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I think that I need some advice on whether or not I should stay with my boyfriend. I have been dating him for about a year and two months. (We broke up briefly in the beginning of August, but we decided to get back together, and are still together as of now. ) I'm very confused about my feelings for him. He is a really great guy and there are qualities about him that I don't see in anyone else that I know. That is part of the reason that I have stayed with him for so long; I don't know anyone else that I believe will treat me like he does, or be there for me like he is. He definitely gets me. He's funny, affectionate, and he is very loyal and kind. He gets along with my family and friends, which is very important to me. We both share a lot of morals, too. That was part of the reason that we started dating - we were friends first, but noticed qualities in each other that we couldn't see in any of our mutual friends and it progressed from there. We have been together for such a long time, and that is why it was very difficult to go from being so close to completely broken up. We broke up for a week, and whenever I saw him I wanted to cry. The reason we broke up is complicated. I'd been feeling like breaking up with him for a while now, but there was always some big event that the two of us were looking forward to that stopped me. (For example: I couldn't break up with him before senior prom, etc.) Then he told me he loved me on our one-year, and I just didn't feel right saying it back. It's incredibly difficult for me to think about breaking up with him again, but I know that deep down I shouldn't be with someone that I don't feel like I 100% love. I don't want to hurt him, and I know that he was really hurt when we broke up before. I was too. When we broke up, I felt so alone, and I felt like it was the wrong decision. I feel better now that we are together; I feel content. Whenever we hang out, I have a pretty good time. But there's still a part of me that wants to be free, and wants to search for a guy who is an even better match for me, and be able to do whatever I want in the mean time. I have no idea what I should do. I'm torn between staying with him and breaking up with him. Just the thought of us breaking up makes me cringe. What do you think I should do? Thank you. (link)
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I think you know what you should do.You don't feel like you love him in that way anymore and it isn't fair to lead him on.You're gonna feel alone at first because you are so used to him being there for you.After every break up no matter who does it both people normally feel alone.If the only reason you're staying with him is because you are afraid of being alone then that's not a good reason to stay with him.
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About a month ago me and my boyfriend broke up (I broke up with him due to something that had happened between us, nothing too serious) He begged for me back, and eventually we got back together. Last week we spoke about that happening, and he said he thinks that for the best we should break up.
We have spoke since and he was undecided whether to try again. He's already been thinking about it for a week, and told me he doesn't want to give it another chance. After speaking to him again he changed his mind and said he wasn't sure because he didn't want to keep breaking up and getting back together. I know this won't happen again, not on my part any way. He said he loves me and he still wants to be with me, just the circumstances of the "breaking up and getting back together"
I spoke to him and he said he's re-thinking everyting. He said it was hurting him a lot too. If it hurts for him then why can't he give it another chance if he's sure that he wants me back? Do you think that means he doesn't want me back? He told my friend that he hopes we can work on it, but I don't know if he's saying that just to sound the nice guy. (link)
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I am going through the exact same thing you are.The truth that we both need to realize is it won't work out.If he cares about you as much as he says he does then this shouldn't be a hard choice.He should want to be with you and want to work it out, but he has to think about it.He might think the only reason it's hard is because he feels alone without you.I feel alone without my boyfriend and I know I want to feel loved again and I want to have someone to care about and to care about me too.I want someone to always be there to talk to, but the more I think about it the more I realize that's what I want.Maybe you guys are the same you guys want that so much you're settling for each other.I know it hurts, but maybe it's for the best.Try being friends for a little bit and if in a couple weeks you guys still like each other then try it out.Chances are the more you think about it the more you'll realize you guys should be friends.Hope this helps.
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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This answer is probably going to be long...I have a lot to say!I'm going to apologize for that before I even answer the question.
