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Hmm.. What kind of advice can I give? Any kind you'd like. Advice on relationships (all types) Getting out of trouble(my specialty) Sarcasim is always fun.
Giving advice is something I do best, I'll awnser any question you'd like, unless they're stupid and extremely pointless ones.
About me?- I like playing basketball, I'm still in Highschool, doing things that will get me in trouble, but always being good enough to get out of it.
My friends mean the world to me, without them I don't know what'd I do.
I could go on, but I don't think I will.
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Hi, I'm trying to get rid of my my unsociable, indifferent, freshman reputation, and hopefully make some close friends this upcoming year. I would like to know some ways I might be able to change people's perception of me. I guess I come off as withdrawn and slightly angry, so this may come off as a difficult question for those of you "popular people", who are able to make friends easily. My main purpose is to make friends in order actually look forward to going to school in the morning... For your information, I am 15 and male.
By wanting to change and make closer friends is already a start in making new friends. It only takes one friend to open a gate to more. Not everyone is going to change their views about you. But if you put yourself out there, most will. Just finding one close friend is all you really need. Next year just put yourself out to people who you wouldn't mind becoming friends with and it will definatly help you and eventually your reputation will change, which will lead to more friends.
i know this is kinda stupid but how do i get closer friends ?? i want friends who i can trust and talk to and hang out like every day its just when i get friends they kick me to the curb i HAD these amazing friend((emma n iris)) and we hung out EVERY SiNLE DAY and i said lets never get into a fight i was us to be best friends forever and we did that secret box thing from crossroads((gay yeah i know rite lol)) well emma n iris one day hung out with this girl marissa and they became like BEST FRIENDS and i was just being left out and it happen like that i did not see it coming and then they started making fun of me and saying mean stuff to me and i said i wanted my stuff back from that secret box thing if your gonna keep doing this to me and they said that they through it out and i put my most favorite stuff in there...We are friends now but not that tight...how do i get REAL BEST friends? i will rate high for extremly good anweres
Friends like that aren't easy to find. It's all about who you choose out, and it doesn't happen that quickly at all. I've had a lot of friends who in the end, things didn't work out. People like Emma and Iris come along a lot more often than a true friend. Find someone that you TRUST first, and then don't be afraid to tell them things. If you really can see yourself having a long friendship with someone than don't be afraid to make the first step towards that. You WILL find close friends, it just may take some time.
Okay so i go to a small high school i'll be a senior, and i hang out with this group of people and i mean we're all really close, and it's really weird cause theres i'd say about.. 50-60 of us, but we all hang out at school at lunch together and take up this big spot and everything. Anyways there's guys and girls. I really want to have a birthday party this year i'll be turning 17. because i didn't do anything for my 16th really and i haven't ad one since like 6th grade. but i was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on what to do with so many people. my friend had her 16th bday at this big hotel room thing..like whats downstairs..and there was a dance floor and a dj and food and stuff. so i dont really want that. i would just feel bad if i didn't invite some people cause we're all like best friends..and thats what makes it hard. 50 best friends? whaatt.. i mean i have ONE BEST BEST friends, but everyone else is pretty much the same. any ideas?
oh and my bdays in november.
Oh gosh. I totally know how you feel. I have a huge group of friends, like a million. It's usually a weird situaton to be put in because I go to a pretty big sized high school and the people I hang out with all go to different high schools but for the most part we hang out together. If I do something and can't have that many people over it upsets the others. If you want to do something then go out to eat for you dinner or something. Afterwards if you like to drink or whatever it is you do with your friends, try to do that. It's never easy and in the end if you can't have as many people then I wouldn't know what to do. Ask your parents about it. If your birthday is in November than you have quite a bit of "convincing" so you may be able to throw something at your house.
what do you do when all your bestfriend does when you's hang out is make out iwht her boyfriend and you cant tell her anything cause you dont want her to get mad cause you's are such a great friends and you dont want to ruin her and her boyfriends relationship
Ahh I know exactly what you're going through. I've been through it a few times. It drives me nuts. It's your best friend though, tell her exactly how you feel about it and she should respect it enough not to do it so much in front of you. Hang out with her without her boyfriend. Sometimes girls get too wrapped up in the one they're with they forget about how their friends might feel about it. It's aggrivating as hell but if you don't say something then it won't stop. Just approach it in a calm manner so to speak. Just tell her you'd like to hang out with her. Not watch her make out with her boyfriend all the time.
