagine those four girls , that his had sex with and doesn't talk to them anymore. do you really want that momentarily secureness. the fact that he doesn't know you are virgin. already shows signs that you acted like a different person to get him. he didn't fall in love with you. give someone that chance to fall in love with the real you.
what ever your choice is, tell me how it goes. fingers crossed**
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than fore the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
Before you make your decision please review the following website.
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First off, I don't mean to nag, but if you have to lie to your boyfriend about being a virgin, why would you want to lose it to him? Personally, I think he has a right to know, because with taking someone's virginity, comes attatchment. You're ALWAYS going to remember your first time, and your first guy. If your relationship is built on lies, that's all it's ever going to be. You should tell him.
Anyways, for the advice... make sure you don't get right into it. Fool around lots, have him finger you (and finger yourself, before hand). Use a condom, always. Honestly, it shouldn't hurt that much, as long as you're wet. Oh, and don't be tense, relax your muscles when he's putting it in.
Hope I helped.
iloveyousomuchxo!
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plenty of lubrication, A. a condom, B. and what i've learned is that if the girl is mentally impaired it doesn't hurt as bad. ie: if she's drunk or high. i don't know if you're into any of that, but if not, then here is some pain advice:
he should be on top. anytime you feel pain, try to cover up the moans of pain to make them sound like moans of pleasure. try to have sex in the dark. and if he says that you're "tight", explain to your boyfriend that its been awhile. he'll be able to tell that you're tight.
most importantly, try not to focus on it too much. have a movie or a song playing in the backround that you can focus on or something else to keep you from concentrating on whats happening.
take care, and USE A CONDOM. if he's had sex with 4 girls, there is a chance that you could get an STD.
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Well i don't know how old you are so i am not going to sit here and tell you not to have sex, but i think you should definitely make sure he uses protection. Also try some KY lube for women. I hope i helped.
Nikita<3
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