First off he shouldn't be creating a group on facebook about your relationship. What happens between you guys should only be your business. IF he tells anyone it should only be a close friend, definitely not everyone. Facebook is so public that nothing even kinda personal should be posted on it. He wouldn't want you going around telling everyone he knows his deepest secrets. You don't have anything to hide, but it takes away the special intimate feeling that you get when you are with someone. Of course there are some things people can know, but not everything, because then there is nothing left to be special for you guys.
Relationships are about trust. Even if he did make the group wouldn't you rather know about it?He probably is scared to tell you, because he is afraid what your reaction will be, but he should still admit to it. It was a good idea to give him the chance to tell you. That was fair of you. You didn't get mad, instead you gave him the opportunity to be honest. What he did with that opportunity was his choice. Now you have every right to be upset. He did keep something from you and that wasn't right of him at all. He should have told you the truth as soon as you brought it up. I'm not saying break up with him though. Everyone deserves second chances. If you feel like you can forgive him and move on with your relationship then don't break up with him. If you feel like this is something you can't get over then you need to end it. Before you decide to end it or to move on talk about it with him. Just tell him you know he made the group and your upset about it. Maybe ask him why he made the group or why he didn't tell you about it. Try working things out before you make your decision. It's the only way you will know for sure why he hid it from you, why he made it, and if you wanna be with him or not.
Once again I'm so sorry this was so long! I hope this helps and good luck!:)
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Well me and my boyfriend yes the Jeff guy we started dating and well he is wanting to get "serious" and im cool with that as long as we dont have sex. I promised everyone, me and God also i would wait until i was married. But what do i do if he wants to have sex? FYI im 13 1/2 and hes 14. I dont think im old enough but all my friends do it but idk... I mean its okay to fool around and have some fun but i dont want him to take it farther than that. Its just too much for me to take in right now. I mean i "want" to have sex sooo badly but i dont want to break my promise, or my cherry....yet...... im in eight grade and all but i just reallyyyyy donntttt knooowwwww............. (link)
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definitely wait!trust me I've ben there...he pressured me into doing it and once we did everything changed.He became more distant and our initial "liking feeling" had changed too and not for the best. 2 weeks later he broke up with me.I regret what I did so so so much and I wish I could change what happened, but I can't.If I were you I would wait and if he really likes you he won't pressure you into doing something you aren't ready for.You have plenty of time to do that when you're married.Don't be like me and lose your virginity(which is a very special thing)to someone you may or may not be with in the future.
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You can love in a lot of ways. you can be with someone so amazing and say you love them; the next, and scariest step, if youre serious enough, can be saying youre in love with them.
(lets make sure we know the difference between loving someone & being in love with someone. i always believed you can only be in love so many times.)
For example, my story.. i met this guy in the beginning of sophomore year. we began to talk but we didnt get close until early 2010. we were best friends for months & then he admitted to liking me. I began to like him back and weve been together officially for nearly two months.
when someone's your best friend, is it faster to fall in love? how do you know? what's the differnece between loving someone & being in love with them?
i know they say youll know when you know. but maybe there are some little factors that everybody catches on.
thank you!
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For me being in love with someone is when you can't picture your life without them and they complete you. You want them to be happy even if that means hurting you. Loving someone is wanting the best for them and caring about them. Friendship is a good base to build a relationship off of. I'm in love with my boyfriend and we only knew each other for two days before we started dating. You just know when you're in love. For me it's when I think about him i get butterflies in my stomach and my heart races. He can make me smile just by walking in the room and make me cry, because I'm so happy to be with him. I think about him constantly and don't want to be with anyone, but him.That's how I knew I was in love with him, but it's different for everyone. You're the only person who knows if you're in love with him or not, but friendship probably helps just a little bit make someone fall in love faster.
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Female. 15. 10th grade.
This is a story back from my years in the Jr. High (7th grade to 9th grade). People think my band director and I had a little bit of a strange relationship. I was close to him, everyone has their favorite teacher. He was mine. He was a sweetheart, he cared about his students but he was stern when he needed to be, he wasn't a pushover. I am now in the Sr. High band which is a lot more difficult due to competitions and all of the practices but one thing my Sr. High band director brings up a lot is how we weren't trained right in Jr. High, which makes me think of my Jr. High band director. I didn't really think much of the way we acted in Jr. High but looking back on it, our relationship was kinda strange. I guess I'll bullet some of the things that stood out to me.