ok well me and one of my best friend got into our 2nd fight ...and we made a promise to eachother that we wouldn't fight for something stupid(our golden promise), and it happend, she asked me to be her friend and i said no, and i have no clue why, i really wanted to be her friend, but i just didn't wanna seem easy to jus let it go, cuz i've done that b4 and my other friend took advantage of me, and kept doing it and then i finally stuck up for myself, and i dont know wat to do w/ this friend, i mean i love her so much and we have been friends so long, and i wanna talk to her and become friends with her again, but ...i don't know wat to do should i just i-m her and ask her to be friends? and uhmm, wat if she says no? wat do i do? i'm gonna feel like an idiot=( please help
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Definatly say something to her. An IM is so much easier than in person, so I'd definatly go about it that way. Just tell her exactly how you feel. If she went to you the first time asking you to be friends, I'm sure she'll be willing again. Tell her everything of what you feel about your friendship with her, and why you were the way you were. And just apologize and ask for another chance. A fight isn't worth losing a best friend over.
ok this might be kinda confusing and long..I understand the consequences and worries that come around when you have sex& all that. I love my boyfriend with all that I have, and he loves me. We both gave up our virginity to each other, but the thing is, we weren't safe about it, and we both regret that. We both know that we should've used a condom, but I guess we were too caught up in the moment to realize that not using a condom wasn't very smart. okay so here's the question. I was wondering- the first time we had sex, he pulled out right before he ejaculated, and it got all over the place, but I wasn't sure if it had gotten inside of me or not. after that I told him I wanted to make sure I got my period. I took a pregnancy test because he said it would make him feel more comfortable, even though it was too early to be accurate anyways, and like I figured..it came out negative because it was too early. but then a few days later we had sex again but he didn't cum. so if I get my period, that takes care of both times we had sex, right? I know you can't get pregnant if you get your period, but I wasn't sure if I could get my period for the 1st time we had sex, and still get pregnant because of the 2nd time or not. I'm planning on taking the 2nd pregnancy test today or tomorrow since that would make it 4-5 days before my period is supposed to come. please help! thanks in advance!
-confused
Yes, if you start your period that will mean you're not pregnat. Also, if you don't start your period the day you're suppose to, don't freak out about it as much. Having sex may cause your period to become slightly irregular. And stressing over it won't help it come any faster as well. If you don't start on the day you're suppose to, then get another pregnacy test just to be safe.
i am a girl that is very sexual with my boyfirend. and every time he eats me out or we have sex i always moan and etc but i dont cum.. he cums all the time when we have sex or i give him head.. and etc.. but why arent i cumming too?
It's a lot easier for a guy to cum than for a girl. If you want him to actually make you "moan" then kinda lead him to what you want him to do to you. If he's doing something you like @ that time, let him know to keep doing what he's doing.
hey, I really wanna kiss this boy but I dont know what would be a good time to do it.. We're usually not alone alot but sometimes we are, and he likes me. When would be the right time to do it?
Ahh yeah I've done that before. But then I backed out of "making the first move" and never actually did it. Just go for it. I know it's easier said than done, but find the right time and don't think about anything when it comes. Just go for it. If he likes you too, then I'm sure he won't turn you down. Just don't think about doing it, whenever you get the urge go for it.
alright well,to get straight to the point, I'm paranoid and an insomniac.. is there a connection between the two?
I definatly think there is. Just recently I stayed up for nearly three days without a wink of sleep. It got so bad that I was actually scared to try and sleep because I thought if I did I wasn't going to wake up. There's a good possibilty that paranoia can come out of lack of sleep.
OK, this August I am starting highschool. I am in the honors program, and all my life i have gone to a Catholic school. It was a very comfortable environment. I knew everybody and was liked by everybody, and I did my work very easily. I didnt really have to work that hard at all. I loved the school I went to, the teachers were great and I learned a lot. But it makes it that much harder to go into highschool. I am going to a catholic high school too. I get stressed easily. How will I get used to the hard work, and the homework? My older sister is in that school, and she is SOOOOO smart. I feel like i have to be as good as her. How will i handle the work? I NEED HELP
Well, I can't speak for a Catholic High School. But when I went from Jr. High into high school, I thought the exact same thing. That everythign was going to be more difficult, and that I was going to be uncomfortable. But that's not the case, slowly you get use to it, and if you have your priorites in order things will work out really well for you. And you'll probably end up liking it a lot more than your old school. For the friends thing just be willing to make new ones. Teachers are going to be a little more difficult but not as bad as some people say. Just stay focused on what you need to do, because if you get too caught up in the social part of it, sometimes it can cause your grades to slip.
