I'm Dominic Mayfield. I'm 6'1, green eyes, black hair. Around 200 lbs, thin but got meat on my bones. I've been through many situations in my life, which is why I can understand most other situations. Ask away and I'll help as best as I can.
E-mail: dmayfield87@hotmail.com
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I have a 21 year old brother. He failed school and went through depression after my parents divorced when he was 18. He's going to a community college so he can apply to university round about now. He doesn't really have any hobbies, just shuts himself in his room and goes on the internet.
He hates my dad for a lot of reasons that I don't understand. My mom always nags him about the fact he has a hard time with academic work so they argue a lot.
What do you think it's like for a guy his age to live with a ditzy, nagging mom and younger sister? He seems to be having a hard time. Would appreciate a guy's perspective. Any thoughts. thanks (link)
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There could be a ton of reasons why your brother hates your dad. Have you ever talked to him about what all is going on? Are you close to him to where you can talk to him comfortably about it?
What do I think its like for a guy his age to live with a ditzy, nagging mom and a younger sister? Well, to answer that, I live with my mom, and I'm a sibbling of 4 sisters, 3 brothers. I do know how things can get. He could feel confined, something major could be troubling him as well. My best bet would be to try to get him to open up to you. If that doesnt work, and depending on his actions, I think could help further if he doesnt open up. Lemme know what happens.
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I am a teenage girl with kind of a big problem. My thoughts are consumed by the thought of appearance and other peoples approval. I am constantly looking at myself in the mirror seeing every imperfection wheather big or small. I know a lot of people have this problem, especially at my age. But I get severly depressed from it, I have made people not want to be around or get annoyed with me always asking if I look good. And I cannot go a day without receiving a compliment from anyone other than my mom, if I never get one I'll feel like I looked disgusting that day. I love my life, and the only thing I would change is how I view myself. So please anyone out there with an opinion or could help me with this situtation, your time is very much apperiated. (link)
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Well if you're thoughts are consumed by that....then think of this. Something that you see as an imperfection or a flaw may be cute/adorable to another person. It's not really on the outside that is important anyways. It's the inside. Just for thinking this way, someone can view you as ugly cause you care about your looks, even if you are one of the most beautiful women in the world. If you're pretty, dont think another thought about it, and just know that you're pretty.
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I am a teenager seeking advice on asking my parents to put me on birth controll. It is because I am thinking about becoming sexually active with my long time boyfriend but I'm not sure when. We are going to be as safe as we can be by using a condom also. I need help on how to ask my mom so it doesn't sound like I'm going to be getting physical right away because I'm not, I just want to be ready when I do make the desition. I am very close with my mom, and we have kind of discussed it before but now I really feel it's time I start taking it. Please anyone with helpful ways I could ask her let me know. Thanks! (: (link)
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Well my opinion...is just go and ask. Tell her you need to sit down and talk, and discuss that you want to start using birth control. It shows you're responsible. Everything will go naturally if you're close with your mom. Don't be afraid :).
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so i have this issue with tampons. i have been using them for quite a few years now, and i know im putting them in right. but, after about three days, i get this huge pain, it feels like there are shards of glass in the tampon when im taking it out or in. and when i put one in, im in a lot of pain, and the pain wont disappear for hours sometimes! i have tried different brands, use the lightest possible, and use unscented,yet the problem continues.i only try to leave a tampon in between 4-6 hours. i have gone to a gynecologist, and she didnt know what the problem was-she went to google to see if she could find a solution and didnt find one....wtf. anyways, sex isnt a problem either, only for the first moments, but thats normal i assume. so whats going on? am i allergic? can i not wear tampons? am i stuck with pads? (link)
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It is quite possible you may be allergic to the material, or you may not be able to use the tampons. If you have tried different brands and yet still cant deal with the problem, you may have to stick with pads. I'd go for different opinions on more doctors/gynocologists.
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What is a painless way to do anal sex? (link)
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Well if you really are wanting to do it... i guess alot of lubrication and the person who is recieving to...relax i guess. sometimes there is no painless way the first time if you're not experienced.
