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I love answering peoples questions! and knowing that i am not the only one having a hard time with life makes me feel good! also knowing that i helped someone makes me feel good too! so if you write me i promise i wont let you down! because you know what they say sometimes you learn from other people! and i have ben through a lot! and even if i wasnt i pretend i am in that position and tell you what i would do! so go ahead and open up to me! i promise i will help you! xox Emily {plz rate me}

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My friend moved out to Colorado a year ago. I'm 15/f and he was my best friend. Yesterday he told me he had sex for the first time. Which is totally different from when he lived here. He never would have done it. I understand that he changed because of the different people. I get that. But, its just the fact that sometimes, when I talk to him online, he's drunk. And alone. When he's sad, he tells me he WANTS to be drunk. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my best friend.
What should I do? Just get over it?

well you should def. tell him how you feel...basically tell him exactly what you told me. idk where you live so idk how far Colorado is from you but try to makes plans to visit eachother on a regular basis depending on how far away you live, that way you wont have to like try to work it around your schedual you will just know not to make plans that day. talk to him on the fone a lot. i know its really hard...my friend moved not even that far away but now she has changed so much so def. understand where your coming from!
good luck i hope i helped!
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xOx Emily

wat happens if u like one of ur frends and ur afraid to tell her wat do u do.
age 13 name:a.f

well without telling the person you like that you like them then nothing can happen because they dont know you like them and maybe they like you too! so just tell the person how you feel!
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xOx Emily

I just wanted to let you know that the advice you gave me was EXCELLENT. You're right. I mean, I don't know what more too say. That's what I was planning on doing anyway. I mean no, If I was with Corey, Charles and I would be just friends, not friends with benifits.. I mean Charles is a good friend too me, and I feel that I should be in a relationship with him because I know he wont hurt me, he wont lie to me, and he doesn't love someone else. I mean I really like Corey, I'm just confused because I think I am better off as being friends with Charles. Do you know what I mean. Its strange I know, but I'm just not really clear with myself. I want to have a relationship with Corey more than I do Charles. Because I think that If I was with Charles, my life would be different around him because I'm so used to being friends with him. I wanted to hook up with him really bad in the past and then I realized that he liked someone else and that there wasn't a chance for me at all, so then I gave up on ''really'' wanting to be with him. (girlfriend) Which is why him and I are just good friends now.. to where I can tell him anything and he understands. He jokes around a lot and we have our moments where we think we hate each other, but I'm sure that this connection that I have with Charles is a friendship, and I don't want to ruin that because I'm comfortable with it. I know that I want to be with Corey, but what I'm not sure about that is, if I can trust Corey not to lie to me, if I can trust him to keep his real feelings for me and not someone else. I know its weird but I really do have some feelings for Corey that I don't think he understands. I think that he doesn't have the same feelings, I don't think that he wants to be with me like I want to be with him.. I mean he said something of the sort that we would see what happens when Dylan moved.. but I'm just scared that if I tell Corey that I still have some feelings left for Charles, that he wont feel the same for me as he does now, if he even still does. So, do you think you can help me out on this one? Do you think I should just be friends with both of them and try to find someone else, or tell Corey that I still have some feelings still for Charles, but I really want to be with him (Corey)? Corey and Charles are friends. They don't really hang out much anymore, but they are friends, and I don't think either one of them would really mind that I liked them both, I just don't want to stop being friends with Charles, and I don't want to not be able to have a relationship with Corey.. Please.. Help me out, I'm desperate to know..

Thanks,
CRYSTAL

P.S- When should I tell them both, if I even should. How do I tell them both, if I even should, What do I tell them both, If I even should... And please don't tell me that I have to think about what to say to them on my own, I need some help on how to do it.. I'm just scared of both of their reactions.. because I don't know how Charles really feels about me, if he thinks I'm a good friend, or if he likes me like I do Corey.. thats my biggest problem.. Will you please find a way to help.. please!
Oh and yes, I'm really seriouse about being with Corey, and you're right, I want him to be seriouse to, I don't just want him to say this to make me want him more, and then in the end, say he doesn't like me..

i think that you and Charles are JUST really good friends and i think that to you it seemed like there were feelings there because you arent used to having a guy friend that you can tell so much to, i know how you feel i have been in that situation. but Corey on the other hand, i think you really like him. When you talk to Corey you should tell him exactly what you told him, that you serious about it and you really wanna be with him to see how well things work out and it doesnt really seem like he wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him...almost as if you are putting more into the relationship than he is even though theres not really a 'relationship' there yet. things may seem confusing to you but to me it sounds like everything is going pretty go all you need to do is realize that Charles is just a really good friend who will always be there and you need to start telling Corey how you really feel! i think everything will work out just fine!
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xOx Emily

