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my boyfriend wants "more" to happen..
*i am a 13 year old female and my b/f is 15
ohkay, so my b/f and i have been dating for awhile now. were like everyother couple ya know we hold hands, kiss, and makeout. i dont mind tht he touches me and stuff but he is always calling me prude. it pisses me off. i want us to go to the next level but something in my body just wont let me. what do you think it is? HELP ME!
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Your boyfriend is a manipulative asshole. He's probably too young to really have any clue he's being as terrible as he is.
Calling someone a prude to entice them into further sexual experiences is fucked up. The reason you're not supposed to be doing this stuff at your age is because you aren't old enough to make your own decisions for your own reasons. You're pissed that he called you a prude, not because it shows him to be a dick, but because you want to prove him wrong.
Which is exactly the reaction he wanted when he said it.
You're letting him taunt you into doing things. Remember this in the future, don't fall for it again.
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I'm old enough to be your grandfather and answer questions on this site as straightforward as I can. I believe everyone needs to know the truth so they can make the best decisions. If I don't know the answer to a question I chose to answer I research the answer for you.
Full intercourse at your age is definitely out of the question, you are to young. I would even say giving your boyfriend a handjob or blowjob should be a no, no. Once someones pants come off the more chance of things going to far. The best birth control their is are your pants held firmly in place where they belong.
Your boyfriend does not know the definition of the word prude; you may want to look it up for him and write it down for him. He is using the word to try and get you to give him what he wants from you. He is being a typical teenage boy trying to satisfy the hormonal changes of puberty by searching for sexual release. In other words he is horny. Teen age boys will also confuse lust with love and have a tendency to think with the head in their pants rather than the one between their shoulders when sexually frustrated, which at his age is just about all the time.
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Alright. First off heres a thing about guys. They. All. Want. Sex. They will do everything and say anything to get it from you. I dont care if it is a nice person, or one of the worst kind, they honestly all want the same thing. To please their own desires, even if they want to please yours. If your body wont let you go to the next level, you're simply not ready.
Also...take it from me. You don't want to be thinking about this kind of thing while you're 13. You're young yet. Now and days there are 5th graders up to seniors in school getting pregnant just cause they just dont give a damn. If you really value your morals and everything, you'll need to make sure if he is really worth it. You might think you're either in love, or if he is the one...but like I said. You're still young. I suggest waiting til you KNOW you're ready.
Hope I helped.
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First off, let him know that you don't like being called prude. You also don't need to go to the next level to get him to stop, he should respect the fact that you don't like it and stop. If "something in your body" is not letting you than you're most likely not ready. Tell him basically what you wrote here, and if he can't respect it then leave him.
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Maybe you're not ready emotionally for the next level. Or maybe when he says "prude" it makes you angry. I'd be angry if I was called a "prude" and don't think you have to go to the next level so he stops calling you a "prude". When you're ready you'll know and don't let him push you to do anything that you don't want to. Sit him down and tell him seriously that you don't like him calling you a "prude" and if he keeps it up and pressures you into anything...he's not worth it! You want someone who is going to respect you and your decisions! Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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