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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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This isn't an issue you should skirt around, tell him flat out that the things in your relationship are between the two of you, and you don't want the rest of the world to know about it. It's nobody's business but yours and his what goes on. I don't think its a cause to break up, I just don't think he knows what it means to you to keep the things that are between the two of you, and only the two of you. Tell him how you feel.
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Okay well I am a seventeen year old female. Recently I moved back to my hometown and started hanging out with this guy I've liked since sixth grade. I found out that he was really diggin me to. Well I've been here two weeks and I've seen him just about every day. Last night I went over to his house and stayed. We had our first kiss and all that junk and cuddled and stuff. One thing lead to another and we ended up having sex. One thing you need to know about this guy is he is actually one of the good ones. I've never seen him cheat or disrespect any women.I really like this guy but I feel that maybe that happened a lil to soon, and we not together that I kno of. I've only slept with one other person besides him so I'm worried about coming across as a whore. I don't wanna ruin my chances with this guy. I mean after words he didn't act as if I did anything wrong we jus cuddled and talked and he told me that he had been waiting a long time for this. Meaning me and him. This morning when he took me home he gave me a kiss good bye and said see ya later. Do you think I messed up my chances my doing that to soon? (link)
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You probably didn't mess up your chances, but men have more respect for you in the long run when you wait. Just tell him the next time you are with him that you don't think you were ready for that, and that you would prefer that it didn't happen again until the right time. As for the rest, you just have to wait and see how he acts around you. Genuinely good guys do have their respect lowered for you when you sleep with them right away, but obviously he didn't have a problem doing it. Good Luck
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What did he mean? (link)
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It means that he wants everyone to know you for who you are, and that he wants to stop anyone from talking crap about you or hurting your feelings, because he thinks that you're a good person.
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18 female girl. so, i started liking this boy the end of last summer because that is when i met him. (matt) we talked the whole entire winter every single day, never saw each other and he didnt date anyone because he really liked me, and the same way i felt for him. we go to the same camp during the summer. the first weekend of summer we hooked up. i didnt tell my best friend any of this because i said that it should stay between me and him. he randomly stopped talking to me and moved onto my best friend. they hang out all the time and it really bothers me, weve been in many fights about it but were good now. he told her everying that i lied about and only secrets i told him because i trusted him. and he went and told my best friend. any advice about him? i probably shouldnt even be talking to him because i heard he talks about me in a bad way, not only that he is all over my bestfriend and she goes for it. im slowly moving on from that. revently i have been talking to this boy kyle. im not sure if i like him and i know he realllly likes me. when all our friends are around he is all over me having his arm around me. we hooked up twice making it to third base. we hung out every single day this week and im starting to think do i like this guy or not? i dont know what to do if i should give him a chance and go with the flow? i dont want to lead him on and then just screw him over. Im getting over matt but i feel as if i will never like anyone the way i liked him. i know this seems corny because i said that we never saw each other and "how can you like someone from just texting & phone calls & video calls" but it just ended up that way. I feel as if that i will never like anyone the way i liked matt thats why im not giving in on kyle. does anyone have any advice on anything like about matt or kyle? (link)
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Screw Matt, he's a jerk. Anyone who does that doesn't deserve the light of day. Let your friend find out who he really is, cause eventually he will move onto someone else, tell your friend to be happy with him and move on with your life, but that's totally a violation of the rules of friendship in my eyes. If she cared about you and your feelings she never would have hooked up with him in the first place, she doesn't sound like a very good friend. As for Kyle, don't think about whether you like him like that or not for now. If you enjoy hanging out with him, then hang out with him, take it slow, and see how it goes. Tell him you want to take things slow because you don't want to rush into anything, and that you want to make sure your feelings are loud and clear with you before you move forward. You will like someone the way you liked Matt, and you need to see him for the jerk that he is. If you fantasize about how it used to be and everything else, you WON'T get over him. You need to look at him from a fresh view and realize that a jerk like that is no good for you. Good Luck
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Ok so I'm a 20yr old male that can't stop drinking soda what can I do. ???what other drink can I replace it with? ?? That taste as good I love orange soda,sprites, and Dr.pepper the most plz help any advice would be good
Thank you (link)
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If you want to stop drinking soda all day to protect your teeth, I don't advice switching to juice. The acidic elements is what causes your teeth to rot out, and there is as much acidic elements in juice as there is in soda. Find a flavored water that you like to drink. Trust me, I am an avid mountain dew drinker, haha so I know. Flavored water is the best route to go to save your teeth and still have something with flavor. Don't completely cut out soda, but make sure you limit yourself to like 2 a day, then the rest of the day you drink the flavored or regular water. It's much better for you and your teeth.
