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Happy? More like...depressed?
15 - female
Some people would say i have everything i guess... I'm great in sports, and get every award. I'm pretty and I've gott a boyfriend. I'm on the 2nd best soccer team in the Nation for an Elite league.I'm a good singer, and am pretty much good at anything. I've got a best friend who is always there for me.
But I'm not even close to happy...
Since I'm new on my soccer team, I have no friends. And no one will talk to me or hang out with me... which just gets me sad and uncomfortable whenever we travel with all them. People over rate me. Since i get alot of guys, now that i have a boyfriend all my guy friends basically go away until I'm single again. I've lost many friends since it's "cheerleading season", and since some of my friends where cheerleaders, they are all in that posse of cheerleaders for awhile(which bumps others out). I dont have that much time to hang out with friends anyways cause of soccer...
And then i think harder and realize how unhappy i am... I may be pretty but...I'm unsatisfyed with my body. It's getting more muscular looking because of all these sports..I don't want to look that way. My hair doesnt fall quiet right. My face seems chubby...My lips are too small...nose is too big.
So i don't understand why people still "over rate" me...and Sometimes i just feel depressed...I don't really know what to do.
I know i havn't exacty proposed a question to you...But i really just need some advice here.
Pleaseee
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Maybe give some free advice about: Spirituality?
The thing you need to do first is think of all the positive things you have, instead of the negatives. People think you are pretty because that is what they see.
If you are not happy with the sports you are in, then drop out. You can't really help being muscular if you are in so many sports.
Do things that make you happy and try to hangout with some old friends. They honestly don't seem like real friends. The guys want you because you are pretty and single, the girls leave at a certain time. Find people who like you for you. And if they over rate you, it is their loss. Try showing people that you are just like anyone else.
Best of luck.
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wow I am 15 too..but seriously "you are down rating yourself" "my nose to big, lips to small??" seriously don't fall into that mode. everyone else is having fun except you and that my friend is not right. start the conversation going to people and they will respond, if you feel they over rate you, then tell them to stop "be modest" as they will say. talk to your best friend. to me anyway, one true friend is all you need...but prioritize your schedule.
if you need someone to talk to, I am here..
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Your question strikes me as requiring some grandfatherly advice; since I am old enough to be your grandfather that is what I'm going to offer you.
Fifteen is a tough age to be, you're to young to be an adult and to old to be a child. Most teenagers your age are in the middle of puberty still trying to adjust to the changes in their bodies and their feelings. They suffer bouts of depression as well as periods of pleasure. They have self-doubt; girls are particularly hard on themselves even though their bodies are still changing. This is all very normal.
Boys your age and up to about age 22 can be very fickle. They tend to confuse lust for love. Boys in their teens are going through the same bodily changes you are and their hormones are pushing them to get release from the sexual tension. They look for girls that will give them that release. Having a boyfriend is not a reason to have sex, especially at your young age.
You say your pretty, yet you are picking yourself apart. Stop, there is no reason to do this to yourself; for one thing you are still maturing. Your body will continue to change as you mature. You said something about your nose. If you were to see a plastic surgeon about what you see as a problem; a good plastic surgeon would tell you to come back in three years when you should be more fully matured. The only reason to operate now is if your nose causes you a breathing problem. The same is true for your lips and what you feel is a chubby face. Part of what you are seeing is nothing more than the hormonal changes you are experiencing. As your body adjust so will your features.
Now as to the muscular look you say you are getting. If you like playing Soccer one of the things a good soccer player such as you will develop is strong leg muscle. Strong muscles are something you need to play the sport you love. When you finish playing sports and finish exercising regularly you can then reduce the muscular look to a more feminine look. In the mean time relax, enjoy your sport and hopefully you will win a scholarship to College for Soccer. Just a side note here: Some men find women with strong leg muscles' a turn on.
The other things you wrote about are typical female teenage worries; you are a normal 15 year old teenage girl. I know you want answers to what is bothering you but the true answer is really just time. Time to grow and mature. Just enjoy being 15 for know for as the saying goes, you will never be 15 again.
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Well heres one thing about the whole guys. If they only around you cause they want to be with you/use you. If they were your true friend, they would stay around even if you were taken. So dont think you're losing anything special if they go away, think of it as the next best thing.
If you have lost your friends, you need to find out a way to re-establish that friendship. If you can't, you need to find out why you lost your friends in the first place, and if its for a stupid reason, you need to find friends who will accept you in every way.
If you are unsatisfied with your body, then you need to figure out what you really want. Your looks...or your future. What is more important to you?
From what I gather, you're unhappy with yourself because you're not use to being isolated/alone. You're afraid of your looks getting out of control. If you have talent, and also a boyfriend who cares about you, then not only should you be proud of what you can do, but you can know that someone is with you and is willing to be with you through everything.
I suggest talking with your boyfriend. Get alot of conversations started up so you can be more socialized. It will help your mood alot.
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