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hi, im 13/m i have this gf we started going out like 2 months ago and its been really cool and i really like her alot but now i found out shes been smokin pot and drinken and shes only 13 though it was her first time it was kinda shocking cuz i expectede more from her i still like her but i sont kno if i wanna handle this i dont know what to do should i keep going out with her.
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It's obvious that you're uncomfortable with the situation, simply because you're asking this question. Based on that, I say you dump her. If you aren't considering that, I would advise talking to her. If she cares about you, she'll respect how you feel. Although it isn't uncommon, 13 is young to be getting into that kinda shit, and it only gets worse. Drugs are bad, mmkay?
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It all depends on ur values.If u find that she is not the right person for u bacause she smokes pot(which is bad)and drinks(which is bad too) then u should move on.
What I recommend u to do:
Try talking to her,communication is ur only salvation.Tell her that what she is doing is wrong,that u woul like to help her,show her how much u care.Ask her to stop.If u find that it isnt going to work,move on it wasnt ment to be.
Good Luck,I hope it helps
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well i mean if shes gunna go to partys n drink, she might hook up with someone else without u knowing about it.. so if u dont want that then u need to talk to her about it. its really up to you to decide if u wanna stay with her or not
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I used to smoke weed and cigarettes daily over two years ago and the guy I was dating at the time didn't like it. But the thing was we went out for 3 and a 1/2 months and he didn't tell me until we had been going out for 2months. And I quit right on the spot because I cared that much abotu him. My advice is to tell her how you feel because she might not know it's bothering you. She might do the same thing I did and quit just for you. I don't know. If she cares about you, she will definatly consider how you feel. If not, she is worth it if she is going to put that s**t before your feelings. Hope I helped!! Please keep me updated??? Blessed be!
~Candy the Wiccan
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if you dont feel comfortable with her doing that then talk to her set her straight. if she dosent care and dosent listen to you then you need to get rid of her cuz she aint worth it. Please rate me Tori
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dump the drug attic or tell her parents about the situation or talk to your girlfriend about it if she says she liked doing that kinda stuff than you don't need to go out with a stupid person like that
Philly
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If you realy have feeling for her you should try to help her. i am not saying that it is going to be easy but she is worth it! and if she likes you she will take everything you say to heart. try to work through it. at this age there is so many good and bad things to try out unfortunetly she chose the wrong thin... just help her. I hope i helped.
<3 Amelia
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tell her if she dosnt stop then your gonna have to leave her becuase when youur around her youll be breathing in second hand smoke( breathing smoke that comes from someone thats near you smoking). and if you kiss her then its gonna be horrible
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Well, if you really like her and you want her to stop, TELL HER! Tell her that smoking that could really hurt her and you don't want that. You know those commercials that say FRIENDS...MY ANI-DRUG, well that applies here. You have to help her. And if she won't listen tell someone, a teacher,a parent,or a guardian. Even your school's counclar* And personally I would break up with her until you know she has changed and stay friends. There you go! Hope it helps!
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I Think That you should talk to her about how ur feeling and tell her that u really care for her and dont want her to put herself in bad situations if she freaks out bc u told her how u feel shes not worth it and besides the fact even though u dont smoke weed or drink u can be associated with it just bcuz ur dating her ---Do u reall want that?
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No stop going out with her, if you try and alk to her, it's mst likely she'll want you to do it and I doubt she will pay attention to anything you say and she'll keep doing it. She's bad news and your too young for that suff make the right choice and LISTEN TO THE D.A.R.E PROGRAMS . I did (thumbs up, teeth sparkle) lol hope I helped! send me bac some feedback! -Bianca
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No!!! are you will do it to Do not go out with her
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talk to her. find out if she is gonna keep doing this. 13 is pretty young to be doing that kinda stuff. if she continues you might not wanna be around that kind of an influence, cuz let me tell you peer pressure is a bitch. but if you can handle it, then just dont be around her when she is doing it.
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talk to her about it.. ask her why shes doin it.. tell her you`re not comfortable with her smokin pot n drinkin.. if she doesnt stop then tell her that you want her to stop or else it will ruin ur relationship.. if she doesnt stop then she obviously doesnt care about ur relationship.. then break-up with her.. if she stops then thats a good sign!! good luck!!
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Definetly break up with her. You dont want to get involved with someone like that. It reflects off of you and if you date her then people might think you do tha stuff. And that is not the way you should want people to think of you. Plus this could cause many fights and arguements between the two of you so in the end it wont be worth it. You should move on. Hope i helped and good luck!
~*~*~Ren~*~*~
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Talk to her and tell her exactly what you just told us. You don't know if you can handle going out w.a girl that smokes and drinks but you really like her and you really don't want her to do anything that could hurt her. What she SHOULD do is say she'll try to stop (*even if she can't, she should @ least try), but if she doesn't...then shes not worth it and break up w.her. She should care about you and how you feel and if shes not even willing to try to stop..she doesn't care enuff and you shouldn't waste your time on someone who doesn't care..
=) HoPe I HeLpEd!
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talk to her about it tell her how u feel about her doing those things....i mean if my boyfriend wasnt comfortable with some of the things i was doing i wuld wanna no!! good luck hun!
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tell her you really dont like this and if she keeps it up you'll break up with her. if she likes u enough she'll worry about the relationship and she wont. if its really bothering, maybe its best you 2 arent together
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