I'm in my late 20's so I've been around a bit longer. I'm a really non-judgemental person. I honestly like to help. My friends and family have always used me for advice. I was even going to have a local radio show, but the station went under before I could start.
I've done alot of good & bad things in my life. You could say I've explored & experienced alot of different things. There really isn't too much out there that I haven't done. I've lived my life & I'm not ashamed of it.
What I'm trying to say in my own goofy way; is ask me anything I'll do my best to help.
Gender: Female
Location: I've been alot of places, but right now... it's the midwest
Occupation: Bit of everything. Currently computers
Age: 28
Yahoo: jodylp1
Member Since: November 18, 2004
Answers: 12
Last Update: November 18, 2004
Visitors: 1330
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okay .. well i reall like this kid .. but he doesn't know - we just met this year b.c we sit next to each other and we started tlking in class and stuff and he flirts i guess .. and he's always like r u going to the homecoming dance friday? and he's always bringing it up and i jst say i dunno .. y .. and he's jst like oh .. well i dont know if he's trying to ask me if he wants to go and like just can't do it - i really like him .. but i don' wanna simply b like do u like me? b.c i usually do but this is diff - and none of my friends kno him b.c he's a yr older and only one friend does but like he's a guy and ould be stupid about it if i asked him to ask him .. so like i need help on how to try and find out if he likes me and wants to go to homecoming
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The next time he says are you going to the Homecoming dance say, "Well I'd like to, but no one has asked yet. & I am an old-fashioned kinda girl. I expect the boy to ask."
This is just a statement, if he wants to ask he now knows that you won't do the asking and it is up to him.
If he doesn't want to ask, you didn't say anything specifically to him to imply that you want to go with him.
But to make your statement a little clearer, smile at him when you say it. Be kind and give him a hint that you wouldn't say no if he asked.
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Jody
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Sorry this might be long but here it goes. I met this one guy at a party in the 8th grade. Lets call him Joe! So me and Joe really liked each other and everything and we talked alot over the summer. And this year (9th) we went out and broke up but we both had feelings for each other. So me and Joe ended up hooking up and having sex. Also we ended up going to the homecoming dance with me and he saidhe loved me and everything and then after the next few days or so, so I talked to him and was like whats the matter and he said that he didn't like me as anything more than a friend anymore. I was completly devistated because he promised me he would never leave me and that he loved me. And today at the busses we were talking and i asked him for a hug and hes like "Kristen were just friends now..." That hurt me soo much that I cried! I don't know what to do with myself really like this guy and i want to make him see me as more than a friend or find some way to get over him! Please help me! Thanx! Sorry so long...
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KrIsTeN* (link)
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Kristen-
You can't make anyone have feelings they don't want to have. & would you really want him if you had to jump thru a bunch of hoops to get him ? I'm not even sure this guy is friend material, but that is your decision, only you know what kind of person you would want as a friend.
As for getting over him.
That's a process.
He's really hurt your feelings & it's going to take time to get over it. Try not to rush into another relationship. Replacing him with another guy isn't the way to go. Spend time with your friends. Let them know that you need their support right now.
If you give advice, then try & imagine what you would say to a friend in the same situation.
Dating isn't easy. & sometimes bad things happen. Don't let this guy sour you on other guys. There are good guys out there & you will find a better one.
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Jody
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ok, heres the deal, ive been 18 for a month or 2, and heres the deal, im kinda sexually advanced, except ive never actually gone all the way. and ive always been proud of this...untill now, and its freaking driving me nuts, like i all of a sudden have to have it. and this is unbelievably unlike me cuz ive always been the upright goody goody that everyone can always depend on. so for the love of god, somebody give me some advice!!!!!! plz ladies, i need some advice (link)
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Well, are you starting to feel pressure from your friends about it ? If you've been doing alot of experimenting then it becomes kindof a goal-thing. You've done this, & this & this... there has to be something else... Something new that feels even better. That is just a mind set.
Take a step back...
Think about why you haven't done it before. If the reasons you haven't done it before are still good reasons... Then don't rush into it now, because you may end up not being happy about it afterwards.
Jody
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Ok i asked a question eirlier in the month about a guy i really like and telling him i like him. Or atleast its what ya'll said to do and i was almost there some days but i just couldnt think of almost ruining everything if he didnt fell the same way. We flirt,he opens doors for me, and its all ok. But for some reason, it seemed like he liked me a lot but now its kinda fading away(or so it seems). Maybe its just this week or something and our relationship will go back to its normal ways (flirting, liking eachother stuff). But Should i still tell him, and see what happens?? I really like this guy, he means so much to me. what do i do? (link)
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He could be under some stress, or something going on his family. Don't take it personally.
I would say that now isn't a good time to let him know about wanting to take your relationship further.
Just be his friend for right now. Let him know that your there if he needs to talk.
After all, he may just seem to be backing off because he doesn't know how to tell you that he is interested. : )
By still just being there, your letting him know your interested. He'll get the idea.