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Okay so i just started a new job this is my second week and well long story but this lady told me this guy at work thought i was cute which i thought he was cute also so he found out i said he was cute and well weve been talking at work and he asked for my number and he said he called my phone well i work with him tomorrow and that was 3 days ago when we last worked that he asked for my number and we havent text/call each other since,so i was wondering did he want me to text or call him first since he called my phone to send me his number or was he supposed to call or text me first? im so confused what does this mean? lol so confused thanks! (link)
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Guys don't call 5 minutes after they get your number. Maybe he's a busy guy. No, don't call him first, you will seem desperate. Always let the guy come to you, you don't want to be chasing after them because it makes you look like you're in desperate need of a man. Keep busy and don't wait by the phone. Keep on doing what you're doing, and if he calls, that's great. And if not, then maybe he's not interested. But trust me if he is, he will call you. So relax, and have a good time. Good Luck
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I just turned 18 and i've never had a boyfriend.. i've had casual hook ups/kissed guys but its so pointless unless you actually like the person. even though i try to go out with a positive attitude/smile on my face in clubs my friends seem to get approached more by guys and have more opportunities to meet them than i do.. this starts to fuck with your self esteem after a while and u lose confidence around boys, and ive questioned if there's something wrong with me.. alot my friends have said they don't understand why i don't get any guys because they say i'm attractive and outgoing/genuine person.. (just so you know im not a dropkick and thats not the reason why im still single). im also a bit of an 'all or nothing' person.. there seems to be so many dropkick guys out there... and not enough of the good ones.. and when the good ones do come along.. they dont seem to be interested.. or i just act really awkward around the ones i like.. its like a lose lose situation with me gaaah.. any advice.. or do you know why i don't seem to attract many of the RIGHT guys, while alot of my friends do ? (link)
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Are your friends the promiscuous type? If they are, then that's why guys are flocking after them. Maybe they sense that you want something more, and not just a fling. You're not going to find a drop dead gorgeous, moral, loving guy. It doesn't happen. Most drop dead guys are freaking jerks, and they only care about sex, because they know they won't be alone for long. Look for an "attractive", person, but not in clubs. Guys who go to clubs are looking for hook ups, not relationships. If you want an opportunity to meet someone different, try going somewhere else. The mall, the movies, coffee shops, the library..places like that. If you're looking for it though, you won't find it. Let it come to you, just because all the guys aren't flocking, doesn't mean that they don't want to, maybe they're just too shy to approach you as well. Good luck to you
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basically i want to fall back in love with my boyfriend but its hard, and do not judge me as you read this, but.. I like a guy thats a challenge to get you know, but my boyfriend never was like i kinda just went out with him cause i hadnt had a boyfriend inawhile, but anyways i fell in love with him.. but we broke up after i a dumb drunk fight. the mean time we were broken up i lost some feelings for him because i started to like someone else.. basically now me and my boyfriend are going back out but i dont feel a "spark" between us anymore like yeah i love him as a person but im not IN love with him anymore, but i want to bed.. we hang out everyday that might be a problem as well? when we hang out we go out as well, whether it be golfing or movies its not like we just stay inside all day yanno. helppp =/ how do i fall back in loveeeeee (link)
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You can't force feelings that aren't there, no matter how hard you try. If you don't love him, then you don't love him, and if there's no spark, It's unlikely for you to find the spark again. Once you've hung out everyday, and lost the spark or never had it when you got back together with him, you won't get it again. It sounds like you just want to be with SOMEONE, not just him. i think that it would be fair to tell him that you love him, but that you're not in love with him, so you're better off being friends. After your friends again for a while and the pressures of dating are off, then you might feel a spark again later on. But it's only fair to him and yourself to tell him how you feel, and to become just friends. Good Luck
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14/f going into high school
my older brother is a senior and he has this friend (named adam). adam has always been really nice. for example, i was trying on my dress for a dance and i asked "how do i look?" and he said "very pretty" when my brother was just standing there with his other friend. that was a few months ago. i saw him tonight again with me brother they were in the garage smoking weed (don't judge; i've done it a few times before) so adam offers me a bowl and i take it and smoke it with my friend away from them. i can tell he's into me and my friend agreed but i can't do that because he is my brother's friend. but honestly, if he wasn't my brother's friend i'd probably like him a lot..
