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My "boss" is a senior VP at our company. I am really in a stand alone position and he has no idea what I do and couldn't even find the information on our intranet but brought old crap to yesterday's review. He hasn't spoken to me outside of simple meetings for 6 months but has clearly had a lot of conversations with a new employee who's been breathtakingly rude to me (demanding my office, whispering asides during our meetings, etc). He also expects me to do all the work but then encourages people to bypass me so I'm not perceived as the expert. Now he wants to mediate a meeting with this person but clearly he's not an unbiased mediator. We're a small company with a crappy/nonexistent HR function. The guy has worked for the company's owner for some 20 years. Does anyone see an option beyond just finding a decent job? (link)
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By all means, clean up the old resume and start quietly looking around... but keep in mind that a job, let alone a "decent job" will probably be hard to find right now. Play nice with the creep for the time being.
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Hello people,
I have a problem, a big problem and I really need your help. I have my own room, and my own computer that is unfortunately in the TV room. I REALLY want my computer and desk in my room, that's where I have my problem(s). I can't have my computer in my room because. . .
{1} My room has no wireless or computer outlet thingie.
{2} My Dad and Mom are saying 'You can't have your computer in your room because we want to be safe.' I don't go on any bad sites!
{3} My Dad is too lazy to do anything on the weekends.
It's getting really frustrating for me having my computer where I write in the TV room with a TV and my parents on the couch leaning over and watching me type this. I watch TV while I write and it's really distracting.
Back on topic. How can I get a PRIVATE writing space when I can't move my computer into my room and I have a TV with my favorite show on in front of me while I write!!!!??? Thanks in advanced.
~~Anna
P.S. I'm fourteen. (link)
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It sounds like your parents don't appreciate the difference between being on the internet and using a word processor. Word processing is as safe as the old fashioned typewriter! Can you help them be better informed?
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I am a 32 year old women. I have good hygiene. I shower daily. I know how to wipe myself after using the restroom. My boyfriend told me today that when we have sex I smell like urine. I am so embarrassed. We have been together for 8yrs and he has never said this before. We have 2 kids and I noticed after having them it is harder to hold my urine in when I need to go pee. I am wondering if maybe I am leaking urine sometimes and don't know it. I have tried kegel exercises and it does not help with strengthening. Now I'm worried that my backside smells as well. Whay can he smell it and I can't. Sound I go to the Dr. Please help, any suggestions. (link)
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It is not uncommon to lose some urine during sexual intercourse, especially when you become aroused.
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ok well first of all im a 21 year old female i just started having sex on saturday february 12...my last period was from february 7th to february 12th i still had spotting in the morning but very little so at night i had sex...i THINK that i shouldnt be able to get pregnant cause i just finished my period right ? or does that not work that way? i dont remember very well about the cycle and fertility days and that...i used a condom that night, but then yesterday february 15th i had sex again, and when the guy pulled out he noticed the condom was missing ! i looked down and the condom was inside of me ! so now im freaking worried about maybe i can get pregnant this way ...
we never did it without a condom, but yesterday the condom stucked inside of me like almost entirely only half the opening was outside so i pulled it out ... i am very worried if i should take the morning after pill cause im not on oral contraception so i wanna know if my chances are that high since i just finished my period on february 12th/11th and a condom stuck inside of me yesterda february 15th?... i know theres always a chance for pregnancy but im wondering if maybe my chances are lower or higher because of fertile days and all that altho i dont know if im on the days where its less likely to get pregnant...i dont know if i should take the emergency pill im worried about maybe some sperm leaking from the opening of the condom that was ALMOST or kinda still in my vagina im not sure how it was i just freaked out and pulled out .... :( i know if i take a pregnancy test it wont show cause its too soon, but im wondering if it would be better for me to take the emergency pill depending on my chances ? (link)
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Your chances of being pregnant are slim, but not nonexistent. Proceed accordingly.
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i've had sex for the first time with my bf this weekend and went home with an AWFUL uti... we still want to keep having sex but i don't wanna get more uti's. is there anything i can do after sex to avoid uti's?? please help me out guys! thanks! (link)
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Cranberry juice, or tablets. These can help later, but also before the act.
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how can i tell who is a good fortune teller i had someone come to my home she ask for a lot of money and now she is asing for more money. i am very afaid if i do not give to her she will put a curse on mr (link)
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The previous advice was excellent. Fortune telling is a scam.