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me and my boyfriend were discussing having children earlier. i know that it sounds bad, but i'm scared to death of having a baby, and the reason is because of the way your body looks afterward.
now this question is really for wemon who have had children, or for girls whos mom have had babies after them,
1. is your body absolutly horrible after having a baby? and you can fix it right? with dieting and exercise?
2. how hard is it to get rid of stretch marks? if i keep my skin moisturized alot while i'm still young, will that keep the stretch marks from being really bad? and how fast do they fade? and how easily? how did you get rid of them?
3. if the better your body looks, the thiner you are, stuff like that, will that make your body easier to get back? like for example, if you have a baby when you're like, 23, and your boobs are still where they should be, will they go back to that way after? since you're still young?
4. how long does it take to get your body back? if anyone had any tips or tricks to getting their body back afterwards then please let me know. :D (link)
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Alright. I'll tell you now, if you really want a baby, you shouldn't really care about what your body looks like afterwards. Its all about having the baby born into the world and caring all about that baby.
1. No, its not always horrible. Sometimes it doesnt even seem like you had a baby at all. It all depends on the body. And yes, any weight gained can mostly be gone during dieting.
2. Sometimes stretch marks appear, sometimes they dont. It all depends on the body as I've said before.
3. You can be young/thin all you want. If you have a baby, it can throw off your body's hormones and it can affect every single aspect about your weight, boob size, ect..
4. That would all depend on what the outcome of the baby is. If you do or dont gain weight, if you do or dont get bigger boobs, if you get stretch marks, ect. Just know if you do gain weight, or anything does happen, dont get discouraged. you CAN fix most things that happen.
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okay so you already answered my first question and thanks, but if i need to start talking to this guy to get to know me, how do i talk to him if hes popular? (link)
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Well if hes popular it doesnt mean you CANT talk to him. Just try striking up a conversation with him. Just because hes popular doesnt mean a thing. He could be nice, or he could be a prick. If hes nice, you've nothing to worry about. If he doesnt know you very well, try to get to know him as well as letting him get to know you, if he wants to. Just remember, things might not always go well. I hope they do though.
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Okay so I like this guy but I have a bf.. But I don't think it's going anywhere with my boyfriend. I don't really talk to this guy because he's popular. How do I get him to like me? (link)
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Well if you dont think its going anywhere with your current boyfriend, you have to figure out why its not going anywhere. If you like the other guy, then don't be with your current bf. Don't let him think that things are going well by prolonging the relationship when you dont want it.
If you want him to like you, open up to him. Be yourself, and if he likes you, he will like you. You cant make anyone like you just because you like them. Talk to him. Its always a start.
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my friend says she is being abused what do i do?
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Talk to her into reporting the abuse. You can't force her to do anything of course, and if there are obvious signs of the abuse, report it to the authorities for them to see. If your friend doesnt like it, don't worry about it. I think you would rather have your friend upset with you than to have her hurt or in even worse case scenario....end up dead.
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17 f
i have a hard time saying no to guys. even if i have zero interest in the person, i will still act friendly towards them and then they end up thinking that into them. im just a friendly nice person and i dont like hurting guys feelings. idk is there a nice way to let guys down? (link)
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well, tell them that you wish to be friends. That you would like to hang out, have fun, but if you don't want to be WITH them, let them down nicely and tell them that you wish to be friends and see how it goes from there. If you don't say no, you'll only end up getting into problems later on.
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my dog ate an entire bag of Reese Peanut butter Cups. What should i Do? (link)
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Keep an eye on your dog. If it shows any signs to cause you worry, then take him to a vet. Chocolate doesn't always do bad things to dogs, but to most it does. Just watch out for your dog. If you're too worried, then take him to the vet immediately.