-In seventh grade I didn't really care what I looked like, so I wore my hair up a lot. When I started wearing it down and making it look pretty like curling it, my teacher noticed and said I looked different, that it was nice.
-If I was late for a class, the teacher would tell me to hurry but they would always ask me to do things for them, I would wind up being late but they would never write me a pass because they warned me to hurry. So, I would walk to the band room and my band director would write them for me.
-If I wanted to skip a class like gym or something, he would excuse me from the class by telling the teacher I needed to practice my instrument, we had a concert coming up or something.
-One day at sectionals, it was me, my close friend and my band director. He sat next to me on the right and my friend sat next to me on the left, two seats over, so it was him-me-empty seat-her. I kept trying this part that I couldn't get down and once I finally got it, I was really excited so I was like "yea yea! woo!" and accidentally put my hand on his thigh, in excitement. I had no intention of making that like a sexual move, it just.. happened. He didn't look shocked nor move my hand, I moved it when I actually realized it was there.
-His office is right in the music suite hallway so he always keeps his door shut to keep the noise of the practicing instruments or chattering kids out. I would go into his office to talk with the door shut and the other kids would look in on us.
-He would know when something was wrong with me, because of the way I acted, I'm usually talkative and happy so he knows when something's up with me and he'd always ask.
-He always called me my full first and last name and I would always tell him he can just call me by my first name but he never did. So, one day I said that I am going to start calling him by his first name and I did sometimes and he didn't seem to mind, when we were with other kids, though, he would tell me that his name was Mr. ___
-Playing the instrument I do put me in the first row for concert band and I would talk A LOT because I sat next to one of my best friends and he would always scold us for talking but smile after. Then at the end of my last Jr. High year he said "sure is gonna be quiet without you.. I'll miss it."
-He had since had his first child when I left for the Sr. High and we had always joked that he was going to have a girl and name her after me and she's going to play the same instrument I do and he joked back he would put her up for adoption if she was ever as talkative as me and I said oh pfft, you love it & he would take a second and say "yea, I guess I do. Makes band more fun."
-He would be walking out of the band suite and I would be walking in, say hello to him and we'd stop in the hallway and talk for a few minutes.
-He let me sit in on his music classes (if you teach band or orchestra you also teach music class) and sit in on his study halls and play on his computer.
-My mom said a few times "if you had this relationship with any other teacher, I would be worried about this."
So? Be completely honest, just don't scold me or yell at me if you think we crossed the line. Do you think we passed the student teacher boundaries? Why do you think that we did or didn't? Maybe he just favored me.. do you think he kinda liked me? Thanks! (link)
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I don't think you guys crossed the line. It wasn't a teacher student relationship though. It was more of a friendship with an adult and a child. There were no sexual remarks or inappropriate touching. You just felt like you trusted him and you could talk to him easily. Everyone has an adult like this and that doesn't mean that you guys are doing inappropriate things. He was just someone you were close with so no I don't think you crossed the line.
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Alright, I am having my Sweet Sixteen next month. I am not the kind of person that goes to parties a lot nor has them, haha, I'm in the marching band.. yea.. geek. So this is why I am stressing, I want my party to be spectacular. I am planning to put a chocolate fountain on the table with the food and the blender to make smoothies and virgin pina coladas. I also want to have a paint fight. I will tell everyone to bring something white, an old shirt or something and we're gonna fill up water balloons with paint and just go wild. If you ever had a paint fight before, PLEASE tell me how it went! I'm also gonna bring out my Ipod and speakers and blare my music. Also, at around 10ish pm we are going to play manhunt.
