I'm InVision. That's what you will know me by, so please refrain from asking my real name.
Gender: Female
Location: Texas
Occupation: PreMedicine Student
Age: 18
Member Since: July 15, 2010
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idk wats worth living anymore. me an my gf jus fight all the time over nothing, an its manly cus i talk about feelings, an she jus gets pissy. im loosing ever so slowly the only thing i love in this life. id die for this girl an for only her jus to get anoyed by me, thats fucked. im loosing everything. all i do is fuck up,, so wats the quickest way to end ur life painless. im tired of feeling pain, i want to jus be in a better place to where i can live an be happy, cus obviously im doing a good job here........... (link)
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Hunny, let me tell you this story. I got pregnant when I was 16 years old. I had my daughter, Yona, 2 months before i turned 17. The father was my first real boyfriend, my first kiss, my first love, first sexual partner etc... We ended up getting married when I was 3 months along. I loved this boy with all of my heart and I was so happy to have our perfect little family. But as time went on, I guess he felt some sense of obligation to stay with me instead of actually wanting to be with me. After Yona was born, things went downhill very rapidly.
He started having a short temper with me, and became snappy. When ever I tried to talk to him he would just get frustrated and not want to talk.
I was down at my lowest at this point, and it started to get to a point where we didn't fight anymore because there was nothing else to be said; we had said it all. He eventually asked for a divorce, and a guy I had dated for 3 years and been married to for almost 2 didn't love me anymore.
I prayed at night that I would just die, hoping that I would die in my sleep.
I was seriously considering suicide, but then I realized that the best thing for me was to move on with my life. I have a daughter to think about, I have my future, and I'm certain that one day I will find the person that is truly right for me. Just because you love somebody, doesn't mean you're meant to be together forever. Relationships are learning experiences and after one ends, you pick your self up, dust your self off, and apply what you've learned to the next relationship you get in. I'm not saying it's easy to get over someone you love, it's rough, but just remember one day you will wake up and everything will be a bit brighter.
Suicide is not the answer you're looking for. Living your life to the fullest is your answer. Tell her straight up "Listen, I love you and want to be with you. But I have to know if you truly want to be with me aswell".
If you have any more question, don't hesitate to ask.
InVision
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ok so like this girl and she most likely likes me too and i think we could have a pretty good relationship but anyways we are only 15 and she has a baby do you think this would be a problem in the relationship (link)
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A friend of mine is 15 years old as well and has a child and he has a really successful dating life (well as much as a 15 year old can).
But what you have to realize is that she is on a different level of maturity than you. She has been through something in life at such a young age that you haven't been through and it has made her grow up.
If you think that you are ready to add a child into the mix in a 15 year old relationship, then by all means, pursue it. But think about it first, hun.
You're young, live your life.
If you have any other questions don't hesitate to ask.
InVision
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My Boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months but we're talking for about 4 or 5 months.. Before turned 18 (just recently) we disscussed moving out together and getting our own place. I turned 18 a month after him and thats when i started really looking around for things we could afford, and now it seems like everytime i bring it up he always says i dont know or maybe.. Does he just not want to move out? I dont know what to do anymore.. (link)
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FIrst off it's a horrible idea to live with someone you've been dating for less than a year ( i know this by my own experience and friends have said the same). You get too much of each other and it can get exhausting emotionally.
Second of all, if he REALLY want's to , he will come to you and take initiative. Guy's tend to say stuff they regret later, and if he is acting like that, then the best thing to do is lay off the issue for a while and bring it up in a few months. Pushing him to do something he doesn't want can put a lot of strain on a relationship.
You're young, live your life. Don't rush into things.
If you have any other questions feel free to ask.
InVision
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17/f
I've been in 4 serious relationships since i was 13.. 3 of them have ended & im currently in one...i still think about 2 of my exs.. & i mean a lot. & i dont know if i want to be with my current boyfriend any more..
& since i have feelings for my exs it doesnt help.
i want to stop thinking about my exs.. how do i do that?!
& my current boyfriend is like everything a girl could ask for..but hes just like too sensitive & too needy for my taste, but i LOVE his family.. & i dont want to hurt him at all.. what do i do ? do i just try to make it work for awhile or do i leave now?
thanks for any advice (: (link)
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I have definately been in this EXACT situation. My last serious boyfriend hurt me and broke my heart, but I have never completely gotten over him.
I started dating a very sweet guy, who was well mannered, funny, sweet, affectionate, romantic, etc. I even adored his family and loved spending time with them.
