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I think that I need some advice on whether or not I should stay with my boyfriend. I have been dating him for about a year and two months. (We broke up briefly in the beginning of August, but we decided to get back together, and are still together as of now. ) I'm very confused about my feelings for him. He is a really great guy and there are qualities about him that I don't see in anyone else that I know. That is part of the reason that I have stayed with him for so long; I don't know anyone else that I believe will treat me like he does, or be there for me like he is. He definitely gets me. He's funny, affectionate, and he is very loyal and kind. He gets along with my family and friends, which is very important to me. We both share a lot of morals, too. That was part of the reason that we started dating - we were friends first, but noticed qualities in each other that we couldn't see in any of our mutual friends and it progressed from there. We have been together for such a long time, and that is why it was very difficult to go from being so close to completely broken up. We broke up for a week, and whenever I saw him I wanted to cry. The reason we broke up is complicated. I'd been feeling like breaking up with him for a while now, but there was always some big event that the two of us were looking forward to that stopped me. (For example: I couldn't break up with him before senior prom, etc.) Then he told me he loved me on our one-year, and I just didn't feel right saying it back. It's incredibly difficult for me to think about breaking up with him again, but I know that deep down I shouldn't be with someone that I don't feel like I 100% love. I don't want to hurt him, and I know that he was really hurt when we broke up before. I was too. When we broke up, I felt so alone, and I felt like it was the wrong decision. I feel better now that we are together; I feel content. Whenever we hang out, I have a pretty good time. But there's still a part of me that wants to be free, and wants to search for a guy who is an even better match for me, and be able to do whatever I want in the mean time. I have no idea what I should do. I'm torn between staying with him and breaking up with him. Just the thought of us breaking up makes me cringe. What do you think I should do? Thank you. (link)
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You have a long time to find "the right one" for you. I'm currently dealing with the fact that I'm no longer with the guy that I happen to be in love with. Separating yourself from him will be hard, but it'll eventually get better as time goes on. If you're not absolutely 100% sure, then don't be with him. The only reason you feel guilty for wanting to break up with him is because you've developed a "comfort-zone" with him. You've already put so much time and/or effort into this relationship so you feel like you have to stick it out. That's not the case. You deserve to be with someone you ABSOLUTELY want to be with. If something doesn't quite feel right, then it probably isn't. Don't be in any hurry to settle down. Live your life according to you, and he'll find you. You'll find eachother. (:
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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If there's secrets in the relationship then most likely it's not a real one. The truth might hurt, but, I'm guessing you're young, so you shouldn't settle. If you feel like you have to change him, or try hard to "fix" something that happens, then you should just move on. You have the rest of your life to find the right one. Don't waste your time on some guy who is keeping secrets, and trash-talking you on facebook for everyone else to see. You're absolutely right about keeping private things private. It's a "mutual respect" thing, and seeing as there is none then he might have to learn the hard way. Maybe he'll learn eventually. And if you want to give him another chance later on since you still could have feelings for him then take it slow. Make sure you see that he's different (in a good way), and go from there.
I hope that helped.
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your advice on suicide was great the usa is the worst most fuck up peice of shit place to live im ashamed to have been born here your exactly right is compleatly fucked i live in pittsburgh and have to serve 1year in jail for having 6drinks in 5hrs its complete bullshit but yet my cousin has 13 dui`s in another county and doesent get one day our goverment is so croupt and wack out it is insain this country does make me wanna kill myself i cant stand it here the only way your life will be not that bad is if your born into money or otherwise your fucked the only thing this country cares about is one thing and one thing only ( money) money could mean shit to me norway here i come cause ide rather die than spend another day here fuck you united states you lieing sac of shit there is nothing free in this junk bullshit sorry piece of shit of a country i feel bad my fam has lost lives and fought for what you call freedom if this is freedom than i dont want it all the usa is is fucking lies! (link)
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Yeah, I agree with the two people below me. If you think the United States is so bad, then why are so many people immigrating here ? This is literally one of the best countries that makes up our world, and you were lucky enough to be born in it. So yeah, go ahead and leave; please make room for people who are grateful and actually want to be here.
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18/female.
I dated Rob for a year and we were inseparable. Our one year was a little over a week ago. That day, he said "I love you" to me for the 1st time. I said it back, because when he said it to me, it felt right. I even cried because I was so happy that we had finally said it to each other.
A day after our one year, I spent a week on vacation at a beach resort that I go to every year with my family. Since it is relatively close to where we live, Rob came up to visit me while I was on vacation. Things were good when he was there, and when he had to go home, I missed him.