My question is, would you come to my party, if you know, you were invited? Does it seem fun to you? If it doesn't sound fun to you, what can I do to make it more fun and interesting? Thanks for your input! (link)
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I would come!It sounds like it's going to be tons of fun!
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Can you get in the ocean with you period? (link)
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Yes you can. You don't HAVE to wear a tampon, but it would most likely show on your swimsuit, so tampons are the way to go.:)
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hi, ive had my first period a month ago,but i haven't had sex because im only 12, and ive missed this months periods is it ok, after my first one to be irregular i dont know what to do, i would really like a answer please,
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Don't worry sweetie, you're fine. For the first year periods tend to be irregular. I missed mine 3 months in a row my first year. It can take up to 3 years to get a consistent period. Don't worry about it though!
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My good friend and I have been friends since third grade. We are now in tenth. He is a boy, I am a girl. Both 15. I love him, he's like a brother to me an I wouldn't ask for him to be any different. Except, everyone thinks we like eachother and need to get together ASAP!! Annoying, much. Especially when you're talking and people walk by saying "ooooh" can a boy and a girl not be friends without being more? I am going to name a few things between us.
1. I literally tell him everything. He tells me some pretty personal things.
2. I bring him in his favorite pack of crackers. Everyday.
3. I apologize to him for dumping all of my problems on him all the time and he tells me he doesn't mind, that he cares about what's bothering me or what's been getting me down.
4. My one "friend" made me cry during a fight through texting. I had texted him after asking him if I am what she called me and he said no way, you don't even need to worry about her. She's stupid and has no right even talking to you.
5. We text. Alot.
6. He is really smart, so whenever I need help, he always helps me with homework or understanding something.
7. We are both in the marching band, during last marching season, we'd pass eachother on the field, look at eachother and smile during set.
8. I usually start our conversations and he usually ends them, so when I end them, I dont think he likes that. So I'll say like oh dinner gtg and he'd be like 'oh. See ya, then..'
9. His friend started the rumor that we like eachother and want to be together after I started giving him his crackers.
10. he'd talk about girls he think are cute and stuff and I would generally seem interested. When I talk about a guy or something he'd be like "oh. He's alright. "
sooooo? You think we like eachother? I know it's not alot but work with it, please! Thank you for all your answers and God bless! (link)
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I think you might like him, but only you know for sure. I can't tell you how you feel about this boy, because I'm not you. It's obvious that you care deeply about him. My best friend was like this with her now boyfriend. It's been 2 and a half years now since they started going out. You should try to talk to him about it. You guys are so close that he shouldn't mind talking about it and he might want to talk to you about it and is just too shy. Based on the way you talk about him I think you like him. You should go for it, because you'll never know unless you try and you would hate to regret not knowing what would have happened. Good luck!
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Hi im me and my best friends are 6th graders we mostly do everything together. She has this cute brother but his in the 8th grade. 1 or 2 of my friends say he night have a crush on me. But im scared to ask out my best friend brother out. So what do i? (link)
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well you never know if you don't try. I liked my best friends brother and he was a 10th grader and I was only an 8th grader. I never said anything but turns out he liked me too. I'm not saying this guy will like u back, but its worth a shot. I think you should tell him and see what he says.
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This guy told me he likes me because i'm naive? what did he mean? (link)
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naive is a bit offensieve. He probably just meant innocent which isnt a bad thing.
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how did you meet? i'm just curious to see what's out there. (link)
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I met my boyfriend of 3 years through a friend. She had always talked about him and I got curious so I added him as a friend on facebook and chatted him. He later asked for my number and we talked all the time. We met in person and really hit it off.
