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My dad!!
OK I'm a 15/f and I'm white.. and my boyfriend's black. It makes no diffrence to me .. I dont care at all but I think my dad does. Eventually he's going to meet my Dad and I'm so afraid of what my Dad's going to say. He doesn't know about my boyfriend yet. My dad's a little bit intimidating and I dont want him to scare my boyfriend or anything because I really like him a lot. I think we're going to last a long time, but I'm so scared of what my Dad's going to do or say. What should I do to make this easier ?
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i have the same problem kinda like urs. I am datin a black guy and my mom doesn't like it.My dad doesn't care but my mom does.I don't get it either how come white girls can't go out with black guys.I had sex with a black guy before and my mom found out 'bout it. DON'T FEEL BAD I AM IN THE SAME ISSUE!!!
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Dealing with racism is tough and it's even harder when it's coming from someone in your family whom you love and trust. It doesn't sound like you are completely sure what your Dad's thoughts are on the subject, but if you have any inkling that he might have a racist mentality, then I suggest you talk to him before he finds out or before he meets your boyfriend in person for the first time.
If your Dad does get upset and act irrationally about your interracial relationship, it's better not to put your boyfriend in his line of fire. It could be very unpleasant and hurtful for your boyfriend and it would be a negative experience that nobody should have to endure.
Perhaps you could start a conversation with your Dad where you tell him all of the great things about your boyfriend and how well he treats you (hopefully that's the truth) and then comment on how you think some people have a problem with your boyfriend simply because of the color of his skin and that you think it's just sad. No matter how your Dad feels about the situation, this would be a good jumping off point for further conversation. Best of luck to you.
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save yourself and your boyfriend the humiliation and w8 and see if you two last a long time if you do then tell your dad BEFORE he meets him because if he does care you dont want him to scare your boyfriend and this way you can see if he even does care and if he does then you can be more careful because you wont want him to be mean to your boyfriend.
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If u really love ur boyfriend and he loves u then it wont matter watt ur dad says becuz ur love will make it through anything but if u want to make earsier for u wen ur boyfreind meets ur dad then start mentioning hiim to ur dad and wen ur dad getts comfertable about u having a boyfriend then introduce hiim to ur dad...hope i helped
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Well the truth is we are all the same inside and color DOESNT matter im mixed w/ black and white myself your dad is just going to get over his prejiduceness maybe ifu introduce him as your friend 1st ....with other people there
hope i could hel
Kala xoxoxo
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omg i totally understand how you feel. my current boyfriend is half&half, and i'm white. my mom doesn't belive in dating outside your race even half & half.
what i did was:
talked to my mom. i told her that i was becoming really close with this boy from my school & i heard he was considering asking me out. i then told her he was half black. she, expectidly, flipped out, told me she didnt wana hear another word, and i was not going out w him.
so0o..i then talked to the boy. i told him everything. *which if you do this, be careful, remember he is the one your father doesnt want u to date. just explain to him that he doesnt belive in dating outside your race.*
then i went back to my mom. i asked if she would please listen and hear my side. i explained that he is a good kid, makes good grades, has a job, etc.i then askd her if she would meet him, get to know him, and then reconsider. she agreed to it.
i brought my friend around ALOT! =) my mother got to know him, and really got to see why i liked him so much...she also learned to look past the color of someones skin, and judge them by whats on the inside.
it is now a month later, and my *boyfriend* and i are happily together and have been for 4 weeks =) my mother likes him alot and doesn't mind that he is half & half.
so0o my advice to you, is maybe try what i did * remembering that it may be harder, considering the fact that your boy is black, not half and half, and remember it will take time and probablly be alittle harder b/c u 2 already go out.*
whatever you do! talk to your dad. do not just bring your boyfrind over n b like surprise! that'll def. b bad & uncomfortable for your boyfrind. and make sure u talk 2 ur man first!! so he knows what to expect & doesnt take anything that happens too personal.
kk..well if u wana talk, drop one in my inbox,i've been there, i kno how u feel =)
xo`lexi
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i think you need to have a lil talk wit ur b/f at first...tell him that ur dad might not agree with ur relationship wit him...but you still wanna be wit him...also talk to your dad b4 he meets him and tell yr dad that you relly like him...and you would appriciate him not to say anything bad that would push ur b/f away from u ;) hope i helped xoxo effy
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What i think you should do is tell your dad you met this awesome guy and exagerate how cool he is so your parents will want to meet him. then you should invite him over for dinner or something and have your parents meet him. i think that is the easiest thing that you can do.GL
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my advice is to tell your dad u hav a boyfriend. and then tell him how much u like him. your dad will probably think that your boyfriend is a good person because of hoew happy he makes u so he wont care that he is black. and who knows if he will even care
tina
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Maybe you should sit down with your dad and talk it over. Say dad I don't think it's right to judge people by their color and I like him and it's my decision and I hope you can respect that. If he gets mad maybe you and your boyfriend could take a break for awhile until you can help your dad to really understand.
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unless you come flat out that your bf is african american, you really can't make this any easier for your dad, not that i think its really going to be a problem. i'm sure your dad will be fine with it.
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Tell your dad that he's black before he comes over. So he doesnt get all shocked when he see's him. Good luck! And tell your bf not to be scared or anything.
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