After he left, I still had a few days left in my vacation. It's kind of an weird situation, but my parents recently got divorced, and my dad invited a lady that he'd met to come and spend a day at our vacation home. It was the first time I'd met her and her three kids. She has a son named Vic and he had a friend with him named Ben. They are two years younger than me, but they act and look like they are the same age as me.
I was immediately drawn to Ben. He was not only physically attractive, but I felt like I could really connect with him. He was extremely kind and respectful to me, and really made an impression on me that is not going away. Even though I only spent time with him for one day, I feel as though he "gets" me, and that is a rare feeling.
When I got home from vacation, things didn't feel right with Rob. We didn't have much to talk about, and we got in an argument. I ended up spilling my guts about how I was feeling bad about saying "i love you," and we sat in silence for a while. After that, we talked for a long time about our relationship.
We decided to stay together that night, but the next morning I woke up to tons of lovey-dovey texts from him. It really turned me off for some reason. I didn't want to even think about him. After he noticed I was acting weird, he said that we should talk later.
We did, and we broke up. It was mutual, because he said that he felt weird when he said "I love you" to me too. We both cried and kissed for one last time. I really care for him, and it still hasn't sunk in that we broke up yet.
I sort of think that I always knew that I didn't have "true love" with Rob. I guess I just needed to realize that there are other guys out there that "get" me, and there are other guys out there that I'm compatible with that I'm also attracted to. Ben isn't the reason we broke up, but it contributed.
While we dated, I felt smothered. I was constantly in communication with Rob, texting and calling each other all day every day. We were always together and always knew what the other was up to. It was terrible for me, because I like to be independent. We have been broken up for two days, and I feel very free, but I also feel crushed at times.
Now, things are awkward with Rob. We both work at the same fast food restaurant, and today I had the night shift. He wasn't working, but he came in with a bunch of people that he knows I'm not fond of. It was pretty dead, so everyone else that was working was talking and laughing with Rob. I felt sick to my stomach, and I was nearly in tears.
During this, Rob was being really friendly to me, and he asked me for a hug, so I hugged him. When I got home from work, I found out that he tried to make plans with my sister to hang out with him and the people he was with. I was so upset that I cried my eyes out because he knows about my relationship with my sister and how much I resent her because I feel like all of my old friends replaced me with her once I drifted apart from them.
I am so confused. I know that I don't want to be with Rob, but it hurts so bad seeing him. I am so angry at him, and the worst part is that he appears to be fine.
I'm also confused about Ben, too. But I don't even want to think about that, because I feel too guilty for even thinking about another guy while I had a boyfriend.
Help!!!!:( (link)
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There are more guys out there. Everything horrible that happens hurts at first, but if given enough time, you'll recover.
The first thing you should do is realize that it's extremeley rude of him to pretty much rub in your face that he's going to hang out with your sister. If he really cared about you, he'd be mature and be sensative to your feelings. Guys aren't very emotional, but honestly, if a guy really does love you he'll show it. And since he's not, I'd say it's time to move on.
The first thing I think you should do is look for another job. Once you separate yourself from him it'll become alot easier for you to move on from this whole situation. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. Just focus on you and live your life according to you; the way YOU want to live it. Don't worry about him, or his idiotic friends. Find comfort in knowing that things get better with time, and eventually you will find a guy who will be more than happy to treat you with the respect you deserve.
Never let yourself, or other people, make you believe you don't deserve what you truly want. And if what you want is a great guy, wait for him. You guys will find eachother in due time when both of you are ready.
Things you experience in life mold and create who you are as a person; it changes your character. You either grow closer, or further apart from the people in your life.
Whenever you meet "the one" you'll be right for eachother beacause you will have gone through things that have ultimately made you compatible with one another.
I hope that made sense, and that it helped you.
I'm also sorry if it's not quite what you wanted to hear, but I just don't want other women to feel completely hopeless all because of a guy.
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ok so im a 17 year old female. I got my period bk in grade 9 and im going into grade 12. Well for the past couple of days my boobs are really sore. I dont know why, cause when i touch them they just feel really sore and the tissue around my boob is sore to touch to. It like right around my boob at the base where its hurts and the sides of my breasts. Any one know why this is? i think it could be cause they are growing, but im not sure. Any advice or answers would help me out alot. Does this mean i have cancer or something? im paranoid so tons of things are going through my mind. Thank you so much! Really appreicate it! (link)
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I had the same problem, don't feel weird.
I looked it up on google, and it said that your boobs stop growing when you're about 17 or 18. Whatever your cup size is by then is pretty much what you'll be for the rest of your life. So what it could be is you're just finally coming out of puberty, and it's your body's way of balancing everything out.