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Hey. Okay. I am a fifteen year old girl... when I was fourteen I liked a boy who told me he liked me too until we had a conversation one day about sex and I told him I believed in waiting for marriage and he told me he didn't like me anymore... My first boyfriend after that I thought I loved. Yeah, I know, I was young and stupid haha. But he could have told me the sky was green and I'd believe him. I believed everything he said. He talked me into giving him head and broke up with me immediatly after. He told me he didn't like me anymore, but he wanted that before we split... It hurt so bad to know that he had only said he loved me to use me... Later on he told me that for the last three months of our seven month relationship, he was only in it for the physical stuff. A few months after that I went on a date with a guy who attempted to rape me. He heard rumors that I "put out" and wanted to see how lucky he could get. I just don't understand... I feel so horrible right now. I feel like the only thing I have to offer anyone is my body. Am I really such a sucky person that that's the only reason any guy will stick around?? So many guys have "professed their love" (guys I've never even talked to!!) to me but they just want something... I feel useless. Like that sexual stuff is the only thing I'm good for. I know I'm not ugly but I'm starting to doubt if any guy can love me for the inside stuff. Or if I'm even worth the time for them to try to see what's there. (link)
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you are definitely NOT a sucky person. Boys at this age just try to "get some" it's not you it's the boys. I'm so sorry this had to happen to you. Eventually a boy will come around that cares about the real you not the physical stuff. You aren't useless either. I bet you have an amazing personality and these boys are just too stupid to see it. Don't look down on yourself!!Just be careful with the boys you trust your heart with.
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hi
im SO close with my ex, that people think were in love.
were on and off
he drives me insane both good and bad.
but i want space from him, see other guys.
and i want to get over him
how do i do this.
a couple of guys at school like me. and i like one of them should i ask him out???
do i ignore my ex, say anything to him
please help me out!
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If you want to get over your ex you should go out with another boy. Creating space between you and your ex will definitely help too. You don't have to stop talking to him or being with him completely, but not all the time. If you want to stay friends with him then ignoring him is a bad idea, but you do need more space. If you were super close with him and you could have serious talks with him then maybe mention to him that you need a little more space, but if you weren't then don't.
Hope this helps!
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ooook! so if my boyfriend and i havent had sex for a few weeks because i was scared i was pregent, but i had my period yesterday.. is there a chance im pregnant? because ive read that if you have your period then your good but ive also read that some women still had there period even though they were prego?!! (link)
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Most people don't have their period while their pregnant, but some do. The only way you'll know for sure if you're pregnant is if you take a pregnancy test.
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okay so
im going to be a senior next year at highschool,
but i went to a club last night with fake ids...and some of my friends knew the bouncers and stuff so like yeah
i was only going to enjoy the night since its summer time!
so i danced with couple of guys and one of them was really cute
he asked for my number so i gave it to him altho i was a bit scared of telling a total stranger my number..
then he texted me and did not seem like a bad guy at all
it really sounded like he wanted to see me later on, eat together youknow, not like a one night stand shit or whatever
i had to lie to him that im 18 and going to college next fall, but im actually 17.
he wants to see me this weekend eat and watch movies or something - (so sweet)
i do want to go, but i've never lied to person this much! my age and that im going to college soon? should i just tell him now that im actually a senior? or tell him after we meet and see if he still wants to see me again...
okay that was kinda long. i need help. ? (link)
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If I were you I would be honest with him before you guys go out, because if you do go out with you're risking that you like him even more than you do now. If you like him more than you won't ever want to tell him the truth and age may matter to him, especially since you wouldn't be a legal adult yet. Be honest with him before going out with him.