I like this guy that I went to school with last year and went out with him last year and the beginning of this year. I'm 17 and he is 16. And I don't know if I should tell him that I still like him alot because I don't know how he feel anymore. We still talk and he gives me hugs when he sees me, and we're still cool and all. But I have no clue what to do anymore. I want to tell him but I'm scared to because I don't know how he will react. PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I'll rate really good!!!!! Thanks in advance!!!!! Blessed be!!
~Candy the Wiccan

i think you should just come out and ask him say you have been having feeling about him latly and you wanted to know if he felt the same...see if theres still something there!
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xOx Emily

ok 15/f...my boyfriend just recently started smoking weed well we dont go to the same skool so we only see eachother 4 out of 7 days....so its realy special wehn we get 2 see eachother....well as he was walking me to where i get picked up...he started smoking...he knows i hate it....i just got really mad and started walking ahead of him...he put it away and was like sry im really sry and he stopped and i was being really bitchy and he tryed to hold my hand and i moved away and put them in my pockets...n i didnt even say bye to him when i left....i didnt hug him or even kiss him...i didnt say nething i jsut left!....and i wouldnt look @ him or walk near him....and he was like ill call u tomrrow and i wasl ike dont bother...and i just left....i feel really bad...i mean he was wrong smoking infront of me knownin i dont lyke it...but he apologized n put it away and i was saying mean hurtful stuff to him

btw we been together for 13months...=\...do u think i shuld call him? and apologize?? wat do i say?? (this happened last nite)

i def. think you should call him and appolagize about saying hurtful things, but you did the rite thing by walking away and letting him know that it really bothered you that he did it in front of you and that he does it at all. if you really dont like him smoking tell him again and again and say "if you really cared about our relationship you would stop souly baded on the fact that i dont like it" if hes a good guy he will understand and start cutting down or quit all together!
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xOx Emily

o0k well you see i like this guy, that well my friends dont approve of. they say he's such a kid and he's immature and stuff. my friends go for the older, hot, guys with nice cars, this guy that i like well, his name is osama. funny huh? its actually kinda creepy, lol but well a while back, we're freshman, in the begginning of the year, he and my friend joe were in a fight, it was about a month ago and osama punched joe and things have been really shaky between them. but now i see him around and we make eye contact and i think i like him, i think about him a lot. my friends think im crazy and its 'just a 'phase' ' and stuff so yeah i dont know how to tell joe. osama doesnt even know who i am, our school is realy big. he's not cute or anything and i've never really talked tohim, but there's just something mysterious about him that gets me. but yesterday i told my friend if she knows him and she said yeah and i told her to find out if he has a gf and i told her i think hes pretty cute, and well today she told me she told him, and now today he went around asking everyone if they know me. he only knows my name. so hes trying to find me out, and i dont know what to do. i mean my friend joe, its gonna be tough on him and so what do i do about the whole situation? should i just come up to him sometime next time i see him and talk to him or should i forget about him or what? please help!?! ill rate you, thanks.

.p.s.i ii rate good!~!~`!!!! =)))))))

okay well it seems like you dont really even know this kid. but if there is something that is making you look his way then find some more information out about him so far i think you doing the right thing by taking it slow and finding as much information out as possible. but beforewith him more talk to him on th you go to fast start to hang out e phone, whatever it takes to get you to find as much information out about him as possable
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xOx Emily

