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Why didn't he believe I was a virgin?
18, Female.
This is SO weird, but I'm not complaining :) Just curious.
I've only been fingered twice, nothing else has been in my vagina. Well I get wet really easily, and it's a lot. The first time I had sex, I was SO scared it was going to hurt and it didn't hurt ONE BIT, NOTHING. I was shocked, is this normal? I'm scared if I do it again or something it's going to hurt, but I don't know if it will since it didn't the first time??
And, the guy I had sex with didn't believe I was a virgin. Long story, no I don't regret having sex with him we're friends. But what I'm asking is ..is this a good or bad thing? He knew I was before, told him to be careful with me and he said he would but I know he still didn't believe me. After we had sex and were laying in bed, I said you took my virginity you know that? I was a virgin. He smiled and looked at me and said "No you weren't ;)"
I don't know if I was loose or something, or if I was just good at it? Haha I was wondering, why he still didn't think I was a virgin before I had sex with him. What do you guys think?
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well the thing is sometimes you can lose your virginity if you excercise a lot especially if you do a bar sport like in gymnastics or something like that or horse riding. or the fact that you get wet easily does contribute because thats the liquid that supposed to make it easy like lubrication lol. so maybe thats why it was easier for you. everyone goes through different experiences when it comes to sex, sometimes it can be painful but the fact that you were wet and he went slow could have been a deciding factor.
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Ah well I think this guy just got the glimpse of your excellent challenges in bed probably , and does not believe you were a virigin , because you probabaly were good at it , and knew what you were doing and like you get wet easily and had SOME experience. Also , I agree with jospehballard10 who said that since you had sex with him , he can not believe your a virgin , but before you did not have sex with him , he probabaly thought you were one. My advice to you is that he thought you were not one because you were either good and he just had sex with you. I think that is a good thing he said that.
Good luck girl : )
- I am sure your good.
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Not everyone experiences pain when losing their virginity. Specifically, it's entirely common for women who make it as far as 18 to have broken their hymen before sex ever happens. Close friend of mine was into horses, and she broke her hymen when she was 13 on a particularly rough ride. Things like that happen. Sometimes you just have less hymen than other girls and there's not much to tear.
Seriously though, even if it hurts the pain is momentary and generally goes away pretty quickly. Every woman who's ever had sex has risked it and come out fine one way or another, it's nothing to get yourself worked up over.
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He most likely believed you were a virgin when you told him before you two had sexual intercourse but afterwards given the situation that you just described no longer did. My answer to this is that its just normal. I was reading an article about how sex feels different to everyone. The feel of sex can change based on anything. Mood, hunger, thirst, e.t.c. Of course you hear all the time virgins who have sex experience pain, but as normal as it gets, due to certain things in your daily life, the painless feeling you got is just as normal as a virgin experiencing pain her first time. Its different for everyone. Yeah maybe you are just good at it lol.
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It's very uncommon for a man to actually be able to tell if his partner is a virgin or not. It was just plain stupid of your friend to assume he could. The hymen can break for many reasons before the first time you have sex, including dancing or sports, so even to expect a virgin to bleed is silly. Each women's body is different. They are different shapes and sizes and tightness, and everyone responds to arousal differently. You’re sexual makeup just made your first time easier for you, but it was still your first time.
Congratulations on having a sense of humor about the whole thing! If a guy had told me I wasn't a virgin, I would have kicked him in the balls and told him to grow a better pair. I certainly wouldn’t choose to sleep with someone again who thought I was a liar.
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haha !
GREAT QUESTION!
okk well i am a virgin and my ex.. thought that i wasnt a virgin bt i am.. so one day i asked him i said why you dont think im a virign and he said because the way i look because i have curves and things like that... i was like right. bt idk why guys think that girls arent virgin when they really are. and maybe the first time when you had sex didnt hurt because your active. (NOT SEXAULLY ACTIVE) laugh out loud bt i mean like play play a sport or something because when you play a sport it is most likely that you wont feel any pain. and i mad that he didnt beleiev you when you told him that he took your viriginty shaking my head...guys are dumb. he probably thought you werent a virgin because for most girls it would usaually hurt and for you it didnt.
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