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should i stay with my boyfriend?
I think that I need some advice on whether or not I should stay with my boyfriend. I have been dating him for about a year and two months. (We broke up briefly in the beginning of August, but we decided to get back together, and are still together as of now. ) I'm very confused about my feelings for him. He is a really great guy and there are qualities about him that I don't see in anyone else that I know. That is part of the reason that I have stayed with him for so long; I don't know anyone else that I believe will treat me like he does, or be there for me like he is. He definitely gets me. He's funny, affectionate, and he is very loyal and kind. He gets along with my family and friends, which is very important to me. We both share a lot of morals, too. That was part of the reason that we started dating - we were friends first, but noticed qualities in each other that we couldn't see in any of our mutual friends and it progressed from there. We have been together for such a long time, and that is why it was very difficult to go from being so close to completely broken up. We broke up for a week, and whenever I saw him I wanted to cry. The reason we broke up is complicated. I'd been feeling like breaking up with him for a while now, but there was always some big event that the two of us were looking forward to that stopped me. (For example: I couldn't break up with him before senior prom, etc.) Then he told me he loved me on our one-year, and I just didn't feel right saying it back. It's incredibly difficult for me to think about breaking up with him again, but I know that deep down I shouldn't be with someone that I don't feel like I 100% love. I don't want to hurt him, and I know that he was really hurt when we broke up before. I was too. When we broke up, I felt so alone, and I felt like it was the wrong decision. I feel better now that we are together; I feel content. Whenever we hang out, I have a pretty good time. But there's still a part of me that wants to be free, and wants to search for a guy who is an even better match for me, and be able to do whatever I want in the mean time. I have no idea what I should do. I'm torn between staying with him and breaking up with him. Just the thought of us breaking up makes me cringe. What do you think I should do? Thank you.
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I agree with Lindsay10. If you have a gut feeling, then you should go with it. Deep down, you know you're staying with him because you feel like you have to and you're used to having him there. You also said that some big event that gets in the way of you breaking up with him. The truth is that no time is the "right" time to break something off with someone. You just have to stand strong and do it for yourself. If you keep making excuses and waiting for a perfect moment, things will just get worse. If you care about him, but don't want to be with him anymore, you have to be honest with yourself and give him the respect he deserves by at least being honest with him as well. Hope I helped. Good luck!
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You have a long time to find "the right one" for you. I'm currently dealing with the fact that I'm no longer with the guy that I happen to be in love with. Separating yourself from him will be hard, but it'll eventually get better as time goes on. If you're not absolutely 100% sure, then don't be with him. The only reason you feel guilty for wanting to break up with him is because you've developed a "comfort-zone" with him. You've already put so much time and/or effort into this relationship so you feel like you have to stick it out. That's not the case. You deserve to be with someone you ABSOLUTELY want to be with. If something doesn't quite feel right, then it probably isn't. Don't be in any hurry to settle down. Live your life according to you, and he'll find you. You'll find eachother. (:
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You obviously need to break up with him, of course it's gonna be hard, of course it's not gonna be okay, i mean it feels okay when you hang out with guy friends but that doesn't mean you should date them. I think you feel okay with him because you do get along with him. But this doesn't mean you two have to stop talking, i mean the fact that ya'll share a lot of things in common makes ya'll a good match to be really good friends.This feeling is not gonna go away the feeling to be "free" because you're not completely happy with him it will probably just begin to settle in. The more you wait the more it's gonna hurt him, because you are growing more and more attached and basically by staying with him getting him more in love with you and everything, but listen if he really cares about you let you be happy if you decide to break up, don't worry everyone feels alone right after, but with time it will heal, just don't do something you are not happy about. Hope i helped, SandyDandy:)
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I think you know what you should do.You don't feel like you love him in that way anymore and it isn't fair to lead him on.You're gonna feel alone at first because you are so used to him being there for you.After every break up no matter who does it both people normally feel alone.If the only reason you're staying with him is because you are afraid of being alone then that's not a good reason to stay with him.
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