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ok. First of all i'm a virgin. I'm 20. I am in college adn i don't mean to sound full of myself but i'm am semi pretty. I am in the best sorority at my school. HOWEVER, I AM SUCH A PRUDE. I can see it/feel, like i get it. I love making out with guys but whenever it goes past that- i kind of freak out, i don't like it, and i get nervous. I don't really understand. I like the IDEA of it, but I don't like the execution. How am I everr going to lose my virginity. I don't really know what to do. help.... (link)
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You don't need too anything! You are just fine as you are. The only time to have sex is when you want to and you will want to when you are deeply in love with the right guy. Many people, yes, even in 2011, do not have sex until marriage. You might enjoy the essay here: www.firstthings.com/article/2009/.../002-subversive-virginity-3
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What collage should i go to become a vet
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You want a school with a strong pre-med program and with experience in preparing people for he MCAT exam, and a good medical school (or, ideally), vet school placement rate. It is harder to get into vet school than medical school.
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i've hung out with this guy twice, and both times we hooked up (not sex, i'm a virgin and he knows that and i reallly dont want to have sex with him anytime soon...or at all now)
so basically he texts me at like 2:30 in the morning and i was up so i answered and he asked me what i was doing and stuff, but then he told me i should come over so we could cuddle. i told him i was tired but he kept persisting. he wouldnt stop texting me even after i told him that i really dont want to go out tonight. eventually i just stopped texting and pretended i fell asleep but he kept sending me texts and then even called me once. as i'm writing this it is 4:30 in the morning and i have turned off my phone so i don't have to hear it vibrate any more. i have at least 5 unanswered texts from him and a missed call. i really don't even think i like him, i just like hooking up with him (i know it sounds bad but it's the truth).. i don't know if he actually likes me or just wants to try to take my virginity? either way i don't like him and after tonight his neediness/clinginess just completely turned me off and i don't know what to do or say to him now. what should i do? (link)
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There's this amazing thing on most phones these days that allows one to turn the phone off! When they're off, they don't ring or make a sound let you know a text has come in. See if your phone can do that.
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I've only been dating him a week and he asked me at dinner if I would get off birth control and let him cum inside of me! What's crazier is this isn't the first time I've been asked to do that! Why would a guy want to get a woman he doesn't know pregnant?! Just out of curiousity I asked him why and he didn't really have a good answer. He also noted that he wanted 2-3 kids and wanted me to breast feed! Why so specific? I don't know if he's a frequent impregnator or what but he has recent papers proving he is std free and he's really successful. (link)
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A vagina does not want for anything. Neither does a penis. They are parts of our human anatomy and have no minds of there own.
Dump him.
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I feel like its a part of my personality.. like I like to think things out rationally.. and I love to argue when I know I'm right, and ask questions so I can learn new things and what not. But I know it can be annoying to people, so how can I suppress such urges to not just talk about things in a nonchalant way? I tend to talk about topics deeply.. and the next you'll see me just joking about something silly. I want to act more lady-like and less offensive to someone else who may differ in opinion. And I don't want people to think I'm aggressive or anything. I'm just trying to become a better person by educating myself, as well as educate others by proving what they're saying is wrong with facts. Ugh maybe that's my problem right there. How do I fix this? thanks! I'm 17 btw.
I'm normally a chatty person and sometimes I say things at impulse.. and wish I was one of those people who are more mysterious and say mostly what's need to be said. I find that admirable. So how do I become this way? (link)
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Why do you have to change?
You've got that type of a brain, so use it! Does your school offer any debate opportunities? Have you considered law as a profession? Look at Portia in the play The Merchant of Venice, she had those skills. You can do all of that and still be "lady like".
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is there a way to have sex with a garuntee of not getting pregnant? (link)
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No. One's chances can become low, but a guarantee? Nothing.
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I have no idea what cup size I am. im too big for a c or a d, but sometimes dd's are huge on me. other times they mash em down & I get double boob. I need good support because after pregnancy they dropped a bit. I know im a 36, but thats it. how can I get measured without my other bras that dont fit throwin it off? & can I get measured for free? thanls (link)
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Phone some nearby department stores and ask when there will be a bra fitter there.
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I have been wanting to go to a nudist beach for years, with my husband of 36 years. We are both in our 50's yet fit and well. My husband has a very large penis and he feels that will make him uncomfortable. I have told him that nudists do and will not look or share, just get on with being nudists. How can I get him to feel comfortable nude in public? I have told him there will be plenty of other large penis on the beach and not to worry. Thank you in advance! (link)
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Take a trip to a resort that offers an optional nude beach and give it a try. I suggest early in the morning, which is when I went. (We are of similar vintage.)
If you don't like it, go back to the "prude" side and have a great time clothed... or go back again.
