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Is monster bad for you if you only drink it once in a while? (link)
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This is totally my opinion, (no research to back it up) so take it for what it's worth...
I don't think it is ever good for you to take something as strong as a Monster. Is it bad to have some once in awhile, probably not, but you're better off without it.
Energy drinks (and drugs in general) work by stimulating or suppressing certain chemicals in your body, so that your body runs on more (or less) than what it's used to. Monster for example increases your body's regular amount of adrenaline (and other hormones), and that is why you feel the energy rush. But later you get a bad crash because your body is depleted of its regular amount of adrenaline and can't produce enough to help you function normally.
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Hey. Okay. I am a fifteen year old girl... when I was fourteen I liked a boy who told me he liked me too until we had a conversation one day about sex and I told him I believed in waiting for marriage and he told me he didn't like me anymore... My first boyfriend after that I thought I loved. Yeah, I know, I was young and stupid haha. But he could have told me the sky was green and I'd believe him. I believed everything he said. He talked me into giving him head and broke up with me immediatly after. He told me he didn't like me anymore, but he wanted that before we split... It hurt so bad to know that he had only said he loved me to use me... Later on he told me that for the last three months of our seven month relationship, he was only in it for the physical stuff. A few months after that I went on a date with a guy who attempted to rape me. He heard rumors that I "put out" and wanted to see how lucky he could get. I just don't understand... I feel so horrible right now. I feel like the only thing I have to offer anyone is my body. Am I really such a sucky person that that's the only reason any guy will stick around?? So many guys have "professed their love" (guys I've never even talked to!!) to me but they just want something... I feel useless. Like that sexual stuff is the only thing I'm good for. I know I'm not ugly but I'm starting to doubt if any guy can love me for the inside stuff. Or if I'm even worth the time for them to try to see what's there. (link)
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Consider sticking to group dates. Get some of your friends together, and take some guys out to a movie or something. Don't worry so much about if they're perfect or not, just try to meet some new people.
I think what you'll find is that not all guys are complete idiots, and some will definitely appreciate you for who you are. But stick with group dates, because then you won't have to worry about getting into a sticky situation. Dating should be about having fun and not getting serious until you are considering marriage. You know what I mean?
I hope this helps. Never give up, there are good guys out there, but maybe they're not ones that want to do any steady dating until they're older.
Hope this helps.
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Okay. See here's the thing. I used to be such a stubborn independ, strong willed girl. You couldn't tell me to do anything, I was crazy. But when I started dating this boy. I think I let him change me... And I think I know the night it happened. I was hanging out with him one night and we were kissing, normal stuff. But then it started getting kind of hot, like I started to press into him more (we were laying down on the couch, I was on top) then he pulled me down so he was on top and started to press into me even harder, it almost hurt. He stopped for a second because I was hesitating now. I apologized and reminded him this was the first time I've ever been this physical with a guy, cuz he was my first boyfriend. He said it's okay and kept going. He started putting his hand down my pants and I pulled it out. A few minutes later he put it down again and I pulled it out. He put it in a third time and I knew, I knew it was wrong for him to keep doing this but somehow I also thought it was okay... I can't even explain it. It's like I shut down and just let him. I let him finger me. Then he stopped and I didn't even notice it but I had started crying. I don't know why I couldn't tell him to stop... I wasn't scared I was just like lost... completely zoned out. I don't know. He didn't notice I was crying and we kept going. He then proceeded to put my hand in his pants and I pulled it away. He asked me for a handjob and I said no. He told me it was okay. The next time we hung out he pulled down his pants and put my hand... well you know where. I started giving him a hj. I don't know why I couldnt' say no!! I started to cry though and we stopped and he hugged me, I just told him I didn't want to go so fast and he said okay. Except everytime we hung out he continued to finger me. When we hit six months I knew something was wrong. It was like this kid had sucked all of my strength out of me. I wasn't myself anymore. And when he asked for a bj I said no but like usual the things he said to convice me stopped seeming ilke convincing and started making so much sense even though I knew it was wrong. He told me things like "it's been six months, I finger you and it seems like that aspect of our relationship is completely one-sided. you should be comfortable enough to do this for me." and I did it... I was shocked with myself. I couldn't believe I was fourteen and doing this. I started crying after but he held me and told me it was okay and that he loved me and I believed him. He could tell me anything and I'd believe him. I don't know how our relationship got like this. Anyway, he dumped four days later. Its been two months since the break up and I know I'm stronger now. But I'm scared to trust myself with liking a guy again. I HATED how pathetic and used my ex made me feel. I HATED being his little slave. I don't ever want that again... I don't know if I can't trust boys or if I can't trust myself... I don't know what to do. How can I get back who I was?? (link)
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You've learned from your experience, now you have to set some rules for yourself. Take a minute about situations you might find yourself in in the future, and decide now what your answer will be when that particular situation arises.
