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my boyfriend and I
Well me and my boyfriend yes the Jeff guy we started dating and well he is wanting to get "serious" and im cool with that as long as we dont have sex. I promised everyone, me and God also i would wait until i was married. But what do i do if he wants to have sex? FYI im 13 1/2 and hes 14. I dont think im old enough but all my friends do it but idk... I mean its okay to fool around and have some fun but i dont want him to take it farther than that. Its just too much for me to take in right now. I mean i "want" to have sex sooo badly but i dont want to break my promise, or my cherry....yet...... im in eight grade and all but i just reallyyyyy donntttt knooowwwww.............
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No. you are 13 are you out of your mind? What would your parents say?
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I'm not going to tell you that you're too young to think about sex. You're a teenager, and your hormones are just waking up now. You're starting to have all sorts of new feelings that you're not prepared to deal with quite yet. All of that is totally normal. Your morals and values are going to be challenged all the time. Whether you change them or not is up to you.
If you don't want to have sex, then you don't need to. If you feel that you have to have sex in order to keep the relationship, then the relationship isn't worth keeping. If Jeff is a good guy, then he will wait as long as he needs to, and he won't pressure you beyond your limits. You can even tell him ahead of time that you're not having sex before marriage, period, end of story. If he has a problem with that, then he's free to pack up and go.
No boy is worth compromising your values. If you want to remain a virgin until marriage, or until you're 18, or forever, that's up to you. Remember that it's not a bad thing to change your mind later on. You made that promise at a young age. While you mature, you may find reasons to have sex before marriage, and that's just fine. The only way you could possibly go wrong is to have sex before you are ready for it.
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definitely wait!trust me I've ben there...he pressured me into doing it and once we did everything changed.He became more distant and our initial "liking feeling" had changed too and not for the best. 2 weeks later he broke up with me.I regret what I did so so so much and I wish I could change what happened, but I can't.If I were you I would wait and if he really likes you he won't pressure you into doing something you aren't ready for.You have plenty of time to do that when you're married.Don't be like me and lose your virginity(which is a very special thing)to someone you may or may not be with in the future.
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listen i understand where you coming from bt you are TOO YOUNG to be thinking about sex.. yes now and days it may seem like every one is doing it but in realty there not. you have your whole life to have sex and remember it only takes one chance to get pregant you and your boyfriend dont no what sex is about yet. you can think about sex wehn your older and im glad that you have goals for yourself by promising to God that you wont have sex thats good ! i think you should keep your proimse to God. and i know that sometimes you might b tempted to have sex bt i dnt think yu should give in and jus end it right then and there. your in eighth grade you shouldnt b having sex and for all the friends you hang out that have sex im jus shaking my head because that is so sad. God has made us for marriage not to jus give all are things away dont you want to have sex with someone who you will b with for ever? i mean realisticly do you really think that you and this jeff guy will b together for ever? idk i jus hope i helped if you need anything else hit me up =]] !
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You are TOO YOUNG to be thinking about these things. It may seem 'normal' now, but most kids your age just talk about that stuff and don't actually do it. And those who do do it are called horrible words like whore, slut, hoe, etc. Wait til you are more mature and have been in a longer relationship to do anything besides kissing. You should feel completely comfortable with the boy and trust him. If he won't stay in the relationship if there isn't sex involved, he doesn't care about you. Don't do something if you have any doubts. Remember, you won't regret waiting to do something sexual, but you may regret doing it to early.
Good luck,
-Abby
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