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ever since i started my deprovera BC shot, i have had lowered sex drive, i just got my second shot last month and it's gotten better. but now when my boyfriend and i have sex i cannot focus, i'm thinking about everything BUT the sex. even though i love him still and it's wonderful! it's also foreplay and sex..
any reasons you can think of?
thanks! (link)
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sometimes birth control shots can mess up your hormones alot. its not just you, if you are wondering if something is wrong. if you can't focus, then don't focus at all. just watch and imagine. if you're not getting into it, you need to find a new way to get into it. you just got to figure out what you're thinking of more and why. Once you do that, things should be easier.
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i have 2 one-year-old cats that we found outside last september (09). they've been in a spare bedroom in our house ever since together, and haven't been outside. they're shy and don't have much socialization with people, except for when we're cleaning the room, feeding them, etc. i tried to get them out of the room but they hiss and are too shy. they actually seem very sweet, one of them came up to me, but we can't keep them in that room forever. my dad is looking to give them away. where should they go if they aren't fixed and are extremely shy and not used to people? thank you so much! (link)
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Thats a hard one because if they arent used to people, its going to be hard to give them away to a person. If you prefer, give them to the animal shelter for people to come along and possibly pick them up, or you can give them to someone you know. They arent social, but the thing is, they CAN become social.
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15 - female
Some people would say i have everything i guess... I'm great in sports, and get every award. I'm pretty and I've gott a boyfriend. I'm on the 2nd best soccer team in the Nation for an Elite league.I'm a good singer, and am pretty much good at anything. I've got a best friend who is always there for me.
But I'm not even close to happy...
Since I'm new on my soccer team, I have no friends. And no one will talk to me or hang out with me... which just gets me sad and uncomfortable whenever we travel with all them. People over rate me. Since i get alot of guys, now that i have a boyfriend all my guy friends basically go away until I'm single again. I've lost many friends since it's "cheerleading season", and since some of my friends where cheerleaders, they are all in that posse of cheerleaders for awhile(which bumps others out). I dont have that much time to hang out with friends anyways cause of soccer...
And then i think harder and realize how unhappy i am... I may be pretty but...I'm unsatisfyed with my body. It's getting more muscular looking because of all these sports..I don't want to look that way. My hair doesnt fall quiet right. My face seems chubby...My lips are too small...nose is too big.
So i don't understand why people still "over rate" me...and Sometimes i just feel depressed...I don't really know what to do.
I know i havn't exacty proposed a question to you...But i really just need some advice here.
Pleaseee (link)
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Well heres one thing about the whole guys. If they only around you cause they want to be with you/use you. If they were your true friend, they would stay around even if you were taken. So dont think you're losing anything special if they go away, think of it as the next best thing.
If you have lost your friends, you need to find out a way to re-establish that friendship. If you can't, you need to find out why you lost your friends in the first place, and if its for a stupid reason, you need to find friends who will accept you in every way.
If you are unsatisfied with your body, then you need to figure out what you really want. Your looks...or your future. What is more important to you?
From what I gather, you're unhappy with yourself because you're not use to being isolated/alone. You're afraid of your looks getting out of control. If you have talent, and also a boyfriend who cares about you, then not only should you be proud of what you can do, but you can know that someone is with you and is willing to be with you through everything.
I suggest talking with your boyfriend. Get alot of conversations started up so you can be more socialized. It will help your mood alot.
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If a guy that your giving oral sex too passes out while your doing it, does that mean he wasn't enjoying it? Or does that happen sometimes? Granted we were both really really drunk which is why he passed out. And while he was awake he seemed to be enjoying it by moaning and shit.idk I just feel weird, like I wasn't doing a good job. (link)
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Well if he was drunk, yeah, he would more than likely pass out. If he seemed to be enjoying it, then I dont see any problem. Most guys dont fake. If you're worried about it, ask him how you were, or do it while you're not drunk, see his reaction. If he likes it, he will be all for it. If he is reluctant to have you do it, he will avoid it.
