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ok, heres the deal, ive been 18 for a month or 2, and heres the deal, im kinda sexually advanced, except ive never actually gone all the way. and ive always been proud of this...untill now, and its freaking driving me nuts, like i all of a sudden have to have it. and this is unbelievably unlike me cuz ive always been the upright goody goody that everyone can always depend on. so for the love of god, somebody give me some advice!!!!!! plz ladies, i need some advice
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lol i kno i kno just find the right person yer willing ot lose it to then there ya go! lol good luck and have fun!
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fight the urge!! lol =)
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You better not be having none of that premarital sex young lady! J/k...uhm...wait for love, or you'll regret losing it to someone else when you find that person.
Temptation may be great, but you'll be happy when you find that right person if you hold out.
Hope I helped.
-Farren
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Your hormones are RAGING girl!! Just take a long time to think about mthis. Ask yourself these questions:
Am I going to regret this?
Is this the first person I want to have sex with?
Am I going to stay with this person for a very long time?
Am I ready for this?
Do I feel comfortable doing it?
Is it going to be on my conciounce?
If you answered yes to most of these, then think about those questions when you're ready to consider it. Like, when you're with him, and you're ready to do it, ask those questions to yourself, which may give you second thoughts.
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well, don't throw yourself out there. get a bf or a friend with benefits. someone who you can trust
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sex is perfectly healthy. it's okay to want it. there's no shame in that at all. but, don't take it too far as to the point where you sleep with people that are pointless or people you just meet and so on and so forth. Stay safe and be careful. take care. have fun, hunnie!!!1
-aSh
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I was exactly the same as you. I had the opportunity to have sex many times before but I just never felt ready. Finally when I was 18, I had been dating this guy, for about a month and he was 25 and we went back to his place and things just happened. We weren't in a real serious relationship but I felt ready so that was that. I had basically reached the point where I knew I had no intentions of waiting til I got married, so I should just go for it. I wasn't head over heels crazy in love with the guy but I basically figured what the hell. we took all the precautions and he was gentle so it all ended up fine. I always have been the goody goody but I've learned to lighten up and even though this is going to sound horrible and some people will argue with me...sex is not that big of a deal...not that its not wonderful and such, but its a common thought that once you lose your virginity EVERYTHING changes and you will never be the same and that it has to be with someone special and the moment has to be perfect. The first time will not be perfect, it will basically be an uncomfortable mess. If you really want to have sex and have someone you'd be comfortable with, which is SO important...if you're not comfortable, its going to hurt much worse...then by all means go for it, just use protection. Your friends will still be able to depend on you...if you think people will judge you differently, keep it to yourself. In the end, everyone (except clergy of course) does it and its not that big of a deal...of course...I'm only saying this to you because you are 18 and obviously seem prepared enough emotionally. I hope I was of some help and if you have any other questions be sure to ask. Take care.
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well u should do it when you are ready,and if thats now make sure its the right guy.
oh and dont get hit-up~!
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its normal for everyone to want sex sometime or another in thier lives. i dont see a big problem here. just find someone and get laid. there are many guys out there who will want to take the virginity of a girl around their age.
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Well, are you starting to feel pressure from your friends about it ? If you've been doing alot of experimenting then it becomes kindof a goal-thing. You've done this, & this & this... there has to be something else... Something new that feels even better. That is just a mind set.
Take a step back...
Think about why you haven't done it before. If the reasons you haven't done it before are still good reasons... Then don't rush into it now, because you may end up not being happy about it afterwards.
Jody
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i was exactly like you. i had done some stuff, but never had sex. when i turned 18, i decided that maybe it was time, and i felt ready. i didn't feel like i had to have it, but i deffinatly felt ready. but again, i've always been a goody goody and dependable, and having sex didn't change either of those. my friends have lost no respect for me whatsoever, and still depend on me. i don't know your situation, but if you don't have a boyfriend, i would suggest against doing it with some random guy. i know some pepole who have, and they regret it so much. if you do have a boyfriend, then by all means, if you feel ready, nothing's holding you back. you're an adult now. have fun! but remember, be safe! ;O) hope this helped!
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