|
alchoholics
My friend moved out to Colorado a year ago. I'm 15/f and he was my best friend. Yesterday he told me he had sex for the first time. Which is totally different from when he lived here. He never would have done it. I understand that he changed because of the different people. I get that. But, its just the fact that sometimes, when I talk to him online, he's drunk. And alone. When he's sad, he tells me he WANTS to be drunk. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my best friend.
What should I do? Just get over it?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Let him know that u think hes change and that you are worried about him (when hes not drunk) tell him everything that you told us! Let him know that u still care and that you dont understand why he is changing so fast! The anwser will proubley b that hes trying to fit in! Let me no! Love ya! *Sara*
]
well you should def. tell him how you feel...basically tell him exactly what you told me. idk where you live so idk how far Colorado is from you but try to makes plans to visit eachother on a regular basis depending on how far away you live, that way you wont have to like try to work it around your schedual you will just know not to make plans that day. talk to him on the fone a lot. i know its really hard...my friend moved not even that far away but now she has changed so much so def. understand where your coming from!
good luck i hope i helped!
if you need me IM me xbellabambinax69
xOx Emily
]
You need to talk to him... in person i think. He seems to need a friend becuase ovbiously he is goign through changes and hard times. Just be there for him and comfort him try to not let him get drunk.
-beccers_boo
also i would say AA meetings
]
aww Im really sorry about your best friend. My best friend moved away about a year ago too. Shes totally different also. She started having sex with random guys & smoking & getting drunk, which was *totally* unlike her. I tried to talk to her & write her, but she stopped sending me letters back, so i just let it go, but I had talked to her about it, but i didnt really get any answer about it. I think you should try to talk to him about it, see how it goes. its a reallyyy hard thing to let go of though. its really sad, but sometimes you have to do it.
]
that isnt easy to get over.. i had a friend who moved to new york about a year ago.. he was my b/f too.. and he started with the drugs... but what i did was since i wasnt there to do anything i just tried my hardest to be there for him and let him know he has someone who cares.. and he grew upo and now he is a chef at the biggest resturaunt in north ny!
]
you need to talk to him when hez SOBER..lol tell him how you feel..i know..its hard dealing with friends once they change dramatically..it seems like u lost them..so talk to him dearie!
]
People definitely change and moving doesn't help any. Your best friend seems to have changed a LOT. There's probably not much you can do for him. Maybe you can talk some sense into him and try to set him on the right track. Maybe you can call and talk to his parents or something. Otherwise, he's moved on now. Look on the bright side, at least you knew him while you did and you had your good memories. Even though friends don't last forever, you'll still always have good memories. Also, he's teaching you a valuable lesson...He's an example of what you shouldn't become.
]
If it's possible, you should meet him in person and talk to him face to face. It's always better, because you can't lose him. He can't run away when you're right there. Ask him what's wrong. Tell him you really care about him and you worry about him. If none of this works, please get him help and tell him to talk to someone. Maybe it's just his new neighborhood? Maybe he's just trying to fit in around there? Tell him that that's not important. You want his old-self back. He was so much better then. If he doesn't listen, again, get him help. I hope he straightens out a little, and you guys are back to where you were. Good luck.
lAteR :P
]
Well theres not much you can do for the kid. since he did move. You just probably need to talk to him while hes sober and tell him how much you really do care for him and that you think somethings going wrong and that he should hang out with a diff crowd or something. i'm sure hes just trying to fit in and thats the cool thing to do around there. If he gets upset with you then i dont know... because that might happen. Good luck and best wishes
-holly-
hope i helped
]
More Questions:<<< Previous Question
| Next Question >>> xangas
|
|