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Okay here is the thing..I have a bf tht I really love and have been with for 7 months but my ex bf is now saying he has changed and wants me back. I realize tht a part of me wants to take him back nd just leave my bf, but then I'm scared to cus I dnt want to get hurt again nd then again I dnt wanna leave my bf. What do I do? I miss him nd care about him but I also love my bf. I dnt know how to handle this. I really dnt wanna make the wrong decision. Help? (link)
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Why ruin what you already have? If you also love your bf and if things are going well, don't ruin it for someone who 'claims' to have changed. It's hard for people to change. You will always have feelings....strong feelings...for your ex, but something you got to realize... why did he end up as your ex anyways?
You've been with your bf for 7 months, I say stay with your current boyfriend and be happy with what you have. Don't ruin a good thing for a past emotion.
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when my boyfriend and i makeout it is just plain. we dont use tounge. its kinda boring. but we will kiss sometimes and he sticks his tounge in my mouth as a joke. we end up laughing after. is he trying to tell me he wants to use tounge? (link)
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Well, that is up to you. If you're unsure, just ask him. Using tongue is just 'french kissing' more or less. It's natural. You can also kiss while only using just the tip of your tongue against his while your lips are on his. Just talk to him about it. It never hurts to ask.
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I need advice. I'm 17-years-old. I've known this guy since I was in grade 7, and we kind of grew up together. We went out for awhile when I was younger, but we both had a lot of problems (family issues, etc). I love him, I would do anything for him, absolutely anything. We started hanging out again about a month ago, and we're really close. I live about 50 km. away from him and he comes up whenever I ask him to. It's a real hassle for him to get up here. He says he's looking for a commitment, and doesn't want another guy to come around a week later when I told him how I feel about him. Probably because that's what all the other girls do to him. There would be absolutely no other guys, I am in absolute love with him, and have been for many years. I haven't told him this much yet, and that I want a commitment too. We don't really see each other as just good friends, but probably more as more than friends, if you know what I mean, but it doesn't necessarily involve sex. He's coming over Monday.
What should I say to him? And do you have some tips for opening up to him?
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Be up front with him. Tell him your feelings. He told you he is looking for a commitment, so be honest with him and tell him the same. You also say you love him. If your heart truely belongs to him, go for it. Just be sure that when you give it to him, you will be prepared for everything that goes along with it.
Just be honest, tell him everything, and see how things go from there. Its all you can do. If you wait too long...you might not get a second chance.
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ok my bf is 2 years older than me and probably alot more expirienced...and he keeps asking me weird questions and it sounds like he is trying to hint at sex and i dont want to yet..wat do i do? (link)
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To tell you now, usually in every relationship, if one is sexually experienced, they will wonder about you. They will try to figure out just how experienced you are, and if you're not, they are all about wanting to teach you. It's alot of peoples lil 'exciting' moments. Its natural for people to ask questions like that. If you think he might be hinting towards it, talk to him about it. It is always best to be straight up front about it with him. If he doesnt like the fact you're not wanting to, then tell him he is going to have issues and have to rely on his hand for a while until you are ready. Ok...maybe you can say it nicer, but still something along those lines.
Dont let anyone ever try to convince you that you're ready unless you know for sure that you yourself are ready.
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*i am a 13 year old female and my b/f is 15
ohkay, so my b/f and i have been dating for awhile now. were like everyother couple ya know we hold hands, kiss, and makeout. i dont mind tht he touches me and stuff but he is always calling me prude. it pisses me off. i want us to go to the next level but something in my body just wont let me. what do you think it is? HELP ME! (link)
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Alright. First off heres a thing about guys. They. All. Want. Sex. They will do everything and say anything to get it from you. I dont care if it is a nice person, or one of the worst kind, they honestly all want the same thing. To please their own desires, even if they want to please yours. If your body wont let you go to the next level, you're simply not ready.
Also...take it from me. You don't want to be thinking about this kind of thing while you're 13. You're young yet. Now and days there are 5th graders up to seniors in school getting pregnant just cause they just dont give a damn. If you really value your morals and everything, you'll need to make sure if he is really worth it. You might think you're either in love, or if he is the one...but like I said. You're still young. I suggest waiting til you KNOW you're ready.
Hope I helped.
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