Okay, Here is the deal. I'm usually good at givng myself advice, but I don't know what to do on this one. I like 2 boys. Corey and Charles.
I've known CHARLES for about 1 1/2. He's like a best friend to me and I told him before that I like him, but I guess he never really thought about giving me a chance. Charles is always making me laugh and I just love being around him ( I can be myself with him and he wont put me down). Corey, Well I like him too (ALOT).. although I've only known him since this year, But I've liked him since I first saw him. I always thought he hated me, and my friends would tell me that he thought I was ugly,( People say I'm not ugly though) and he hated me. That stuff was NEVER said. Him and I were in class one day and we were passing notes.. I asked him about the things people were saying that he said about me, he said they were never true, he also said that since he's gotten to know me that he thought I was cute and cool. So now, me and Corey are good friends ( I like him because I can be myself around him also, and not have to worry about being put down).. His EX girlfriend, Dylan, she hates the crap out of me, but I hate her with a passion too.. Corey said that when she moves he will think about giving me a chance. It's all really hard because I like both CHARLES and COREY. Not only because they're REALLY cute, but because of the way they are..the way they act. Anyway, I just needed help on what to do with this problem. I've always liked Charles, and now I'm starting to like Corey even more.. I know Corey likes me (cuz he told me on the phone, using the words, "I like you") but I don't know about Charles. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, Chris, so that I could have a relationship with Corey,( and cuz Chris cheated on me with my best friend) I would like to be with corey more than charles because I am comfortable being close friends with charles. It's all really confusing because I'm not sure if Corey still wants to be with me when Dylan moves. (like he said before)Corey told me he hated my best friend and I didn't like how she was treating me, so now I'm not friends with her.. and I wonder if it made Corey think twice about me.. I mean now I can finally be myself and not have to worry about people thinking I'm like my best friend, Vonna (everyone thought I was like Vonna because I always hung out with her)..So, What do you think I should do.. What do you think my problem is... should I try to talk to Corey and tell him that I really want to be with him. (I already told him tons of times that I like him no matter what anyone says, that I was always gonna like him, and I told him I couldn't wait to be with him).. I just dont know if he cares. I sent Charles an email telling him that I still like him.. and he hasnt responded yet.. so if Charles decides to be just friends,(thats fine, its better that way for me, friends with benifits) what do I do about Corey, cuz corey is the one I want to have to relationship with, cuz he's a good guy. Help me soon, please! Give me any INFO you can about my problem, anything that will help, I'm desperate to know. THANKS TONS
-CRYSTAL!- (15, Female)

wow that was pretty confusing but i got a solution for you:)it sounds like you and this Charles guy are better off as friends and that Corey is more interested in getting serious than Charles is and i think thats what you want. However if you are going to go out with Corey once Dylan moves i hope you weren't planning on being friends with benefits with Charles while you are going out with Corey...i think you need to talk to Corey and tell him your serious about this and see if he is too but also include that you kind of have feelings for Charles. Also you need to talk to Charles and tell him how you feel and that you have feelings for Corey at the same time. But most of all i think you need to spend some time thinking about who you are more interested in. Think about Who you can share your secrets with, who you feel most comfortable around, who do you think is serious about a relationship, who can you picture yourself with for a long time, and who would be going out with you for the right reasons.
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xOx Emily

At school a few weeks ago, I walked into the assistant principlals office to get my locker combination because I couldn't remember it. While I am in there, the assistant principal takes me into her office and informs me that several teachers and staff that walked into the office said that it smelled of alcohol, and that the strong scent of alcohol was coming from me! She asked if I would be willing to take a breath alizer test and I told her yes, I will take one. Well, I obviously passed the test and then she kept talking about how strong the smell is. I told her I couldn't smell anything! I told her that maybe it's the halls in my mouth that is making the room smell like alcohol, but we both agreed that a tiny little halls can not stink up the whole room with a strong scent of alcohol. So, she brings me all the way out to the front of the school so I can smell fresh air and then back into her office, and I informed her that I still can't smell any alcohol. She was very surprised at this, and kept saying how the smell of alcohol was so strong. She asked if I smoke cigarettes. I told her yes. She asked if I had them on me. I told her no. She asked if I could prove it. I confessed that I did have cigarettes and a lighter on me, but I do not smoke in school and I only carry them on me because I walk home from school and smoke on the way home. She then, searched my things just to be sure, but she asked if she could beforehand. I didn't have anything else on me, and then she suspended me for 3 days. Well, just yesterday, I got a letter in the mail ordering me to court for this. For having cigs and a lighter at school. I just wanted to know..do I have an argument? Was she allowed to do all those things? Do I have any argument at all? I'll rate 5 for everyone. I really need help on this.

well i don't really know that much about the law...and im curious to know how old you are. but let me try to help. if you do have an argument i dont think it will be very good, i know thats not what you want to hear. they prob. considered the lighter as a weapon. thats a really rough position to be in but usually to find out your argument you go to your lawyer, not a website, i think that considering this has to do with the law its a better idea to bring your question to a professional rather than a website.
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xOx Emily

i really thought that i "loved" my boyfriend and we were going out for two weeks, but we really rushed into it; both physically and emotionally. I've never had a real serious boyfriend before, so its a pretty big deal to me. I never let the relationship fail, even though hes not the best boyfriend, i can't trust him, and i don't get as much out of the relationship as i put into it. but now he doesnt want to go out right now, so were on a break, i know he just wants to hook up with other chicks but he says that he will come back for me or whatever, i still like him, but i really don't get why hes doing this to me, the main question is; if he wants to get back together, should I? why or why not... please help !

sounds like this guy is a real ass. and lets face it theres a lot of them out there! i know your gonna want to get back with him when he wants to but you can't let him think he can keep doing this to you! and if hes treating you like this when you guys are going out then i dont think you two should get back together maybe once you say no he will realize that he doesnt have you whipped and maybe he will even regret what he did and learn his lesson (theres always room for home!)
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xOx Emily

Ok.. Im 14.. and I really love my boyfriend.. well.. last night.. we were talkin for a REALLY long time on the phone.. and he proposed to me. Its was really cute the way he did it. I of course said yes cause im so much in love with him.