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Ok I like this guy a lot. We have been talking for about 8 months like we usually talk at least once a day. Well I told him that I liked him and everything and he was cool with it but didn't say he liked me back or anything. Well about a month ago I asked him if he liked anyone...just being curious. Well he said that he liked me so I was excited. Then 3 days later he said that he didn't like anyone and just wanted to be lazy and a bunch of bull. Well he started going to drivers ed on Monday, 4 days ago. Well last night he ims me and he is like I like someone. I was in shock like I didn't think it would be me but i was just surprised. He told me that he met her at drivers ed and they were dating. Well i was like sad and everything so I just said ok. And he goes say more than just ok so i said well i wish you wouldn't have told me so he got all mad and was like I will just talk to you later. Well I tried talking to him tonight and he just kind of blew me off and said that he was one the phone with his "dating" friend. So I was like I will just talk to you later then....I still really want to be his friend but I don't know what to do so if you have advice please help me...
Heather
What a jerk for doing that. It's obvious that he's doing that to make you some sort of jealous. I mean if he knew you liked him he wouldn't just be talking about a girl he's "dating" to you and not have a motive behined it. If you still want to be his friend, then tell him that. If he tries to be stubborn about it then it'd be his loss.
I have this firend of mine whom i've known since grade school. We are now 22 years old. When we were about 16 years old he told me that his sister had a baby and that he was left to take care of it. I found it strange because the baby was not his responsibility. He then told me that his sister took the baby to live across town.
We got out of touch with each other since high school. And met up again in College. It was a year or so when he decided to confide in me and tell me that he had a son when he was 17. He then told me that his son died due to medical reasons. I was his shoulder to lean on.
Recently i met another old high school freind of mine who said that she sees him all the time and he showed her pictures oh his son. I told her that i knew all about his son and i was sorry about what happened. She looked at me with questioning eyes and asked what happened to his son. I told her that his son died. She laughed and said no his so is not dead. She told me that the last time she saw him he told her that he had to buy some books for his son because he is starting school.
I was shocked. I could not belive it. I knew she was not lying she had no reason to lie. And it sounds like his son is no longer a baby. A baby does not need books. It sounds more like a first grader. As if the child was 7 years old. It was seven years ago when we were 16 and he had to take care of his sister's baby.
Could it be that my friend is a cold blooded liar? And if so why does he feel the need to lie to me. The person who was there for him through his so call suffering. And why would he tell me htat his son is dead when the opposite is true?
Woah, that's definatly a werid situation, and a disturbing one. I really don't know what would trigger people to lie about such a thing. One, he might not want you to be ashamed of him, and therefore put in some sympathy line to possibly make you not be so upset about him lying all those years. Another reason MAYBE, is that he feels he lacks attention and needed someone to listen to him complain, so he could feel loved and not alone. Other than that I can't think of any reasons why someone would make up such a horrid lie like that. If I were you, I'd confront him, try not to make it too confrentational, and then go on with my life without him. If he's going to lie about something like that, who knows what other lies he could make up.
Hey, my dad past away May 2004. This past year has been the hardest year of my life. I'm worried about myself because i was a hard core christian before my dad died and now i feel like im loosing faith because im mad at God for taking my dad from me! In youth last wednesday, our minister said that god is there through all your problems, im just really confused because he is the reason i have this problem! I know God does everything for a reason but i still cant seem to forgive and i feel like im going far away from him when i need him the most! What can i do to get back my awesome relationship with God?
Thanx!!!
The only thing that I think you can do is talk to Him. I know you probably have already tried that.. and this may sound cheesy, but I mean tell Him that you're angry. God does do everything for a reason, and He has a great plan for your father up in heaven. He doesn't want you to lose faith, this should bring you closer to him... if it were me, I would honestly probably lose faith too. Be totally honest with him, and when you pray, don't hold your anger that you have for Him back, because he already knows how you're feeling. Also, if your church is having a camp or something like that soon, that will DEFINATLY help. I too, was losing my faith in God for various troubles I couldn't seem to get past or understand why I was being put through them. The only thing I can tell you is to be totally far out honest with Him when you pray. And if by chance there is a church camp type of thing coming up, I promise you that will help you a lot. Keep reading the bible, and working to keep your faith. It probably won't happen anytime too soon, but if you work to re-build your relationship with God, it'll come back soon enough. I'm really sorry to hear about your dad, and you're in my prayers.
