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How can I find my own writing space?
Hello people,
I have a problem, a big problem and I really need your help. I have my own room, and my own computer that is unfortunately in the TV room. I REALLY want my computer and desk in my room, that's where I have my problem(s). I can't have my computer in my room because. . .
{1} My room has no wireless or computer outlet thingie.
{2} My Dad and Mom are saying 'You can't have your computer in your room because we want to be safe.' I don't go on any bad sites!
{3} My Dad is too lazy to do anything on the weekends.
It's getting really frustrating for me having my computer where I write in the TV room with a TV and my parents on the couch leaning over and watching me type this. I watch TV while I write and it's really distracting.
Back on topic. How can I get a PRIVATE writing space when I can't move my computer into my room and I have a TV with my favorite show on in front of me while I write!!!!??? Thanks in advanced.
~~Anna
P.S. I'm fourteen.
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It sounds like your parents don't appreciate the difference between being on the internet and using a word processor. Word processing is as safe as the old fashioned typewriter! Can you help them be better informed?
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HI, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and the advice I am going to offer you will be of the type most grandparents would offer.
It is tough being 14, your to old to be considered a child, but to young to be consider an adult. Your a teenager, if you break the word down; teen equals in between or in between ages. I use to tell by son he was a betweener. I know this does not help, stay with me this is background for what I am going to say.
The hardest job for any adult is being a parent. When we were children it looked so easy. Then we became parents and found out children did not come with handbooks and it was a learn as you go skill.
Every teenager wants privacy more so girls than boys. Your mom realizes this more than you think. Remember she was once your age. The problem is the world has changed and it is most likely not that your parents don't trust you, they don't trust the people on the Internet. Almost everyday we read about or hear about young people your age who have been duped by people on the Internet. To hear this scares all of us especially those of us who are parents.
As a parent we have to weigh your safety against your wish for privacy. At your present age your view of the world around you is not the same as your parent may see the world. You are more easily taken in as you have not yet learned the cautions you need to learn to transit today's highways and byways.
What you feel is an invasion of privacy is most likely your parents attempt to keep you safe and assure themselves that you are learning how to transit and deal with all the pitfalls that are out there. Especially the ones that exist on the Internet.
My advice is to talk with your parents. You start by talking with mom. Ask mom for a girls day out, just you and her. Go to the mall, window shop and have lunch. Over lunch discuss with mom in a calm matter how you feel the need for some privacy. I'm certain that if you discuss this issue with your mother in a calm and adult manner she will come up with away to offer you more privacy that she and your dad are more comfortable with.
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Honestly, I don’t think you are going to get what you want – at least not for a while.
It’s not the wires that are the problem. Your parents have been very clear: Having access to the interest in your own bedroom is a privilege and a safety concern, not something they are willing to allow right now.
And you don’t just want a private space; you want a private space WITH the TV with your favorite shows on. That’s a lot to ask! I’m an adult and even I can’t get that all the time. (If I had asked my parents for that at fourteen, they would have laughed at me – seriously. Laughed their fricking heads off.)
My parents also didn’t allow their kids their own computers in their bedrooms until we were 18. That’s when you got that privilege, and it makes sense. You can do some dangerous shit online and interact with dangerous people. It’s not about ‘bad sites’. It’s about bad people. Even here on Advicenators we’ve had a few bad people crop up who were looking to take advantage of teenagers. Of course here they get the boot really fast, but not every site is as well moderated (and not every bad person gets caught.)
It’s good that you don’t go on any bad sites! I’m sure your parents are proud of your judgment and sense – but it doesn’t mean you’ll get exactly what you want when you want it.
My best advice to you is to look at the living room and see if there is any re-arranging you can do to give yourself a bit less of a exposed position. Other than that, it sounds like you are out of luck for a while. Your parents laid down clear and understandable rules – they might suck – but they probably meant what they said.
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