What im wondering tho is: Do u think it can work out.. hes 16 and im 14... and also... do u think im too young to be engaged?

you are only 14 yes that is too young to be ingaged! i understand that your boyfriend might be ready for that but i think your not and your just telling yourself you are because you want to be chances are you dont even know what love is! i know it feels like you do but...most people at age 14 dont!
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xOx Emily

Well I have two "friends" and i known them my whole life, we even went to church togather but now it seems like there not my best friends any more because when they get around certin people they start acting like the other people but I stay the same and now we don't talk as much. But sometimes when my friend octavia is around me she starts to talk about my other friend ashely and when ashely comes around shes acts like she didn't say nothing her and when they get togather they leave me out what should I do?

you need to sit these girls down and talk to them about this because this is basically what happened with me and my two friends and now everything is str8ened out! so talk to ashley and tell her that octavia is talking about her because chances are that if she is talking about ashley behind her back then maybe she talks about you to! and maybe ashley will be so happy that you told her and mad at octavia that she will tell you what she says about u! then you two can sit her down and talk about it so she cant lie to you about it and say that she didnt say it bc ashley will be like yeah u did. and if they are leaving you out then maybe you shouldnt hang out with all of you at onece because that seems to always happens when its a group of three so eigther add someone or hang out with them at dif. times!
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xOx Emily

ok well ive been goin out with my boyfriend for 3months then we broke up and got back togther 3weeks later...well i juss saw him friday and i need to kno whats a good way to be comfortable with him..like him holdin me and things i mean im confortable in his arms but my best friend (his cuz) was and is always around and im really self cautious..and i have a lil belly and he says it "sexy" and a "turn-on" for him and he likes to touch it and after a while i was comfortable but it just takes me a lil to get that way...what should i do..???

PS: he asked if he could hav a kiss but his whole family was watchin us from a distance and my BFF was sittin right there and she was (lip talkin) ..."kiss him" and so when he did i moved my head to where he kissed my cheek..he knows i love him but he knows im a lil uncomfortable at 1st but i want that to change..plz help!!

well tel him you want some time alone with him because from what i know it seems like you two are never alone and you always have an audience. especially if he knows how uncomforable you get and if your friend still want to come then get her a man to keep her ocupied! haha
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xOx Emily

well to be honest i'm worried about my bestfriend.. her boyfriend still talks with his ex girlfriend (she moved 3 years ago, outside the country). she found emails were they said that they cared a lot for each other. he said it didn't matter because it was just by emails, nothing would ever happen, it was just a scape of reality, a game.. she loves him a lot.. i don't know what to tell her. i'm her bestfriend i don't want to break her heart, but i personaly think she should break up with him .. what do u guys think??

no guy who has a girlfriend should even SAY to a girl that he still has feelings for her expecially if the girl is an x-girlfriend! even if it is a "game" which honestly i dont believe! i think that there is a good chance this guy is using your friend! as the best friend you need to tell her the truth becaus a best friend is some one who tells you the things you mite not want to hear! it mite take her a while to get over it but after you tell her then take her out to the mall or somthing to check out guys!
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xOx Emily

well im 13/f n since i was abut hmm 8 or 9 years old i've liked guys n since that way young i've always gotten hurt in someway or another when i was 8 i liked this guy who was like 11 or 12 n now hes 17 or 16 n he hurt me n then so did some other kid whose 15 now n then a bunch of other guys i liked..n now im scared to get hurt again..my heart cant handle it ne more i just want a nice guy but dont wanna get hurt..is that too much to ask??

well when ever you break up with someone it hurts! maybe its because you are always going out with older guys its not too much to ask for when your asking it from the right person. if your this young and your heart cant take it then you need a break from dating.if you think this is bad just wait untill you ACTUALLY fall in love.
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xOx Emily

ok i injured my elbow badly a few days ago. im not sure whats wrong. my arm was purple and freezing a few minutes ago, so i moved it (it hurt really bad) but i got circulation back in it. theres a deepish cut on my elbow from my fall and it was scabbed. the scab fell off so i put bactine on it. i dunno whats wrong. i looked up some of my symptoms (tingling arm, tight feeling, etc.)n it said it could be nerve damage. like whenever i turn my elbow it cracks but the other doesnt. it hurts so bad to move it. i dont know what to do right now im scared. tomorrow is school but im not sure if i need to go to the doctor. please help me out. if you need any other info i'll add it in the additional info thing. thank u soo much

you need to go to the doctors it could even be broken! why you would hesitate to go to the doctors is beyond me but now that im telling you maybe you will go
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xOx Emily

