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The far behind one!
Okay, so i am your typical teenager gilr. I am going to the 8th grade, well alot of my friends have made out and sent some pictures to there boyfriends well i dont really know if i am ready for that. I am the far behind one because i cant talk to my mom about kissing or anything she will spaz out. But is this a bad thing that i dont know how to make out.? I just dont understand the point in it. And i ge made fun of all the time because of it. So should i do this or should i just say the way i am.? Help please.
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don't give in.
never compromise who you are, and your beliefs/morals for the acceptance of other people. if you're not ready, then that's absolutely fine. there's NOTHING wrong with you, and if your friends keep giving you crap about it then stand up for yourself. be different; be unique; stand out. be an individual. if people aren't willing to accept you for who you are, then they're not worthy of your friendship.
trust me, you'll be glad you did this when you get older. everything you're experiencing now, you'll look back and think "wow, THAT was important to me back then ?". don't be in any hurry to grow up. do it when you know you're ready to do it, don't let anyone pressure you.
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First of all, they shouldn't be making fun of you for this. In eighth grade, I didn't even have a boyfriend yet.
You aren't far behind. They're too far ahead. Don't be pressured to have a boyfriend, because most likely the one you have in middle school won't be there for long.
When you're ready to kiss your boyfriend, (normally) you don't start with making out. If you aren't comfortable with doing that, tell him. If he objects or complains, he isn't worth it.
About your mom, most moms freak out when their daughter talks about kissing. Ask her to remain calm and let you finish what you want to say beforehand.
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If you are uncomfortable with this, and it sure sounds like you are, don't.
There is nothing as painful as having caved and done something you really didn't want to do in the first place and regreting in, and in most cases, having lots of other people be told some version of the events, that may or may not be true, by the guy.
Anyone who is making fun of you for not making out is not your friend - friends support and encourage one another, not belittle each other.
Kissing guys should wait until you know a guy well and really like him and feel respected by him - it's an act that should be an extention of our emotions and care of someone else, not something you have to hurry to cross out on your "Becoming an Adult" check list.
Typical teenager going into 8th grade? Perfectly normal not to have "made out" with anyone. Your acquaintences are rushing things, and, if your school is normal, many of them are lying about what they have and have not done. Guys, too.
Wait till you are ready and a very special someone is there.
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You know, i never asked my mom how to makeout. I feel like shed probably get mad at me to... but there are other ways to find out.
Making out is actually pretty simple, and alot of fun. I learned to makeout through experiance. I got a boyfriend who had also never made out before, so that way we could learn together and wouldnt be embarrassed if we were bad cause the other wouldnt know any better.
Or, heck, practice on your wrist, no one will know.
It'll come naturally when you actually start making out, so dont sweat it. you have nothing to worry about.
As for people making fun of you, that makes no sense. How could people make fun of you for not knowing how to make out? What do they say?
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