hmmm, i'm not sure what my question is.. just advice please. (link)
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Your right, your brother probably would be upset. You're 14, his friend is or around the age of 18 correct? Not only is it not moral, its illegal. The age of consent is 16, so I would hang around awhile.You don't want a huge age gap like that anyway, or the awkwardness around your brother. I would find someone your own age, and if you're still in touch when you're older, then go for it. It's in your best interest to smile and talk to him, but nothing more. It is absolutely inappropriate, you're right. Try finding someone you like that's your age, that way it won't bother your brother, and it won't be illegal. Good luck
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On your raitings when a colomnist leaves u a feedback how do you retreive it I can get my rateings but can't see my feedback does anybody know how to retreive them if so please let me know because iv gone to my rateings page but all it does is give me score not my feedback (link)
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if they commented, it would show up beside your rating
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ok so like this girl and she most likely likes me too and i think we could have a pretty good relationship but anyways we are only 15 and she has a baby do you think this would be a problem in the relationship (link)
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I think that it could become a problem later on. Sooner or later, she would expect your help, and no 15 year old is ready to raise a baby, even if they do accidentally have one. You aren't responsible for that baby, but you would end up feeling like it if you two were together. I think she has enough on her plate right now anyways, and with a baby at 15, she really sounds like she doesn't need a boyfriend. Her main focus needs to be on that baby, and with a man in the picture, her baby will get pushed aside.
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i have this best friend, and i have known him for 6 yrs. my best friend intorduced me cuz they where dating. he had just been a friend until like 3 yrs ago when he became a best friend then recently he became to me, i stupidly fell in love with him. recently i had another best friend say that he liked me and wanted to date me, he even went as far as to kiss me, my first kiss. i told the one that i have known longer about a week after the whole thing with this other guy started and he told me that he might like me like the other guy did. a few weeks after that his brother became interested in me, which he knew. over spring break i was hanging out with the brother at their grandparents house (of which the one causing the problems lives) and he kissed me too. i was texting my best friend, the problem causer, at the same time. i got a text not long after that he had wanted to be "THE" guy for a while. a couple months after that i got a boyfriend and the problem causer says he doesnt love his girlfreind (which he says he does) but might love me. i have trying to get over him and stop loving him and even with him being hundreds of miles away in another state i still cant get over him, even when i know he will most likly get back together with the girl who told him to go to hell, which hurts very much.
how do i forget him and move on? how do i stop loving him? i am 17 and not very experienced in the ways of love so i need help, please. (link)
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Sounds like a difficult situation, I had a little bit of a confusing time between the guys situation. Either way, you forget him by realizing how he wasn't good for you. Most times, it's good to keep your best friends, as best friends. If he's with a girl and he doesn't love her, than he's using her, and you don't need that in your life. I think that you need to tell him that you would prefer it if you were just friends, that you need to be with somebody closer to you. You don't forget someone instantly, and if you were in love with them, you never do fully forget them, occasionally they will always pop into your mind, you just won't miss it. To stop loving him, and to forget about the past, you move on with your life. You date other people, go out and do things with your friends, find things that make you happy, a hobby or something. You need to know exactly who you are, before you get tangled up in a relationship, and lose yourself. The best thing to do is to not talk to him until you feel that you have fully moved on, and then you can think about being friends again, and only that. Good luck to you
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idk wats worth living anymore. me an my gf jus fight all the time over nothing, an its manly cus i talk about feelings, an she jus gets pissy. im loosing ever so slowly the only thing i love in this life. id die for this girl an for only her jus to get anoyed by me, thats fucked. im loosing everything. all i do is fuck up,, so wats the quickest way to end ur life painless. im tired of feeling pain, i want to jus be in a better place to where i can live an be happy, cus obviously im doing a good job here........... (link)
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Ending your life is one of the most selfish acts you could ever perform. Your family and friends, and your girlfriend, would be devestated. I think you should see a councelor. If your girlfriend just gets pissy with you, maybe its time to find a new one who cares. Ending your life over a love interest never works out, look at Romeo and Juliet, they both killed themselves and couldn't be together anyway. If you're going to kill yourself, you may as well break up with your pissy girlfriend and go find a sweet one. You would die for this girl, but you don't have to, and you shouldn't. That's no reason at all to be suicidal. If you want to be happy, change your life and the elements in it. P.S.- THERE IS NO PAINLESS SUICIDE. I think it's time you move on with your LIFE, and find a hobby and a friend that makes you happy. When you have the thinking notion that "Everything I do is wrong", everything that you do will be wrong, you need to think positively and say okay, this is just a bad day, tomorrow is going to be better. And while you're at it, why don't you ask your girlfriend why she's being such a bitch? She obviously doesn't appreciate you the way someone else would, so dump her.