It is easier to make a decision if you've taken the time to think it out beforehand, that way you can't be caught by surprise. ... Make some rules for yourself.
I also suggest not dating anyone seriously until you feel comfortable with it. In the future always go on group dates, if there are other people around, with high standards, you won't fall into a sticky situation. Dating should be fun, not so serious until you are ready to get married.
Finally you asked the question "How can I get back who I was?": If you're a Christian, consider some things from the Bible... Do you know the story of the Prodigal Son? It is basically a story about a boy who convinced his father to give him his inheritance money and then he goes and blows it all and does some terrible things. Afterward, when he's penniless and starving to death, he remembers his father and returns to plead forgiveness and ask to be made a slave in his fathers fields. But his father sees him coming from far away off and runs to him and hugs him and makes him his son again, not a servant.
The moral of this story is, if we truly repent (completely change) God will restore us to exactly how we were before. It is a very beautiful thought isn't it?
So to answer the question "How can I get back who I was?" The answer is: firmly resolve to change, and NEVER make the same mistake again. And you will feel happy, and you will be restored to how you were (but perhaps wiser).
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17/f
at my school there was this really pretty girl that i guess you could say i had a gradeschool crush on, but i'd never go out with her. maybe like kiss her at a party if i was drunk or something but not like have a full on relationship. i don't think of girls that way, i'm totally straight. anyways, i haven't seen her for months, let alone, thought about her, and a few nights ago i had a dream that she and i had sex. like full on sex. clothes off, kissing, etc, without going into too much detail.
why the hell would i have a dream like that when i'd never do that with her, or any other girl? (link)
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I've had dreams of doing stuff that I would never do in real life. I would say it is pretty normal. The important thing is that you recognize it as something that you don't want, and so now you can make a conscious decision about it.
Hope that helps.
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I am 19 and have had sex with seven people. I regret my past, and I have never seen myself as a whore or a slut, but that is probably because I waited until I was 18 and a half to lose my virginity. And that is what makes it all worse, is that I had sex with so many people in such a short amount of time.
Would you consider this slutty? Or would you think I'm gross?
Again this is my past, I finally found a guy, and I am sticking to him for a long time. And even if he breaks my heart like the first one did, I know better now than to go on a sex rampage. (link)
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You learned something from that experience, the important part is that you REMEMBER what you learned.
Consider setting some rules for yourself. Think about what you really want in a partner (and in life), and set some rules so that whenever a certain situation arises, you already know what your answer will be.
And please, NEVER give up on yourself, everyone makes mistakes, the important thing is what you do after you make the mistake.
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i read on the back on the aloe vera bottle that it moisturizes your skin. if i put it on my face, would it make me break out? (link)
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Most people aren't allergic to Aloe, in fact, in its natural form (unprocessed) it is safe to eat. You may want to try and apply a small amount to your wrist or something to make sure you don't have a reaction before applying to your face.
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how do i get rid of razor burn? (link)
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Anything with alcohol in it will work. (aftershave has alcohol for example) Even some rubbing alcohol will work fine, it doesn't smell so nice, but it evaporates quickly.
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How do I make my picture bigger?
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I assume you are talking about a .jpg file right?
You need to use an image manipulation program. If you are using Windows, you can use MS Paint. It can be found under:
Start->All Programs->Accessories->Paint
Choose File->Open to load up your picture
Choos Image->Stretch/Skew and enter some new percentages under the Vertical and Horizontal boxes for "Stretch". To make it bigger, you have to use numbers bigger than 100% (e.g. 200% would double the size) and make sure to use the same number in BOTH vertical and horizontal, otherwise the image will be skewed.
If you mess up, just press Ctrl+Z (undo) and try again, until you get the size you want.
Note, there is an unfortunate side effect when you resize a picture bigger, it tends to turn out more pixelated because it has to interpolate pixels to fill in the extra space when you make the picture bigger.
If possible, you will want to get another digital copy of the picture with high resolution, meaning that it has more pixels per inch.
Good Luck
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I have been talking to this girl online for awhile now. She is really nice and kind even though she lives a few states away from me. I really enjoy chatting with her almost every evening. She has been a good friend to me.
Well, I am starting to have these feelings for her. I know she is real and is who she says she is so please don't go on about how she could be a serial killer posing as a teenage girl. She has been completely honest with me and there is so much about her that I really like and want.
