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If It Hurts, Then Why Cant We Be Together?
About a month ago me and my boyfriend broke up (I broke up with him due to something that had happened between us, nothing too serious) He begged for me back, and eventually we got back together. Last week we spoke about that happening, and he said he thinks that for the best we should break up.
We have spoke since and he was undecided whether to try again. He's already been thinking about it for a week, and told me he doesn't want to give it another chance. After speaking to him again he changed his mind and said he wasn't sure because he didn't want to keep breaking up and getting back together. I know this won't happen again, not on my part any way. He said he loves me and he still wants to be with me, just the circumstances of the "breaking up and getting back together"
I spoke to him and he said he's re-thinking everyting. He said it was hurting him a lot too. If it hurts for him then why can't he give it another chance if he's sure that he wants me back? Do you think that means he doesn't want me back? He told my friend that he hopes we can work on it, but I don't know if he's saying that just to sound the nice guy.
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Breaking up is the hardest part in the relationship specially when the other person wants to hold on more on it.
You have given your boyfriend enough chance. Give yourself a chance too to be happy and love yourself more. Try meeting up with friends to distract you on the hurt you are going through now. It is not easy what you are going through now but you have to stand up for yourself. Take time out from the hurt, try not contacting your boyfriend for a while, maybe he feels confident that you are there waiting for him.
Go out with friends maybe when he feels that you seem fine, he will realize his faults or you can even meet other people along the way. Don't close your door yet.
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I am going through the exact same thing you are.The truth that we both need to realize is it won't work out.If he cares about you as much as he says he does then this shouldn't be a hard choice.He should want to be with you and want to work it out, but he has to think about it.He might think the only reason it's hard is because he feels alone without you.I feel alone without my boyfriend and I know I want to feel loved again and I want to have someone to care about and to care about me too.I want someone to always be there to talk to, but the more I think about it the more I realize that's what I want.Maybe you guys are the same you guys want that so much you're settling for each other.I know it hurts, but maybe it's for the best.Try being friends for a little bit and if in a couple weeks you guys still like each other then try it out.Chances are the more you think about it the more you'll realize you guys should be friends.Hope this helps.
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