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for the past week i have been on a strict diet
ill have 80 calorie bread with eggwhites
for breakfast wih a coffeee (always use half and half)
lunch ill have a small froyo or skip it
dinner will be a protein or ccereall
as you can see i eat very little and im very strict.
today i had a froyo, then 2 bowls of fiber 1 (this equals 400 calories believe it or not) then for dinner i had a chicken salad.
however my weight keeps fluctuating. ill loose a pound then gain 2. i dont get it. i am hardley eating!!!!
please spare me the lecture about body going into starvation mode so you gain weight.....
why am i not loosing? (link)
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Most diets are successful because they consist of six or so small meals a day. If you need a snack to keep you going, you should try some low fat yogurt or real fruit. Bread is the thing most people cut out when they're trying the method that you do. It's important that you don't skip any meals because you may end up eating more later because of it. Eat smaller portions of meals, but don't cut them out completely. Fruits, veggies, low fat milk, and moderated amounts and/ or fat free snacks in between meals, that way you aren't super hungry when it comes meal time, that way you DO eat smaller portions.
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There is this boy at my church that I like. I initiated everything, the phone calls, the notes, the eye contact. Which is why I never initiated an actual conversation, that was his job. He never did, though. He could not work up the nerve to talk to me. Ever! He writes me these cute notes, saying I'm his only one, that he gets a huge knot in his stomach when he tries to talk to me. He's on the church worship team and every time he would sing, he would look right at me, like he was singing to me. He had since gotten a girlfriend, talked to her and just asked her out, no problem. Why couldn't he talk to me and ask me out that easily? (link)
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It sounds like he feels inferior to you because of how much he likes you, maybe he's afraid he will mess things up. I would ask him the next time you see him why he never initiated a conversation with you, and that you were really looking forward to being able to chat with him. Maybe then he will open up a little bit, and you guys can get to know each other more. Good luck to you on that.
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okay, so I started my period a couple of days ago, and my bestfriend asked me if I wanted to go swimming with her tomorrow I said yes, because i'm not that heavy. I don't wear tampons only pads so would it be ok if I wear a dark bathing suit and a panty liner? (link)
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The problem is, with wearing pads swimming, the pads don't reach up and grab the blood when it comes out. When swimming in a pool of water, the blood will seep right out into the water. If you're comfortable with trying a tampon, use a light tampon, and take it out when you're done swimming. Tampons plug the hole so it doesn't leak out, which is the only effective way to swim while on your period. I'm sorry there isn't a way around that, and good luck to you
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20F. I'm warning you that this will be long, but I will definitely return the favor to anyone who can give advice!
So I recently met this guy whose 19, he's so adorable!! We both have mutual friends so he's not a complete stranger. Well a few nights ago me and my friend went to this little get together we were at, we were both drinking a little. He wanted to go in the hot tub and I said i'd go with him. So he had a swimsuit but I didn't know there was a hot tub so I just went in my bra and underwear, no big deal to me. So it was just me and him in there and we just started talking. I could tell he wanted me by how he was acting aha so I eventually sat in his lap in the hot tub and we started making out, then he started fingering me. Well then we got out and kept making out and he kept fingering me. Well then I was like I don't think I can do this, I can't trust you..you probably hook up with girls like this every night. He said to be honest ..I haven't hooked up with a girl in about 5 weeks. I said ..okay well just to let you know i'm still a virgin and then I asked him how many girls he's slept with and he said 3, two were his girlfriends of a long time and one was a drunken mistake he claimed. He said I'll even give you my moms number to prove to you that you can trust me and if i turn out to be an asshole you can call my mom and tell her. I could go on and on about the things he was doing to prove that I could trust him. Well then my friend and one of his friends come downstairs and he said grant will you tell her i'm a good guy and that she can trust me? and then my friend butts in and says..i heard you just hooked up with a girl last weekend!! well then he just got pissed at me for not being able to trust him. He calmed down after a bit and then we just cuddled. I just can't tell if he just wanted to get some from me or if he was being sincere??