I'm the one who asked if my gym teacher saw my cartilidge piercing what should i do, cuz I'm not allowed to have any piercings in, and your not allowed to cover them! So, I got caught today and I'm not allowed to take gym at all!! I'm going to the principal tomorrow, because I'm NOT taking my piercing out, i love it too much. They just now (this year) made the rule that we're not allowed to cover our piercings, and my gym teachers reasonings, is because kids as they get older get alot rougher. Which is a bunch of BS!! What is some stuff I can point out tomorrow w/ the principal. THANKS =)
Tell them that it's not fair becuase you just paid like 30 somethin bucks to get it peirced, and your mother won't allow you to take it out. Then tell them that it's not fair to take you out of gym because you need to be in that class. Finally, if you really want to, get your mom to go up to the school board and BITCH them out. It usually works.. make her say something like "It's rediculous that my daughter can't be in gym just becuase of a peircing at the top of her ear, the one that I just spent all this money on.".. it SHOULD WORK. Good luck, I know how that is, it pisses me off, too.
We had to do swimming in gym, and I am a really self concious person. I have dark hair, so I decided to trim some of the hair "down there" so that it wouldn't poke out my suit. It was a pretty stupid move. I didn't want to create skin irritation because I have really sensitive skin, so I pulled the hair straight and scraped a razor across it to cut it. Now the hairs feel rough throughout the length of them, and it's pretty uncomfortable. This was a few weeks ago and it's still not completely back to normal. Is there something I can do that doesn't invovle going out and buying something, I'm broke and I just want things back to normal. Thanks.
Well, first off, it's always a good thing to "keep it trimmed." 2nd off, I'm assuming it had ot have been one of the first times you've done that. The first time I did it, it was extremely uncomfortable, and I didn't like it. But the only way to Get completly over it, is to do it again. I know right now that might seem like the last thing you'd want to do, but it's probably the thing that you should do. If you absolutly refuse to do it, then the only thing that you can do is let it grow out, there's really nothing you can buy to fix things like that. It won't be back to normal for awhile. But just know it's a good thing to keep it trimmed, and it's completly natural for it to feel REALLY uncomfortable for the first few times.
I am 41 year old male, at 18 I married my best friends sister who had been date raped at 16 (not by me) and was pregnant. I married her and raised the child as my own. We took in 2 foster children that we later adopted because she could not have any more. Although I was never in romantic love with her we had a good life and wonderful family. 5 years ago she had to have a hysterectomy and died for several minuets they revived her but she has never came back to "herself" I am now more of her caretaker. There is no sex, romance or even adult discussion. I can't leave her nor want to for the fact it wouldnt be right to leave her because of an illness that is not her fault.
I try to release my stress in the gym and other ways and have developed a very good physical appearance and have many friends, but Im so very lonley. I am afraid to have an affair, it wouldnt be right to either woman, but I so long for the touch, caress and conversation with a woman. I dont know where to turn. Whats your Advice?
Woah, well it sounds to me like you're doing a very good thing. If your wife just can't go back to the way she was, then maybe it's time you move on from her in that way. I don't think you could be persecuted for wanting an intimate relationship with a woman, it's only natural. You've been a good husband, just keep in mind if you do decide to "have an affair," then just keep in mind of theother feelings you could get for the woman you get involved with. You may not want a divorce but it might be the best thing. Just becuase you get a divorce from her, doesn't mean that you can't still be there for her, and support her. That all would be your choice. If you decide to keep staying with your wife for now and nobody else, your feelings of needing to be with a woman I believe will eventually grow strong, and you won'tbe able to stop it. Whatever your decision good luck, and I hope things work out for you in whatever you decide. Your wife is in my prayers.
OK me and my mom always teld to get in arguments and stuff! and she has always drinked and stuff even b 4 i was born!when ever she gets drunk and stuff shes always a bitch! and one time i hit her and i felt really bad! and she still drinks and me and my dad dont know what to do! he always calls the cops on her and stuff and says hes gonna make her move out but he never does! she is still living here! most kids wouldnt want their parents to get divorced! but im praying every night that thaey do! i dont realy care! and im having problems at skool and no 1 likes me! and when i say no 1 i mean no 1! i have like 4 friends @ my whole skool! and ppl always want to fight me! i have alot of drama in my life and i dont know what 2 do! i hate break ups and bad stuff ALWAYS comes 2 me! my friends turn against me and so do my bfs! and soo are my parents! my dad always yells @ me! and he drinks 2! just not as much as my mom! somtimes i really think about not living! like runnin away or whatever! should i! i cry everynight! yesterday i didnt go to skool cause i was cryin cause i hate my skool! and my parents wont transfer me and they dont never do anything about my problems! what should i do i need really bad help! i rate 5s! IM me on AIM southpolehunny14 to talk! THANX!! KAYLA!!