Is it wrong to have feelings for her? She has only been an online friend to me even though I've had these feelings starting for a little while now. Should I tell her that I like her? Should I try to turn my online friendship into a relationship? Even if I don't pursue a relationship with her should I still tell her that I'm developing these...feelings?
Thank you. (link)
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Your case is not uncommon, even before the internet people fell in love writing letters to each other.
As for breaking the ice. You gotta just tell her how much you appreciate her. You don't have to start with the words "I love you", but let her know a little bit about how you feel, that you really enjoy talking with her and that you think she is a great person, etc.
How about copy and paste the question you wrote above and see what she thinks... What you wrote there sounds very sincere.
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So I'm been enduring through almsot all of my driving teacher's lessons and I have 2 left but I really dislike him and he's STRONGLY requesting extra classes.
Well my aunt just enrolled in the same school as me and the class teacher told her (when she was starting her driving lessons) that if she has problems with her teacher, call him and he can swtich.
Well, he didn't me that or anyone in class so I thought it wasn't allowed and that my driving instructor will find out and hate my guts or something.
Does it make sense to just keep him then or call the nice teacher to teach my extra lessons? Everyone considers driving so easy but I seem to be breaking that...fact. I'm pretty sure it isn't hard either but my teacher is so irritating that someties it's hard to focus and I get a bit of road rage. (link)
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The company wants your business, so they will surely help you out with switching teachers. It won't hurt ti give them a call and explain.
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Okay. There is a very odd thing that keeps crawling (looks like its swimming) around on my windowsill. It looks like... I cant even explain it. But it has a lot of legs, no, its not a centipede. I poured nail polish remover on it, and watched it die. I then examined it closely. It appears to have a pair of very small antennae on its head, and also two things (that look like antennae) on its... bottom side. It is not an earwig either, Im not sure what it is. It's little, and you can barely tell it has legs at all because they're so small. Any help? (link)
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it sounds like an earwig.
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hey i deleted the icon for the one program i have and that was the only one..how can i get into the program without a icon? (link)
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I'm assuming that you are running Windows???
Everything that gets installed is on your hard drive, and 95% of the time, it is in: c:/Program Files/
Try browsing around in there. You can get there from "My Computer"
If its' not Windows, the same thing applies, but the hard drive directory may be different.
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I've been in 4 serious relationships since i was 13.. 3 of them have ended & im currently in one...i still think about 2 of my exs.. & i mean a lot. & i dont know if i want to be with my current boyfriend any more..
& since i have feelings for my exs it doesnt help.
i want to stop thinking about my exs.. how do i do that?!
& my current boyfriend is like everything a girl could ask for..but hes just like too sensitive & too needy for my taste, but i LOVE his family.. & i dont want to hurt him at all.. what do i do ? do i just try to make it work for awhile or do i leave now?
thanks for any advice (: (link)
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Okay, this one is really hard to answer, but let me start with a bit of general advice and then try to answer the specific question.
Serious relationships are always tricky. It is easy to fall back into one once you've left it. In general, if there is ever anything in a relationship that makes you feel awkward, (more than just a little bit) it usually isn't right.
Now, about your current boyfriend, you have to decide if you have fun with him or not. If you aren't still having fun hanging out and going on dates, it is time to move on.
I suggest that you date a variety of guys if you can, and avoid starting any more serious relationships until you're really ready to think about getting married. (which isn't for awhile right? :) It is always a lot more fun when you aren't tied down to just one person. Dating a variety of guys is also the best way to get your mind off of the old boyfriends.
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I'm a thirteen-year-old rising female freshman.
Back in September, I got my first boyfriend. Let's say his name was Tyler. Tyler verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused me for almost six months before I finally broke it off. The thing is - I know I was wrong to give in to this - I lost my virginity to Tyler. I thought I loved him, and adults around me believed we were in love too, so I don't know, I just felt like I could trust him. I know I was stupid, losing my virginity at thirteen to someone I no longer care about, but I've learned from my mistakes and won't do this for many years.
Now I've got a new boyfriend. Let's say his name is Aaron. I've known Aaron for almost two years now; we've always been close. I'm Aaron's first girlfriend. I love him a lot, and he's the person I trust most in this world. Recently, I accidentally let loose the fact that I have a deep dark secret (that I'm no longer a virgin). He got curious and asked what exactly my secret was, so I told him I trusted him enough that I would tell him by the end of the summer.
I have no regrets about saying I'd reveal my secret to him. I know he'd never tell anyone. What I am scared of, however, is what he'll think of me afterwards. What if he calls me a whore or something? I know that means he doesn't deserve me, that he isn't worth it. But unlike a lot of other people, his opinion means so much to me. I guess I kind of need some reassurance in my decision to tell him. D: (link)
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My first impulse here is to keep this one to yourself. This is the type of thing you tell a fiancee to get off your chest before you ask them to commit their life to you, not a new boyfriend.