I have a boyfriend who i see every other weekend.i just saw this kid who i havent seen in three years and i still like him. wat do i do? do i stay with my boyfriend who ive known for a month and have been together a week or do i break up with my boyfriend for the kid ive liked for three years? some1 help please

okay what i dont understand is why on earth would you be going out with somebody if you like somebody else!? and u need to get to know the people who you go out with b4 you go out with them i think you should break up with ur boyfriend of one month and take some time to think instead of jumping into another realationship!
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xOx Emily

okay well i was at my friends house lets call her julie, and my other best friend lets call him joe, well joe invited me and julie to his house to play flashlight tag, and we did and julie got tagged and well we were running to our hiding spot and he was like remeber that day i said i would give you kissing lessons? [he said he would because i have never kissed before] i was like yeah.. and he was like you still want them? i was like um yeah i guess and he was like you want them tonight? i was like yeah um sure so it was hiding time so me him and julie went by a bush and like all of a sudden his tounge was on my lips not on my mouth because i wasnt ready just like there and i was freaked out and he was like umm... then it was time to go, so we started walking back and he didnt talk to me AT ALL i mean i liked the kiss.. but like was it more then just a kiss?? i mean he asked me randomly PLEASE HELP!!!

when a boy wants to kiss you that usually means he likes you because like if they wanted head or somthing that would be totally different because its not like they get any pleasure out of kissing so why else would they want to kiss you unless they liked you? u need to come str8 out and ask him if he has feelings for you. and maybe by telling him you wanted "kissing lessons" you were sort of leading him on so he thought u liked him too!
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xOx Emily

Okay. Me and my best friend(male) have been best friends for two years. I've liked him on and off for the past two years as well. He's a very wonderful person and eveytime I tell him how I really feel about him, he tells me the same old story until recently he said I got him thinkin. But the problem is is that I hooked him up with my friend, I have a BIG JEALOUSY issue. And I hate to be around them when their together and everything because I would give the world to be with him and he knows it... but also, there's this other guy I like, but he's really really shy and he knows I like him but it seems like he dosen't have anything to say when I talk to him, but he likes me too, but now I am kinda trapped between the both of them. What should I do to get to my crush????

well before you go out with eigther of them you need to make up your mind about who you like. but maybe you should talk to your friend about how you feel maybe she will understand. if not you have nothing to do but w8 for them to break up and w8 for her to be completley over him. i dont understand why if you like this kid so much you would hook your friend up with him knowing you have a big jealousy issue...
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xOx Emily

OK I'm a 15/f and I'm white.. and my boyfriend's black. It makes no diffrence to me .. I dont care at all but I think my dad does. Eventually he's going to meet my Dad and I'm so afraid of what my Dad's going to say. He doesn't know about my boyfriend yet. My dad's a little bit intimidating and I dont want him to scare my boyfriend or anything because I really like him a lot. I think we're going to last a long time, but I'm so scared of what my Dad's going to do or say. What should I do to make this easier ?

save yourself and your boyfriend the humiliation and w8 and see if you two last a long time if you do then tell your dad BEFORE he meets him because if he does care you dont want him to scare your boyfriend and this way you can see if he even does care and if he does then you can be more careful because you wont want him to be mean to your boyfriend.
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xOx Emily

OK.. so I really like this guy a wicked lot. He is the first crush that I actually talk to and I would have a chance w/. I like him cus hes funny and nice not cus hes hott(even tho he is;) ). The problem is he does weed sometimes and my friends tell me hes bad news. Its a total suprise cus hes soooo nice in person. I told my friends i'm over him but i'm not. i cant help it. i dunno what to do..should i keep trying to get over him or should I continue trying w/ him and just ignore his bad habits. please help. BTW i'm 14/f

okay...well i know how hard it is to get over a guy you truley like! and i think theres hope for you two! maybe you should try talking to him about it and see how often he does it. and about your friends you need to stop hiding the truth you should be able to tell them anything! and you have to remember NOBODY is perfect...so weed is part of his imperfectness, i dont think he'll be doing it forever! plus if he starts to like you maybe he will even consider quiting for you!
well i hope i helped! good luck!
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xoxEmily

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