Hey well one, on the mother drinking problem, I know exactly how you feel. My mother is an alchoholic herself. She also gets bitchy and threatends me with a lot of things.. so if you ever want to get more into that we could. But right now it looks like you're thinking about everything negative in your life.. you can't honestly think about one good thing that you have? Yeah parents can be assholes but there's always a better way to doing things than just running away. The best thing you can do whenever you're going through shit like this is stay strong. And the whole school things. Drama will eventually fade.. but then of course there's always going to be more after that. The best thing you can do is stick witht he firends you have... It LEAST you have four friends.. think about it like that, and what would happen if you didn't have them. Bad things happen to everyone.. you just gotta try and look at the positive side of things sometimes. (It's harder than it sounds I know).. Good luck, and I really hope you start to enjoy your life a little bit more sooner or later.
Lately I have been noticing that down around ,y vaginal area I have been kinda itchy... and like I went to the store and bought some kinda cream stuff but the last time I out it on it was like my skin was pelling! Can some1 plz give me an Idea on what I have?
Thanks.. I rate 5's!
Well really, the only awnser I can give you is probably a yeast infection. I don't know what the cream's suppose to do or anything like that. But you might be having an allerigic reaction to the medicine, I mean if it's peeling, I don't know if that's normal or not. If the medicine doesn't work out then go try out a new one. Also, as gross as it may sounds crabs? Might be a possibility. You don't have to have sex to get it or anything, you could simply sit on a public toilet and get crabs. But really, more than likley it's just a yeast infection and can be treated by over the counter medication.
My friends popular friends don't like me much, so they told her I said I didn't like her. She believed it and now won't talk to me and I was supposed to go to a dance tonight but now am all depressed in my room. Also she's my one and only best friend. What should I do?
One, that doesn't sound like a best friend if she's taking the "popular" girls sides over her best. You should just tell her how it is, if she can't accpet that, then it'd be her loss. I mean I know if ya'll were to not become friends that'd be a hard thing to do. But there's ALWAYS people out there who would be willing to be your friend. You can do better if she refuses to even listen to what you have to say. I really hope ya'll work things out, good luck!!
I've got a question about my friend. I think she may have some serious mental problems. This morning in first hour she was writing a note to someone (I didn't know she was). Well, I glanced over in her direction and she flipped the paper, turned to look at me, and said: "Stop reading my fucking note! God, are you ever going to leave me alone?!?!" So, I asked: "...what...note?" She rolled her eyes and moved to another seat. So, naturally, I was in my seat thinking "What the hell did I do?" Anyway, in third hour she sat beside me again. Again, she was writing notes and I didn't know that she was, so I turned around to talk to her. She FREAKED out and starts yelling about how I'm a nosy bitch. I was ...basically speechless. I mean, it's like she's got some mental problem with excessive paranoia. For instance, yesterday in our Study Hall my boyfriend and I were writing notes to each other. My friend wanted to look at them, and because I said no, she automatically assumed that they were about her and proceeded to call me a bitch. They weren't even remotely related to her. If I talk to anyone other than her she automatically thinks that I'm talking about her or telling them secrets about her. She spreads horrible lies about couples at our schools, including me and my boyfriend. Sometimes I wonder if I should get her some counseling to try to help her out. She's excessively paranoid. I think she may be bi-polar as well (either that or she has some SERIOUS mood swings). For example, in P.E. one morning she was on a different team than me and was so mad at ME that she rammed me up into the bleachers. After P.E. she cussed me out in the locker rooms for being a "complete asshole." Then at Lunch two periods later she acted like nothing was wrong, or that nothing had ever happened. In the hallway this afternoon, I was joking about her using her cellphone (which is strictly against the school rules) and she lost it. Is this just normal teenager behavior or does my friend need some serious help? All advice would be appreciated.
Hell yeah it seems like she needs some serious help. She may have some issues with self confidence. I mean she's going off on you whenever you're talking to someone else, she must have a low self esteem if she always assumes you're talking about her. But more than anything I just wouldn't put up with that crap. You don't need a FRIEND cursing you out all the time over little things like that. You should maybe tlak to someone close with her and ask 'em if they know if she has a past with like parinoia or bi-polar, or some kind of problem like that. But then of course that could always lead to trouble and she coudl start more shit about you once she found out you were "talking to her parents/counsler/ect.)... I don't know, the thing that I'd do is drop her if she kept on screaming @ me like that. I know it wouldn't be a "good friend," thing to do, but whta she's doing doesnt' sound much better. Maybe you should just ask her, in a nice way if there's something bothering her, if she goes off on you, then you could just leave it at that. ((It probably wouldn't be best to be like "do you have a mental problem," she might take that to offense)) But I'm sure you get the idea. Good luck!!