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everytime i try to shave "down there" i can never get a clean look without bleeding or a lot of ingrown hairs! what are the EXACT steps/products i should use to shave. please be very specific!!!! (link)
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You have discovered why many women "of a certain age" stopped shaving "down there" a long time ago.
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Is it possible to get a masters and bachelors degree at the same time? As in, if I go to school to get my masters in one field, can I simultaneously study to get a bachelors in a different field? (link)
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Don't know of any, and I've worked in college admissions for 30 years.
What is your objective?
If you want to get there quicker, there are ways to make your undergrad take less time, testing out of classes, taking AP classes in high school, summer school, etc.
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom? (link)
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Stand fast! It sounds like Mom is more interested in being a playmate rather than a parent. Your children don't need a playmate who will fill their heads with lies. I recently visited a newly remarried friend. She married a guy who had raised 5 kids after mom walked out. The kids are getting older (youngest in college) and they see clearly what's up and all that dad did. Alyssa is just not old enough to see the truth of things.
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I've never had salmon but I LOVEEEEE sea food. Does it taste like a certain something? I'm just iffy about trying it and I would like to know how others feel about it! (link)
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If you like seafood, I'd be very surprised if you don't love salmon.
It is excellent for your health - full of omega 3 fatty acids - and easy to prepare in a wide variety of ways. Some dietitians encourage eating salmon at least once a week.
Food snobs will only eat Alaskan salmon because there are no fish farms in Alaska, so all salmon from Alaska is wild. While it is a much darker pink in color, I must confess I haven't tasted much of a difference, although it is beautiful in color.
It is also great in sushi. Enjoy!
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I've had a struggle with my sister my entire life. She has done the typical sister things to me and some non-typical.
In a phone conversation yesterday we hashed out a few things and at the end I told her I don't want to see her again.
We talked about how she hit me when we were young. (Oh, she's 9 years older than me so it's a 10 year old hitting a 1 year old) and she admits to hitting me
BUT
"I did hit you but not to hurt you" - her
"you did hurt me, you were so much bigger than me" - me
"oh you are remembering it hurting more than it actually did" - her
More examples of how she treated me:
She said she hates fat people and I'm fat.
She said I should have her babies because my body is already ruined by being fat and her body isn't
She walked around my parent's house and put her name on the bottom of the things she wants when they pass away.
I have caught her taking photographs, cookbooks and wine glasses from both me and my parents when she comes. Her response is that the photographs are part of her heritage and she was going to bring them back. The cookbook she does not remember and the wine glasses were hers to begin with. - they are not, they have been in my parents china cabinet for years.
She also has a temper - has had it all her life. Walking on eggshells around her wondering when she will go off has caused me a life of anxiety and depression.
I decided to put up some boundaries with her this time she visits for Christmas. Each boundary I told her about she fought against. She is not allowed to hold my 5 year old and sob when she's leaving. I told her to say goodbye and do her crying away from my daughter, because it affects her.
The response I got was "Why, who told you that what I was doing was bad?"
me- "her behavior afterwards tells me it affects her"
her - "how do you know that my actions are causing her behavior"
What I got from trying to set one boundary was backlash. I thought it was one of the more simple boundaries.
Another boundary I tried to set was that my husband will join her, I and my daughters when we go out. (she does not like my husband because he does not allow her to walk all over him, I let her do whatever she wants because since I was small my parents told me to do whatever she wants and she won't hurt you)
Big backlast there. My husband is on vacation and she's on vacation and I'm not leaving him home to watch TV. He wants to do things with his children too. Her answer was a flat no, he can't come with us.
I'm getting to my question.
My daughters 7 and 5 only know her as the great aunt who brings presents and plays with them when she's here.
How do I tell them that they are not going to see her anymore without being the bad mom?
Eventually they will find out that I'm the one who stopped the relationship. I don't want my girls to hate me. But I can't go on dealing with a sister that treats me terribly.
Should I put up with my sister no matter what, for my children's happiness? (link)
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I agree with you that your sister must abide by your boundaries when she comes to visit. If she won't follow the rules, no visit. If she won't agree to the rules ahead of time, no visit.
It's not necessary to tell your children they won't see Aunt Ruthie anymore. She has the opportunity to see them anytime she is willing to behave, and she may be willing to do that.
Meanwhile, you my benefit from some counseling to help you sort out some of those unresolved issues from childhood.
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How to stop yourself from going to far. Even though you love them its not the right time yet but I'm not sure its going to be that simple to stop from having sex. (link)
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Stopping having sex is hard, no two ways around it!
A simple way is to no longer be alone with someone where you could have sex. Starbucks? Fine choice. Bowling alley? Good. Parked car? Not a good idea. Basement TV room? Not a good choice.
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