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i really thought that i "loved" my boyfriend and we were going out for two weeks, but we really rushed into it; both physically and emotionally. I've never had a real serious boyfriend before, so its a pretty big deal to me. I never let the relationship fail, even though hes not the best boyfriend, i can't trust him, and i don't get as much out of the relationship as i put into it. but now he doesnt want to go out right now, so were on a break, i know he just wants to hook up with other chicks but he says that he will come back for me or whatever, i still like him, but i really don't get why hes doing this to me, the main question is; if he wants to get back together, should I? why or why not... please help !
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hi my name is jeska!
think about this...if you have never loved another boy before then how do you know its love?
i dont think you should go back out w/ him because it seems like your just his fall back girl you know the one to catch him when his other girlfriends dump him, then he will go out w/ you and find another girl and say ill go backout with you witch is really long for " i dont want to be alone so i have you if i dont have anyone else" you can love him in your own way but its not like i want to marry you love (well thats what it seems) so try some other guys and see how he likes it
lots of love jeska
please write back if you want and tell me how everything goes!
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sounds like this guy is a real ass. and lets face it theres a lot of them out there! i know your gonna want to get back with him when he wants to but you can't let him think he can keep doing this to you! and if hes treating you like this when you guys are going out then i dont think you two should get back together maybe once you say no he will realize that he doesnt have you whipped and maybe he will even regret what he did and learn his lesson (theres always room for home!)
good luck i hope i helped!
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xOx Emily
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No, because he's hurting you. If he needs a break after only two weeks that's not a good sign, not good at all.
And, he probably just wants the physical-ness, if he's really how you say he is.
Anyway, I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren
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NO you should not get back with him!! If you two are on a break b/c he just wants to hook up with other girls..then WHY do u think he still likes u?? And the fact that u rushed into the relationship PHYSICALLY faster than you wanted to, probably means he was only in the relationship for whatever "physical stuff" u guys did. He sounds like an asshole and he doesnt deserve you!!! You can do much better and you know it!!!
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Hey my name is jeska!..
well wow hard situation but it sounds like your jus the girl to fall back-on..you kno like he will break up w/ another girl and no one will want to go back out with him and... hear you are waiting for him.. ..but hey hope i help sweety..send me message and tell me how it works out!!
lots of love jeska
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Don't bother with him. He's definately not coming back and you don't deserve for him to do something like that to you. He's an idiot and you deserve a whole lot better than him! Go for someone you can trust and get along w/ really well..or..just stay single n' play it cool for a while :)
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He sounds like a jerk, don't wait for him, you'll find better. Let him go hook up with some trashy girls, and you find you a respectable guy who will treat you better. He sounds like he's a wanna be player. But please, try to think about "falling in love" so quickly. It takes a lot longer to fall in love with someone, and you deserve to be in love with someone better than a guy like that.
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I'm sorry hon. But that boy is a user. & obviously not mature enough to be in a relationship. You deserve better.
For your own sake, cut your losses. Take this experience for what it was. Don't let it bring you down & for sure don't feel guilty or anything about it.
Take some time off to collect your thoughts. Then go out & look for a guy who will be as good to you as you are to him.
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Jody
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if you want my honest answer, it seems like this guy is scum. you say that you can't trust him, and that's the biggest aspect of a relationship. no relationship can succeed without trust. trust me on that one. secondly, if you're not getting out the same that you put in, again it won't work, because its not recipricol. i understand what you're feeling, and i'm pretty sure its lust, not love. a lot of guys go on breaks to hook up with other people, and most of them don't come back. or if they do, they'll just leave again. if he wants to get back together, i would suggest saving yourself another heartache, and getting out while you still can. if you get back together with him, it's only going to make things worse. hope this helped, and best of luck to you!
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