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I just want to give up with boys...
Hey. Okay. I am a fifteen year old girl... when I was fourteen I liked a boy who told me he liked me too until we had a conversation one day about sex and I told him I believed in waiting for marriage and he told me he didn't like me anymore... My first boyfriend after that I thought I loved. Yeah, I know, I was young and stupid haha. But he could have told me the sky was green and I'd believe him. I believed everything he said. He talked me into giving him head and broke up with me immediatly after. He told me he didn't like me anymore, but he wanted that before we split... It hurt so bad to know that he had only said he loved me to use me... Later on he told me that for the last three months of our seven month relationship, he was only in it for the physical stuff. A few months after that I went on a date with a guy who attempted to rape me. He heard rumors that I "put out" and wanted to see how lucky he could get. I just don't understand... I feel so horrible right now. I feel like the only thing I have to offer anyone is my body. Am I really such a sucky person that that's the only reason any guy will stick around?? So many guys have "professed their love" (guys I've never even talked to!!) to me but they just want something... I feel useless. Like that sexual stuff is the only thing I'm good for. I know I'm not ugly but I'm starting to doubt if any guy can love me for the inside stuff. Or if I'm even worth the time for them to try to see what's there.
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Consider sticking to group dates. Get some of your friends together, and take some guys out to a movie or something. Don't worry so much about if they're perfect or not, just try to meet some new people.
I think what you'll find is that not all guys are complete idiots, and some will definitely appreciate you for who you are. But stick with group dates, because then you won't have to worry about getting into a sticky situation. Dating should be about having fun and not getting serious until you are considering marriage. You know what I mean?
I hope this helps. Never give up, there are good guys out there, but maybe they're not ones that want to do any steady dating until they're older.
Hope this helps.
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Never let the way someone else sees you effect the way you see yourself. These young men have looked at you through carnal, disrespectful, and arrogant eyes and they failed to see the beautiful qualities that I am sure you have. You hate the way that they looked at you, so do not start looking at yourself that way. =)
I think that it's magnificent that you want to wait until marriage to have sex! I feel the same way. Sex is the expression of love and you should preserve that special expression for the one man that you get to be with and to love for the rest of your life. Remember that.
You are worth so much and don't you ever forget it or let people treat you like your something unworthy of praise. Save yourself for a young man who is going to treat you with respect, see the real you, and put your happiness and protection before his.
Oh, and they did not value you for what's on the inside because they came to you with the intention of having sexual contact. Not because you don't have qualities worth loving. A good young man(and one who is actually worth your time and worthy of you) will love you for what's on the inside and make it known to you.
Goodluck and I hope that everything goes well for you and remember, your beautiful!
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you are definitely NOT a sucky person. Boys at this age just try to "get some" it's not you it's the boys. I'm so sorry this had to happen to you. Eventually a boy will come around that cares about the real you not the physical stuff. You aren't useless either. I bet you have an amazing personality and these boys are just too stupid to see it. Don't look down on yourself!!Just be careful with the boys you trust your heart with.
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