It also said that it could be a cyst (kind of like what people get under their armpits; wherever there's alot of sensative nerves). Breast tissue has alot of nerve endings, so it is possible, and very easy for them to get infected every once in awhile. It should go away on its own, but if it lasts longer than a couple weeks you should go get it checked out by a doctor so they can drain the cyst if it doesn't take care of itself.
It happens less and less as you get older, but it does happen.
Totally normal, and it can be taken care of if need be.
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19/f, Do most girls not like giving blow jobs? I am really just curious because I love love love LOVE to give my boyfriend head, so I cant relate. I am just wondering exactly how lucky is my boyfriend? :P (link)
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i love giving head to my boyfriend too (;
i absolutely LOVE giving pleasure more than recieving it, you're not alone. i'll do it for hours even, so yeah i'd say our boyfriends are pretty lucky because alot of girls do think it's gross.
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hey there. well im 14 and i have been dating my boyfriend for 14 months :) and.. i really really like him ( like alot). Anyways, we have been thru alot of 'bullshit' this year. He says he loves me and i love him to. But i have been curious is it possible to be in love at my age? at the age of 14? (link)
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a vast majority of people end up mistaking infatuation for love. more so with younger people.
you don't truly get the actual concept of what love really is until you're much older.
when you're as young as you are, you base your opinions on love from movies, tv shows, etc.
hollywood's version of love is very inaccurate.
it almost always portrays being in love by having sex. that's not the case.
if you love someone, it's about a very deep, and meaningful mental relationship.
the physical part shouldn't come into affect until you're absolutely sure you want to take that step. don't take it lightly, it's a decision that requires maturity. you're so young that you're not properly equipped to deal with the magnitude of what love means.
of course what you're feeling is real because it's RIGHT NOW. the feelings you have ARE real at the moment, but you'll realize as you get older that your view on love and relationships will change dramatically.
so yes, it is possible to feel that you're in love at 14.
but, honestly, it's not what love truly is.
love is not as great as it may seem.
there's a positive, as well as negative side to love.
it's the most beautiful thing one can hope to experience, but it can also be one of the most painful emotions to deal with.
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Im like afraid to even touch a guy down there ...like it grosses me out so how do i get used to it?? (link)
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you shouldn't have to get used to it.
if you're not ready, you're not ready.
don't feel like you need to, do it because you want to. and seeing as you don't want to, then don't do it. very simple solution.
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i don't know why he won't let me tell. he let me tell my best friend but now he wants to break up with me cause he afraid it will get out that were dating!!! (link)
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WHOA !
red flag.
if a guy doesn't want people to know he's with you, then that could mean he's embarrassed about it. in any case, that's not acceptable. don't be afraid to stand up for yourself; tell him "hey, i'm not okay with keeping this a secret."
because it shouldn't HAVE to be a secret.
life is way too short to waste time on guys who aren't proud to be with you.
you have the rest of your life to find someone who's actually worth it. listen to your gut. if you're on here asking this, then obviously you know something's not quite right about it. act on it.
you're too special to let a guy treat you this unfairly.
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Okay, so i am your typical teenager gilr. I am going to the 8th grade, well alot of my friends have made out and sent some pictures to there boyfriends well i dont really know if i am ready for that. I am the far behind one because i cant talk to my mom about kissing or anything she will spaz out. But is this a bad thing that i dont know how to make out.? I just dont understand the point in it. And i ge made fun of all the time because of it. So should i do this or should i just say the way i am.? Help please. (link)
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don't give in.
never compromise who you are, and your beliefs/morals for the acceptance of other people. if you're not ready, then that's absolutely fine. there's NOTHING wrong with you, and if your friends keep giving you crap about it then stand up for yourself. be different; be unique; stand out. be an individual. if people aren't willing to accept you for who you are, then they're not worthy of your friendship.
trust me, you'll be glad you did this when you get older. everything you're experiencing now, you'll look back and think "wow, THAT was important to me back then ?". don't be in any hurry to grow up. do it when you know you're ready to do it, don't let anyone pressure you.
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hi I am a 14 / m & I am getting these hard ons all the time at school. it is embarrassing and I don't want to get them any more in front of everybody when I cant hide it. I want to control My erections basically. I googled it and read that guys have "their own way of controlling boners" but then I dont know any ways so it didn't help Me. I hate getting hard in class. can somebody give Me some tips so I can stop getting hardons in class and control Myself better? (link)
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you can flip it up into your waistband, or you could try masturbating. and if you already do that, then you should do it more. the more sexually relieved you are, there's a good chance of not getting as many random boners as you're experiencing.
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what gives girls a better feeling?
getting eaten out?
getting fingered?
or just regular sex? (link)
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alright, so i think getting fingered is boring.
but the other two depend on how good you are at doing them.
