Question Posted Thursday November 18 2004, 5:52 pm
i'm 17/f and i thought that i was pretty smart when it came to guys, but on two occasions i became the victim of a guy that wouldn't take "no" for an answer, i didn't get raped, more like pressured into doing something that i didn't want done, it's made me really self consious around other guys, i feel like i'm just an object and that i'm never going to get a good relationship because first off i had a bad experience with guys in the past and i was never close with my dad, and when i was 7 i was molested by my brother, so i've got to ask, am i a whore??
sunshine1030 answered Thursday November 18 2004, 11:44 pm: by no means are you a whore! no guy should EVER try and pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. if you still find yourself having trouble coming to terms with what happened in your past, i would suggest going to see a psychologist. they can help you get over your past, and learn what are good and bad signs in a relationship. i hope this helped, and best of luck to you!! [ sunshine1030's advice column | Ask sunshine1030 A Question ]
ICE11BLUE answered Thursday November 18 2004, 10:06 pm: No, sweetie, you're not a whore. You need to think a little higher of yourself. If you carry yourself like a "whore" (which you're not unless you try to be) then you may be attracting the wrong kind of guys. Hold your head high, make sure a guy is a good friend before you decide to get close enough to them to find out more. That guy who wouldn't take no for a answer is a whore, though!! But, yeah, just give time a chance and the right guy will come along. And never settle for less because you're worth a whole lot!! Try to be comfortable around the right guys, just relax and enjoy life and someone is going to like you for you. I wish you the best:) [ ICE11BLUE's advice column | Ask ICE11BLUE A Question ]
Adrz answered Thursday November 18 2004, 9:07 pm: Of course not, Some guys want to have the satisfaction of being able to control you, and ya gotta step up and tell him how it is. I was raped, and i know what its like...Sorry ta hear that bout your brother, your not a whore!
-hope i helped
Adrz [ Adrz's advice column | Ask Adrz A Question ]
MedicatedSanity answered Thursday November 18 2004, 8:59 pm: I'm praying for you tonight. YOu are SO not a whore. You just encountered what I like to call the scum of the earth aka those guys and a whole lot of bad luck. I'm really sorry about all that... I can only suggest that you make lots of female and male friends but don't go to any parties or raves... and don't flirt extremely or wear "whoreish" clothing or stay alone with a guy you don't 100% trust. Just wait for the guy that's right for you, I promise he'll come - unless you decide to become a lesbian of course. Well don't think your a whore, keep up your self esteem and confidence because you are awesome! :) [ MedicatedSanity's advice column | Ask MedicatedSanity A Question ]
Dom answered Thursday November 18 2004, 8:57 pm: No you're not a whore. Its just that when you go with guys and they dont take no for an answer you dont necessarily fight on that subject....you really need to go and state that no is the only option or your gone ya know? And im sorry about the incident with your brother and all but no your not a whore just pick your guys better is all i say. Its really up to you on what to decide, but i said what i said, so do what you want to do. But i hope i helped.
~Dominic [ Dom's advice column | Ask Dom A Question ]
babygurl7961 answered Thursday November 18 2004, 8:54 pm: no you are not a whore.. Because you were pressured and went with it it's alright.. you were scared, who knows what he would have done. And your brother NO hun you are nowhere near a whore! your brother should not have done that to you and you had no control.. *Youre NOT a whore * X0X Muah-jess [ babygurl7961's advice column | Ask babygurl7961 A Question ]
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