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Jody
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Well.. i'm dating this kid named Eric and I really like Eric, hes like a really good friend of mine. We started dating on Tuesday, and now I just don't like him as a boyfriend anymore. Everytime I date a guy I can't seem to like them more then 2 days, Is there something wrong with me?? Is this normal? Should I keep dating Eric.. or do you think I actually don't like him?? * (link)
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Well, find out if he feels the same way. It could be mutual.
If not, let him know that you really like him as a friend & that you just aren't ready to be more then that with him.
Keep dating people, that is the fun part anyway. You don't have to so quickly become boyfriend/girlfriend.
Just because you know what you want & don't want within 2 days doesn't make you a bad person.
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Jody
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i want to dress modest but sexy got anyideas? (link)
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To be modest, but sexy. You gotta show a little skin. Just a little. Defiently, not all of it. Nothing to tight, don't be a cliche. Wear sexy fabrics. When you have silks & satins against your skin your going to feel sexy. & when you feel sexy, your going to give off that vibe...
And sexy isn't always clothes, it attitude.
Be confident about how you look. People are attracted to the person who has the most going on.
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Jody
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i really thought that i "loved" my boyfriend and we were going out for two weeks, but we really rushed into it; both physically and emotionally. I've never had a real serious boyfriend before, so its a pretty big deal to me. I never let the relationship fail, even though hes not the best boyfriend, i can't trust him, and i don't get as much out of the relationship as i put into it. but now he doesnt want to go out right now, so were on a break, i know he just wants to hook up with other chicks but he says that he will come back for me or whatever, i still like him, but i really don't get why hes doing this to me, the main question is; if he wants to get back together, should I? why or why not... please help ! (link)
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I'm sorry hon. But that boy is a user. & obviously not mature enough to be in a relationship. You deserve better.
For your own sake, cut your losses. Take this experience for what it was. Don't let it bring you down & for sure don't feel guilty or anything about it.
Take some time off to collect your thoughts. Then go out & look for a guy who will be as good to you as you are to him.
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Jody
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ok..you see i have this boyfriend but i never rly see him an i just got on punishment for like a month which will hurt me bein able to see him..then i have this friend who i like and he likes me and hes always askin when are we gunna hook up and things like that an he lives down the street from me and i see him almost everyday and so do i lose my boyfriend for my friend..ive been with my boyfriend for 5months and we fight all the time over the DUMBEST things! (link)
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I think you answered your own question. Never stay with someone, when you no longer want to be there.
You aren't doing him or yourself any favors. Go out & have fun with the boy down the street.
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im sure i'll have more questions lol but u've given the best advince. u have aim or yahoo messenger? aim is dinohunter4L and yahoo is dinohunter4L. my email is dinohunter4L@yahoo.com. Hope to hear back. Thanks once again (link)
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In Yahoo, I am jodylp1. Feel free to drop me a line whenever. : )
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Im 20 shes 19 and we live 4 hours apart but shes going to be in PSU next year in college so i should see her then. (link)
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I would meet the father before you move. Otherwise you run the risk of him never taking you seriously. Make the effort to see her & her family. If only for a 1 day visit. Maybe a dinner out. Show her father that you are serious about being with his daughter.
I married my husband after meeting him long-distance. I this is something you both truly want, nothing can stop it from happening.
Good luck & let me know if there is anything else I can do !
Jody
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Ok I met this girl online like 11 months ago and in April I asked her out. I have pics millions of letters and we talks hours everyday on the phone. I really love her. But her past relationship she was raped and had a baby so now her dad doesnt trust guys being with her and since she met me online that makes it even worse. I really wanna see her yesterday was 7 months. I need advice on getting her dad to trust me if anyone can help. And no im not leaving her shes perfect we never argue or fight. Please dont give me answers saying to dump her I understand long distance is hard but I know with her dads trust it will work. Thanks much guys and gals. (link)
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You didn't say how old you were. Or, how far away you are from eachother. If it's possible a visit would be helpful. Staying at a hotel of course. This would give her Dad a chance to meet you & see what kind of a man you are.
Remember his generation didn't date thru computers. So to him, this is really wild. You have to show him that you are a good person with only good intentions toward his daughter & his grandchild.
If a visit isn't possible. Try shooting a home movie. One that shows your family & friends & lets him see how you live. This will make you a "real" person. Instead of just a voice on the phone, or an e-mail.
Hope this helps.
Jody
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ok...so theres this guy i met and weve become good friends...we hang out on the weekends and stuff and hes really fun to be around and talk to...only i think i like him too much and i kno he likes me too much...i didnt want this to happens on account hes a lott older than me ... what should i do? (link)
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How much older is alot older ?
If you don't feel ready to take it to another level. Just be honest. Start saying things like, "I really love having you as a friend" & maybe even mention some other guy that you think is cute. Unless this older guy is really dense. He should be able to take the hint. : )
Good Luck !
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