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So confussed...
Sorry this might be long but here it goes. I met this one guy at a party in the 8th grade. Lets call him Joe! So me and Joe really liked each other and everything and we talked alot over the summer. And this year (9th) we went out and broke up but we both had feelings for each other. So me and Joe ended up hooking up and having sex. Also we ended up going to the homecoming dance with me and he saidhe loved me and everything and then after the next few days or so, so I talked to him and was like whats the matter and he said that he didn't like me as anything more than a friend anymore. I was completly devistated because he promised me he would never leave me and that he loved me. And today at the busses we were talking and i asked him for a hug and hes like "Kristen were just friends now..." That hurt me soo much that I cried! I don't know what to do with myself really like this guy and i want to make him see me as more than a friend or find some way to get over him! Please help me! Thanx! Sorry so long...
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KrIsTeN*
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No offense, but hardly any relationship that starts in high school or middle school lasts forever. Boys are mean like that. Most of them at that stage only want sex, and he got what he wanted and you're left holding the bag. It's a life lesson for you. Hard, but learned nonetheless. Hopefully, next time you'll be more wary and not believe promises boys make that they never intend to keep. You'll get over him eventually, it just takes time.
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This is really sad...Joe was just using you for sex. you should definitely forgot about him and move on. a lot of boys will "promise" to love you forever and never leave you, but they do...and most of your boyfriends will end up leaving you (or you leaving them), no matter what they say...boys lie...that's just their nature....Good Luck!
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He wouldn't hug you! Tell him even friends hug for goodness sake. You can't make him like you. There is going to be a period where you cry about him and be sad. Its just part of the separating process. Don't force yourself on him, or you will lose his friendship too. Try to refocus onto something else: schoolwork, shopping, a hobby, just stay busy for a little while.
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Kristen-
You can't make anyone have feelings they don't want to have. & would you really want him if you had to jump thru a bunch of hoops to get him ? I'm not even sure this guy is friend material, but that is your decision, only you know what kind of person you would want as a friend.
As for getting over him.
That's a process.
He's really hurt your feelings & it's going to take time to get over it. Try not to rush into another relationship. Replacing him with another guy isn't the way to go. Spend time with your friends. Let them know that you need their support right now.
If you give advice, then try & imagine what you would say to a friend in the same situation.
Dating isn't easy. & sometimes bad things happen. Don't let this guy sour you on other guys. There are good guys out there & you will find a better one.
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Jody
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