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Every1 i help always puts this thing on there: (link)
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what are a few things i can do to prep yourself before i receive oral from my boyfriend? i know he wants to do it, and i was iffy about it, but i'm about to give in. (link)
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make sure you're clean, of course.
any guy will talk about a girl who smells/tastes funny or bad.
there's nothing a good wipe-down in the shower shouldn't clean, so if you still feel "gross", etc. after taking a shower, then you might want to go see your doctor to see if you have a bacterial-infection or something.
but other than that, you should be fine (:
just make sure you're clean when he does it so you won't be embarrassed if he says anything about it.
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so ive been talking with this one girl on here who was giving me advice and she thought it best that since i want my ex back that i try to get him back. we had a good relationship and dated for 8 months and he broke up with me 2 months ago and one of those months i gave him some space to thing about things. so i texted him once and he answered we had a long conversation and it was good. then i texted him again and he was out of town and said that he couldnt talk which i understand cause im always busy when im out of town. and then i texted him a few days after that which was probably fast? and he didnt answer.
i hate giving up and i know he is playing hard to get but idk how to get past that. like do i just leave him alone again or wait a few weeks and text him again. i dont wanna seem annoying to him. im not desperate at all cause i can be without a man i just want him back.
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guys are different than girls.
they NEED time to sort through their feelings.
you did good by giving him space the first month, but keep giving him that space until HE is ready. you'll know, because he'll be the one to text or call you. when that happens, space out when you contact him. don't set a specific time of every week or month, do it randomly so he can't predict when you'll talk to him.
make it look like you're fine on your own. live your life, and look happy doing so. this may, or may not, make him want you back.
another thing, YOU play hard to get. whenever you talk to him don't seem needy, or like you absolutely have to talk to him just so you can get through the day. keep things simple, and even vague if you can. if you don't give him details to things you talk about he might be inclined to ask you about those things because you didn't go into them, which not only makes the conversation last longer but it also gives you more satisfaction knowing he's somewhat interested.
and don't ALWAYS be available. that does send the message that you'll set aside anything going on just to spend time with him, which could make you look needy or even clingy.
every once in awhile, if you happen to be making plans with him, tell him "oh, sorry, i already had something planned today/tomorrow, etc.".
once again, that makes you look like you're independent and fine on your own without him.
depending on how much he's interested in getting back with you, the outcome of my advice could vary. if he ends up not wanting you, then that's his loss. it sounds very cliche, but some things just aren't meant to be.
but i really do hope everything works out in your favor (:
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was wanting to know how i could last longer in bed so i can make my woman more happy and if there is any tips as far as making my woman happier in bed? (link)
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first of all, you're not the only guy with this problem. don't feel too bad, okay.
something you can do to last longer would be whenever you feel like you're about to orgasm, pull out and do "other things" to her so that she'll continue to be pleasured while you have some time to cool down. eat her out, or whatever else you can think of until you feel ready to continue. do that for as long as you can, and i'm sure she'll notice it.
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i was with a boy for a year, and then we broke up. we never told each other we were in love, knowing that's a huge step.
when we broke up, we admitted to it. he said he was in love with me & i said it back. we dont even talk anymore, but i know he was my first real love. i just dont know if i was IN love, you know?
is there a difference between your first real relationship, that person being your first love, but not being in love with them? when it came to him, being my longest relationship, i never felt this way about anybody else. i was only 15 at the time. i lost my virginity to him and although we're broken up i do not regret it because i know i loved him; he was my first love, i just dont know if i was in love.
im not sure what im asking. but any input would be nice.:) (link)
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you're right, there is a significant difference in having love for someone and actually being in love with them.
i was 15 when i lost my virginity to my first boyfriend. it hurt when we broke up because he was my first, but i know i wasn't IN love with him just because of that reason alone.
the only difference there should be between the person you're with, and your closest friend is the physical intimacy aspect. you know you're in love with the person if you consider them your best friend, but you're also attracted to them and have a physical relationship that goes beyond just the literal meaning of "physical". and it's not about how long the relationship lasted, or how much sex you had; it's about the mental-emotional connection you had with them. did they make you feel like a better person ? feel good about yourself ? were you completely comfortable being yourself around them ? when you think about your future, are they in it ? and ultimately, how do they make you feel ? would do anything you could to help them ?
there's alot more, but i'm sure you have a general idea of what i'm getting at by now.
that's all i really have to offer, i hope it helped somehow (:
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how do you eat a girl out?
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i'm a girl, so i'm not going to lie to you right now. it feels amazing if you combine 2 or 3 different techniques at once. if you lightly suck on her clit while using your tongue and/or teeth, (don't bite it off or anything), she'll enjoy it. and if you do that while also fingering her it almost makes it irresistible.
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