Second, guys can be idiots (I include myself here - even worse when I was thirteen). In some unforeseeable future, you two may break up and he may blab your secret to everyone. I know kids at my high school that had bad reputations because of what their x-boyfriend or girlfriend said about them after breaking up.
If you haven't discussed this with your parents, please do. They are certainly better people to confide in than Aaron at this point.
Finally, if you have completely changed your ways, (repented) you should consider yourself as if you are still a virgin. What I'm trying to say is if you truly change, (and I believe you have) then that old person that lost her virginity isn't you anymore, and the "secret" that you held doesn't apply to you anymore. Therefore, Aaron doesn't need to know about the "old" you. (I hope I'm making sense... If you read the Bible this point is made very clear.)
Please reply if you want me to point out some specific Bible verses that can help out.
Good luck!
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Okay I really need your advice please!!!! And soon really soon and long or lots of answers!!! Alright. So what are some things thatguys want to hear from their girlfriends. Like compliments or things to call them. Things he likes to be called and things that he will think I'm cute for. Thanks alot!! :) (link)
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It's not what you say necessarily, but whether you mean it or not. Think about what you actually like about him, and then tell him those things. It won't take long to think of the things you admire most about him.
In general, compliments are always better if they are sincere and less superficial. (for example "You look good", isn't as good of a compliment as "You are really thoughtful")
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i'm laura, 19, and soon to be a junior in college. long story short: went to chatham university - majored in graphic design (hated it), i go to the art institute of atlanta currently (love the school, but no long sure about my major). i don't know what to do because i feel like no major seems to be my calling. my mom's frustrated because i can't make up my mind, but i can't help it. i don't know what to do with my future or what i'm truly good at. this time, i feel like i should go into a new school to do nursing. i feel like i would like that because i love to help people. should i continue with my last 2 yrs in a major that i don't click with or should i pursue nursing? thanks so much guys (link)
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I switched majors in the middle of school, and here's the thing I realized about myself. The thing that I wanted to do (which was graphic design by the way) is still a lot of fun to me, but I'm glad that I don't do it as a career because I get burnt out doing it for too long.
My advice is, try that new thing that you're thinking about. Take a beginning nursing class and see how it feels. That is what I did, and I'm glad I did.
As for the money and "wasted" time... Time spent learning is NEVER wasted. You'll find that what you have learned so far gives you special perspective in any other career you may choose.
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So I'm italian, and I'm pressured by family/friends/media to have a tan because most italians have tanned skin.
I'm naturally light skinned (not pale) but I do tan easily. The thing is, I'm so tired of tanning..and I don't want to ruin my skin. And I hate fake tanning products! I tried it and it's so annoying having to waste my time reapplying each day. But, I feel like every guy prefers girls to have tanned skin; on TV all you see is tanned skin! I'm fine with my skin color overall. Do guys really care what your skin tone is? Does it matter if your just plain white or tan? (link)
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If you really hate tanning, then don't do it, you'll still find great guys - honest. Try an experiment, go a couple weeks without tanning and see if you notice any difference.
My opinion is - If a guy is so superficial that he won't talk to you because you aren't "tan" enough, you don't want him anyway.
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Recently, I started dating this guy. It's been great, and we're starting to really get to know each other and get closer, so feelings have gotten strong between us. The issue arises, because a guy I work with who I have liked for such a long time, broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to start seeing me and now we've gotten closer. These two great guys, both want to have a relationship with me. They are complete opposites, and I feel like I'm two different people with each of them. They both make me happy and I feel so lucky to have them in my life. If the first guy found out, he'd be so hurt but I'm scared to settle down and wonder "what could have been?" with this other guy. Should I continue seeing both of them? I wouldn't know where to start on choosing between them. I feel like since I'm not in a serious relationship with either, I'm not doing anything wrong by playing the field a bit. Any suggestions or way to maneuver this situation? [20/f] (link)
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Keep in mind that until you have a ring on that finger, you don't have to commit to anyone.
The problem (in my humble opinion) is not that you are going on dates with more than one person; it is that you feel that you are giving the wrong impression... Each of these guys think that you are exclusively dating them, and so you feel awkward portraying that to them.
Be honest and tell them both that you're not ready to commit to anyone just yet, but you want to continue to date. That way, you're being completely honest, and you can focus more on having fun, and getting to know them rather than avoiding an awkward situation later on.
As you date them (and hopefully other guys too) keep in perspective the things that you admire about each of them, and eventually you'll know when you've found the right one.
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