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Am I used worthless trash?
I am 19 and have had sex with seven people. I regret my past, and I have never seen myself as a whore or a slut, but that is probably because I waited until I was 18 and a half to lose my virginity. And that is what makes it all worse, is that I had sex with so many people in such a short amount of time.
Would you consider this slutty? Or would you think I'm gross?
Again this is my past, I finally found a guy, and I am sticking to him for a long time. And even if he breaks my heart like the first one did, I know better now than to go on a sex rampage.
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Wow i thought i was the only one feeling this way, after my first time having sex at 16 and come later on me and my bf of 8months broke up. This made me depressed and i told myself forget my feelings and have fun. So i started having sex with like 5 different people. I dont consider you as a slut i just think you like having sex. So dont take it to the head. Its actually normal. Your young have fun.
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You learned something from that experience, the important part is that you REMEMBER what you learned.
Consider setting some rules for yourself. Think about what you really want in a partner (and in life), and set some rules so that whenever a certain situation arises, you already know what your answer will be.
And please, NEVER give up on yourself, everyone makes mistakes, the important thing is what you do after you make the mistake.
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Dont regret your past. Things happen Its alright to experiment with different people just as long as your finally setteling down. I wouldnt consider you slutty because most likely if you were then you wouldnt be so concerned about it.
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I have to second Razhie: You ARE awesome.
You're not a whore, unless you've accepted money for sex.
The word 'slut' is often misused. A slut, traditionally, was a slovenly, dirty woman. It's used as a pejorative term against sexually promiscuous women now. So I'd say that if you're having sex with lots of men and not practicing good sexual health, then you'd be a slut. If you're doing the same, but you're clean as a whistle down there, then you're just a woman who likes sex.
I went through the same phase. Sexual liberation and all that. Once I found 'the one', it was like being a virgin all over again. He doesn't care about my past, and neither do I.
Defining yourself as worthless trash based on your sexual experience is incredibly demeaning. Do you define your worth based on how many times you've had a finger in your ear? Then why is a penis in a vagina so different? It's all in whether or not you respect yourself, and it sounds like you've got that in spades.
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You're awesome.
I went on a sex rampage of a sorts after a really bad break up at 20 years old. In hindsight, it was a bad idea, but it also taught me a lot about other people, what I want in relationships and sex, and what 'good sex' is to me.
So, although I'm glad I got through all of that clean, with no scares and mostly good respect and friendships all around, I wouldn't do it again.
So, you're awesome. You made a mistake, you handled it, and you move forward with more sense and self awareness then before. That's not slutty or gross. That's awesome. That's a huge life-time win for you.
Let the guilt go and pat yourself on the back.
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