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is it possible to be in love at the age of 14?
hey there. well im 14 and i have been dating my boyfriend for 14 months :) and.. i really really like him ( like alot). Anyways, we have been thru alot of 'bullshit' this year. He says he loves me and i love him to. But i have been curious is it possible to be in love at my age? at the age of 14?
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It's possible, but not very likely. Trust me! I thought the same thing when I was your age. Chances are you will be with many other guys before you find the one and you will look back at this moment and think "what was I thinking".
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a vast majority of people end up mistaking infatuation for love. more so with younger people.
you don't truly get the actual concept of what love really is until you're much older.
when you're as young as you are, you base your opinions on love from movies, tv shows, etc.
hollywood's version of love is very inaccurate.
it almost always portrays being in love by having sex. that's not the case.
if you love someone, it's about a very deep, and meaningful mental relationship.
the physical part shouldn't come into affect until you're absolutely sure you want to take that step. don't take it lightly, it's a decision that requires maturity. you're so young that you're not properly equipped to deal with the magnitude of what love means.
of course what you're feeling is real because it's RIGHT NOW. the feelings you have ARE real at the moment, but you'll realize as you get older that your view on love and relationships will change dramatically.
so yes, it is possible to feel that you're in love at 14.
but, honestly, it's not what love truly is.
love is not as great as it may seem.
there's a positive, as well as negative side to love.
it's the most beautiful thing one can hope to experience, but it can also be one of the most painful emotions to deal with.
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The older you get, the more love means. When you're young, it's because someone's nice, because they treat you well, are funny, kind, etc.
When you're older, you start to understand the people you date. You love them for more than just what they do, you love them for who they are and what they think, what they've done and what they want to do.
You spend enough time around someone, and they become a part of your life. As a married guy, I have daily time that's my wifes to occupy. If she weren't here I'd literally have hours every day I didn't know what to do with. When she goes off somewhere on a trip or something, that's kinda what it's like, you miss someone when they're gone not just because they're gone but because for a few days the spot they fill in your life is emptier.
Yeah, you can be in love at 14. But it won't mean as much to you as it will in 5 years, in 10 years. As what you love about someone grows, as you grow yourself, love grows too. It encompasses more of who you both are and what your time together means and what you want from each other.
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