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Okay. See here's the thing. I used to be such a stubborn independ, strong willed girl. You couldn't tell me to do anything, I was crazy. But when I started dating this boy. I think I let him change me... And I think I know the night it happened. I was hanging out with him one night and we were kissing, normal stuff. But then it started getting kind of hot, like I started to press into him more (we were laying down on the couch, I was on top) then he pulled me down so he was on top and started to press into me even harder, it almost hurt. He stopped for a second because I was hesitating now. I apologized and reminded him this was the first time I've ever been this physical with a guy, cuz he was my first boyfriend. He said it's okay and kept going. He started putting his hand down my pants and I pulled it out. A few minutes later he put it down again and I pulled it out. He put it in a third time and I knew, I knew it was wrong for him to keep doing this but somehow I also thought it was okay... I can't even explain it. It's like I shut down and just let him. I let him finger me. Then he stopped and I didn't even notice it but I had started crying. I don't know why I couldn't tell him to stop... I wasn't scared I was just like lost... completely zoned out. I don't know. He didn't notice I was crying and we kept going. He then proceeded to put my hand in his pants and I pulled it away. He asked me for a handjob and I said no. He told me it was okay. The next time we hung out he pulled down his pants and put my hand... well you know where. I started giving him a hj. I don't know why I couldnt' say no!! I started to cry though and we stopped and he hugged me, I just told him I didn't want to go so fast and he said okay. Except everytime we hung out he continued to finger me. When we hit six months I knew something was wrong. It was like this kid had sucked all of my strength out of me. I wasn't myself anymore. And when he asked for a bj I said no but like usual the things he said to convice me stopped seeming ilke convincing and started making so much sense even though I knew it was wrong. He told me things like "it's been six months, I finger you and it seems like that aspect of our relationship is completely one-sided. you should be comfortable enough to do this for me." and I did it... I was shocked with myself. I couldn't believe I was fourteen and doing this. I started crying after but he held me and told me it was okay and that he loved me and I believed him. He could tell me anything and I'd believe him. I don't know how our relationship got like this. Anyway, he dumped four days later. Its been two months since the break up and I know I'm stronger now. But I'm scared to trust myself with liking a guy again. I HATED how pathetic and used my ex made me feel. I HATED being his little slave. I don't ever want that again... I don't know if I can't trust boys or if I can't trust myself... I don't know what to do. How can I get back who I was?? (link)
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You can trust other boys. Don't let one boy change how you feel about al boys. If you do go out with someone new then just make how you feel about doing things with him clear at first. I know it's hard to say no when things are happening, because I've been there before too. I was so afraid to disappoint and upset him that I let him do things to me I didn't want to happen. If you make how you feel about going far clear at first and they still pressure you into something you don't want to do then they aren't respecting what you want. If they break up with you because of it then you wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't respect what you want and how you feel.
For getting your old self back, it'll take a little more time. The past is the past and by feeling bad about it you're just going to make yourself feel bad. Eventually you'll become yourself again. Talk to a close friend about it and maybe that will help you feel like yourself again. You're putting yourself down, which is why you aren't as independent as you were before. Once you feel good about yourself again, the old you will come back.
Hope this helps!
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My friend and I have been friends for 6 years. The weirdist part was when he hugged me really tight and held my hand in a car ride one day. That day he said he started to like me by text and i said i did to. But I rather be friends for now. The next day, he said it was just a crush and he apologized for what he did. Well now,we're still friends, but he still teases me in a funny nice way. Not only that but he wants my family to respect him and makes sure he's on his proper behavior. Not only that, but he insists on sticking my my side just incase someone tries to hurt me. But i dont know, there is mixed signals is there somthing there that he truly did like me? Or was it just a joke...
Please help me. (link)
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It seems to me that this guy really did like you. He might of thought you didn't like him so by saying he didn't like you things aren't awkward. Maybe you should try to talk to him about it.
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I heard from my friend that she read some place online that Justin Bieber hates Koreans and refuses to do a performance in North Korea because of it. I haven't been able to find anything factual online and a lot of the news stories are confusing to me.
Can someone just please clear it up and let me know if he does hate Koreans then? I really like Justin Beiber but I just cannot be a Bieber fan if he hates Koreans because I'm half Korean myself. You know what I mean? I would just feel weird about liking him then.
I know it sounds trivial but please let me know. Thanks. (link)
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Justin Beiber does not hate Koreans. He had a survey on the internet to see where he should perform next on his world tour and someone hacked it and voted for North Korea. North Korea is now in first place and has received over a half million votes, so no Justin Beirber does not hate North Koreans. His tour manger won't let him perform there though.
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