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It sounds like this guy is trying to get laid. Don't lose your virginity to someone unless they are special, you will probably regret it. Guys who come up with endless ways to tell you can trust them, should be the ones that aren't trusted. The person I lost my virginity to told me he loved me and wanted to be with me forever, then dumped me a week later and slept with my best friend. Guys will tell you anything to get in your pants. If you do really like this guy, test him. See if he's in it for the long haul or just for a night. Tell him that you're not ready to have sex and if he can't accept that, than you cannot accept anything more than friendship from him.Give him a time frame, or an approximation, if he agrees to wait, and does so patiently without trying to co-erce you all the time, then it might be worth it. You will be able to tell if he's willing to wait by how impatient he gets by passing time. If he's out screwing other girls while "waiting", tell him that he needs to go find a lay somewhere else because that's not what you're looking for.
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my brother just passed away about a week ago and I want to name my first born after him. his name is richie. so obviously if my first born is a boy that would be the name. but I need a girl version of the name richie. any ideas please? (link)
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A lot of people these days are using boy names for girls and girls for boys. I know a girl named Randy, but they've also used Adrian, which is originally a boys name, and made it Adrienne, so it was feminine. Maybe if you changed the spelling to make it more feminine, it would be a new trend or something, like if you spelled it Richee, or Richey. You could also use a lengthened form such as Richelle, (pronounced RA SHELL). There are plenty of choices and you could also go with previous advice and use it as a middle name. Or you could just name a girl Richie, there are girls out there that have that name, if you look it up on a baby names site. Hope I helped, and my condolences for your loss.
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If you like someone and she is already your friend and it is the middle of the summer but you really like her so you want to ask her out as soon as possible, but you also want to ask her out in person so you seem more confident then what do you do? Do you ask her out, or do you wait till you see her again. (link)
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You should call her, and ask if she wants to hang out. If she does, you should hang out with her a few times and then ask her. If she's a normal girl, once you show interest in her, she won't be chasing after other boys if you're the one she likes, she'll sit around waiting for you. But yes, by all means ask her IN PERSON. Good luck!
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I understand taking it slowly, but you see we've been together over three years, so I don't know how much slower we can go haha. I mean like I have urges to do things, i just over think and they end up stressing me out so I don't do it. That's my main problem, I always freak myself out and get stressed and think I'mma be stupid if I try, it's a confidence thing. As for the BDSM thing, it is also in the same pool, I lack the self confidence to feel like I am better then the other girls and I'm the only one he is interested in. It doesnt help that when he watches the videos for the BDSM shows he says to himself 'oh that's so sexy oh i really like that' it really bothers me cause i feel i cant provide that for him. I have NO PROBLEM with PDA at all, it's just the oober freaky stuff that I feel like I'm not experienced enough and Imma look stupid, and I know the only way to gain experience is to do it, but i just get so stressed out. I occasionally stay up at night and cry wishing i wouldnt stress myself out like this. (link)
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I have the same issues girlfriend, lol. or had, anyway. Once its fully established what's sexy and what's not, and what you both would like, like, everything, then it gets a little easier. Now I am able to just walk up to my boyfriend pull his hair back, and give him a nice big smooch and tell him that he better go in the bedroom cause I'm ready for some action. It really is easier to just do it. My boyfriend is into the whole latex fetish thing and the dominate and submissive roles, and I had never done anything like that before I was with him. After watching a few porns and reading a few things on the internet, you find out what's sexy. Though, it does help if you feel sexy yourself. Try buying a sexy outfit, and doing your make up, and some sexy high heels definitely help. It will give you more confidence because you'll be able to SEE that he finds it sexy. Once you know he finds it sexy, soon enough you will be able to walk up to him and be like "Hey freak, do me like you've never done anyone before, I want it crazy". Sometimes its good to feel a little stupid as crazy as that sounds, cause then you know what not to do next time, but I'm sure he won't make you feel stupid about anything that you're doing. The one person you should be able to feel stupid in front of is your boyfriend, because in the end, it doesn't matter. He's not going to stop loving you just because something wasn't as sexy as it was thought out to be. If he tells you about something he doesn't like so much, try not to take it offensively and just see it as experience for the future. FE, my boyfriend STILL tries to kiss and lick my ear after a year and a half even though i keep telling him it turns me off. Im sure i embarrass him to cause now i just say NOT MY EARRRRRRRRRR!, but hopefully one day it sinks in, until then he's not going crazy over it because its sex, and he gets it either way. You should also think about writing down things that YOU think are sexy about yourself, that way you can focus on that instead of all the worry. I hope your elaborated question and my elaborated answer help you to feel more confident.
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