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i know this is kinda stupid but how do i get closer friends ?? i want friends who i can trust and talk to and hang out like every day its just when i get friends they kick me to the curb i HAD these amazing friend((emma n iris)) and we hung out EVERY SiNLE DAY and i said lets never get into a fight i was us to be best friends forever and we did that secret box thing from crossroads((gay yeah i know rite lol)) well emma n iris one day hung out with this girl marissa and they became like BEST FRIENDS and i was just being left out and it happen like that i did not see it coming and then they started making fun of me and saying mean stuff to me and i said i wanted my stuff back from that secret box thing if your gonna keep doing this to me and they said that they through it out and i put my most favorite stuff in there...We are friends now but not that tight...how do i get REAL BEST friends? i will rate high for extremly good anweres
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Try to find people with similar intrests. That can build a relationship.
Just watch the people around you! Many of my closest friends are the last ones I would have suspected! One yells at me half the time, another is extremely outgoing (whereas I am shy), one is very feminie (I am not)... The most important thing in a friend is that they will stick by you. A true best friend may not hang with you every day, but they will be there when you need it. Maybe you already have them! You just haven't noticed.
Maybe consider getting a pet? A pet will never judge you, and they always love to hang out with you. They can be good friends when you are feeling down. And they can support you in your search for good friends. Plus, I've met several of my best friends because my dog ran away, lol.
_Edit_ My dog runs away frequently. The friends I met found my dog and brought her to us.
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Friends like that aren't easy to find. It's all about who you choose out, and it doesn't happen that quickly at all. I've had a lot of friends who in the end, things didn't work out. People like Emma and Iris come along a lot more often than a true friend. Find someone that you TRUST first, and then don't be afraid to tell them things. If you really can see yourself having a long friendship with someone than don't be afraid to make the first step towards that. You WILL find close friends, it just may take some time.
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First thing, get away from those girls. They hurt you so don't give them a chance to do it again. Next get the vibe. What I mean, is just try talking to people. I mean don't scare someone half to death. Just try to meat people. I can't garintee that all of your friends are going to be the best, but at least you will have friends. Just keep your head up, and never give up. Always have an open mind. If you expet the very best to always happen, you will get disapionted often. If you always expect the worst, you will always be depressed, and no one will want to be around you. But if you keep your mind and heart open, you will always be happy! I hope I helped and remember, my inbox is always open. Only rate if you want to, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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Friends like that are hard to come by. Sometimes it could take years to find a friend that you can trust, and call anytime, even at 3 in the morning. My advice to you is to keep looking, you will find that friend. You should try other groups. I had the same problem which was very very similar to you about 2 years ago. Trust me, it will get better =). Hope I help!
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Well, if everyone had the secret to getting real best friends..friends who would never do what those girls did to you...then nobody would need friendship advice and nobody would be in the same place as you. Reality is, thats not the case..and this kind of stuff happens. Ive seen it happen to girls in my class..it happens to a lot of people. so there is no real secret to get real best friends...because you seemed to have real best friends until they suddenly turned on you.
So what you do is keep an open mind and hang with a new group of girls who seem cool. As you hang out more and open up more..they will open uup more to you and hopefully they wont be as mean as your other friends. From about 5th grade-9th or 10th grade it seems people jump around groups of friends and by the time they reach 9th,10th,or 11th grade..they have a pretty good grip on who their true friends are and where they belong. (it seems that way anyway) so..all you can do is hang out with new people and as you hang out more, you will trust them more..and as long as they dont do what those other girls did, your new best friends will be there to stay.
just like love, friendships can be unpredictable also..you dont know if you will keep your friends for a lifetime, or a year, ..or a month..i mean ive haaated girls..then wound up being friends with them. its funny how things work out
i hope i helped
-melissa-
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