The only problem was I was constantly comparing him to my ex.
Me and him broke up, but for different reasons.
The important thing you have to remember, is why you and your ex's broke up in the first place. It's very easy to remember the good in a relationship, such as how you felt when you first fell in love with them or your first kiss. But sometimes, you have to remember if the bad outweighed the good in the relationship.
I still love my ex, and remember the feelings I had for him all of the time. But I know that me and him would never work good in a relationship again, because, as much as I loved the boy and would do anything in the world for him, I would have to remember that specific part of the relationship was minut compared to our reasons to part.
I hope this helped and if you have any other questions please don't hesitate to ask.
InVision
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i went to a restaurant n sat on d toilet seat .,, it was a bit wet so i really sccared will i get preganant? (link)
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Very unlikely, but it is possible. Sperm is alive as long as it is moist. Once it dries up, it is no longer a threat. Anytime live sperm comes in contact with the vagina there is a chance pregnancy could occur. This is a key concept to remember. Although it is extremely unlikely that a women could get pregnant from a toilet seat the possibility exists under certain conditions. There would have to be live sperm on the toilet seat, it would have to enter the woman's vagina and that woman would have to be extremely fertile.
I hope this helped and if you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask.
InVision
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Hello i have a question. I have started growing as of you know and I am about turn 13 i havent got my period yet alot of my friends say thats unnormal is that true??? And I dont like talking to my mom about it it makes me feel un comfertable so i need help thanks alot (link)
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It can be frustrating when it seems like you're the last one of your friends to get your period. The thing is, everybody's bodies develop at their own pace and it's highly unlikely that you and your best bud will start your periods at the exact same time due to different genetics. Things to look for that mean your period is on its way are underarm and pubic hair, breast growth and white, vaginal discharge. The average girl will get her first period around 12 years old, but this definitely varies from person to person. If you're ever concerned about your body's development, check in with your family doctor to see what they think!
Also, another symptom to look for is if you start throwing up, and becoming very nasueas. When I started mine i thought i had food poisoning because I had become very ill, but it was just an extreme reaction to starting it for the first time.
Hope this helped, if you have any other questions, feel free to ask.
InVision
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I am in my early 40's and have been diagnosed as depressed since my late teens after my first suicide attempt. I have been to dozens of doctors and therapists and have been on most brands of anti-depressants and am on one now. I am no longer suicidal but still suffer from major depression. Also I am afraid that other mental health issues are getting out of control like anger and making bad impulsive decisions. Because of these bad and impulsive decisions, my financial and health insurance situation is bad. I know I should be seeing a therapist on a regular basis and maybe should even be hospitalized. I have no urge to hurt myself or anyone else, but I am embarassed at who I have become and can't seem to stop myself from quitting jobs, sleeping around, compulsively eating, isolating, and lashing out at the few people I still have left in my life. In my twenties I seemed more in control and had a great career and was someone I could be proud of. For the past several years I see myself as this crazy person who barely is making it through the "normal" world. Is there some way I can finally get the help I need when I don't have the money or insurance? I know I need help. (link)
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I myself was diagnosed as bipolar NOS, which the symptoms are consistant with a lot of what you are describing.
The signs which would lead to a diagnosis of bipolar 2 disorder are:
One or more major depressive episodes
At least one hypomanic episode
There has never been a manic or mixed episode
Another disorder is not responsible for symptoms
Symptoms cause distress or impair functioning
Symptoms and characteristics of depression include:
Decreased energy
Weight loss or gain
Despair
Irritability
Uncontrollable crying
Symptoms and characteristics of hypomania include:
Grandiosity
Decreased need for sleep
Pressured speech
Racing thoughts
Distractibility
Tendency to engage in behavior that could have serious consequences, such as spending recklessly or inappropriate sexual encounters
Excess energy
If you are interested in possibly getting a diagnosis, here is one website you can read about testing and how it is diagnosed.
http://www.psycheducation.org/depression/02_diagnosis.html
I know with my bipolar disorder, I am more manic rather than depressed. I tend to be very impulsive and I am horrible at saving money. I am very self centered (such as only caring about what happens to me and not worrying about others wellfare in certain situations). I tend to flip out at the flip of a coin.
The longer you go undiagnosed and/or unmedicated the more out of control or out of whack the chemical balance in the brain gets.
Depression is also a side disorder that is commonly associated with bipolar.
If you have any other question's don't hesitate to ask.
InVision
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