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giving up on an ex?
17/f
so ive been talking with this one girl on here who was giving me advice and she thought it best that since i want my ex back that i try to get him back. we had a good relationship and dated for 8 months and he broke up with me 2 months ago and one of those months i gave him some space to thing about things. so i texted him once and he answered we had a long conversation and it was good. then i texted him again and he was out of town and said that he couldnt talk which i understand cause im always busy when im out of town. and then i texted him a few days after that which was probably fast? and he didnt answer.
i hate giving up and i know he is playing hard to get but idk how to get past that. like do i just leave him alone again or wait a few weeks and text him again. i dont wanna seem annoying to him. im not desperate at all cause i can be without a man i just want him back.
hopefully you can help
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Hi there,
As a guy, I can tell you something about a male perspective on all this.
Guys don't play hard to get like girls do. It isn't that they never do so, it is just that they do it in a different way if they do it all.
You don't mention why you broke up. That is the missing piece here that would keep people from giving you better advice.
If you would write something to my inbox and explain it all, I will be happy to give you a guy's opinion on what is going through his head.
There is more to the story of why he is being this way, but I can't really say more until I know more.
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guys are different than girls.
they NEED time to sort through their feelings.
you did good by giving him space the first month, but keep giving him that space until HE is ready. you'll know, because he'll be the one to text or call you. when that happens, space out when you contact him. don't set a specific time of every week or month, do it randomly so he can't predict when you'll talk to him.
make it look like you're fine on your own. live your life, and look happy doing so. this may, or may not, make him want you back.
another thing, YOU play hard to get. whenever you talk to him don't seem needy, or like you absolutely have to talk to him just so you can get through the day. keep things simple, and even vague if you can. if you don't give him details to things you talk about he might be inclined to ask you about those things because you didn't go into them, which not only makes the conversation last longer but it also gives you more satisfaction knowing he's somewhat interested.
and don't ALWAYS be available. that does send the message that you'll set aside anything going on just to spend time with him, which could make you look needy or even clingy.
every once in awhile, if you happen to be making plans with him, tell him "oh, sorry, i already had something planned today/tomorrow, etc.".
once again, that makes you look like you're independent and fine on your own without him.
depending on how much he's interested in getting back with you, the outcome of my advice could vary. if he ends up not wanting you, then that's his loss. it sounds very cliche, but some things just aren't meant to be.
but i really do hope everything works out in your favor (:
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To put it rather blunt, if he wants to talk to you, he'll get ahold of you. There's a reason why people are ex's and I think you should think about moving forward instead of trying to go back to the past. Let him get ahold of you, in the meanwhile, live your life. Don't sit around and wait for him otherwise you will be missing out on other things. Trust me, if he is interested, he will let you know, but if not, then its time to move on to a new chapter of your life.
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