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Hi guys! My nickname is Josi and I am 14 years old. 14 may sound a little young, but for anybody who is around 14 and needs advice, I am a great person to ask. Chances are that I've dealed with alot of stuff that teens are going through, and can help with anything you ask. I don't just give advice to get good ratings, but to help those who really need it. Believe me, I know how important it is to have someone who you can go to for advice. Every teen needs someone like that.

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i had a boyfriend for almost 3 years we did everything for eachother i thought he loved me but i guess not...i found out he cheated on me 3 times and he is in the military..he got stationed in germany met a girl and brought her home..wat should i do??

he doesnt seem like he deserves you =]. you should try to move on

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ok i got the top of my ear periced but it got infected so now it if like a big ball on top of my ear. how can i make it go away so no one in school tomorrow can see it plz help fast i rate 5s

i would go to the emergency room right away because my sister had the same problem and when she went, they told her that she was lucky she came because the infection was spreading. You really don't want the infection to spread all over your ear and eventually have to get it off. Im not trying to scare you but you really have to do something about it =].
Hope I helped!

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Alrighty then, my SS/ELA teacher is completley crazy. He makes random body language gestures, his accent cycles from British to Austrailian to Gay to German to Russian. He's probably the most unintentionally funny people I've ever met, and I can't help but laugh at his antics.

However, he fails people for laughing (he calls it disrespecting) anyone in his class (including him) 3 times. So, any way that I can keep from laughing?

You could always bite your lip or pinch yourself really really hard =].

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Ok so there is this guy that i like but he doesnt even no that im alive but i realy like him and ive liked him since 3rd grade when i moved to my school. i realy want to tell him how i feel but im scared of rejection and once again be more dorky then i am if its even possible!can u help me Withs alot of lovin J.H

You really need to tell him. Guys like confidence! Just be confident that you are pretty, smart, and able to get any guy you want. Don't worry about how the conversation is going because it will show insecurity.
Hope I helped!
If you need any more help IM me at: luv josi =]

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OKay, i wanna kno if there is something wrong with me. All guys i like pass me over for my friends. I'm just as pretty as them but i get ignored, or labed "friend only" and iono y. Is it because i give advice? Is it that i give off the friend only vibe? (and if i do, how do i stop?)I like to become friends with the guys before i decide whether to pursue a relationship or not, but the at that point, it seems to be too late. What can i do to change and get guys to notice me? Thanks in advance!

mabye you just need to flirt a little more to get a rid of the friend vibe. I was exactly the same way! I just needed to be a little more outgoing. Do the same and the guys will be all over you!
Good luck! =]
If you need any more help IM me at: luv josi

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I think I am heading 2 anorexia. I don't eat normal at school. I skip meals from 8 hours a day and I feel real week. And when I think about eating I get sick to my stomiac. I am only 13 but I am really upsessed with my weight. I only eat about 3-4 things a day. I need help. Thanks and No smartasses Please.

yes you are on your way to anorexia. I really don't want that to happen to anyone, because it is a terrible fate. It can cause serious injuries to your body. What you need to do is eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. You could look up diet meals, but no crash diets! They are extremely unhealthy. I don't really eat alot either, but it is good to make yourself eat, even if you are not hungry. Eat at the regular eating times. And most of all, stay away from fattening food and junk food.

If you need any more help you can IM me on aim at: luv josi.

Good luck!

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ok so there is this guy i like and he says he likes me to and sometimes when i send him a text message or something he doesnt answer like he is ignoring me but when im with him in person he is all over me what is going on???im confused??what should i do??

I was going with the same thing..i asked him about it and he said he was low on texts but he still wanted to talk to me. so from then on he called me all the time. =] talk to him
hope i helped!

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Okay well Theres this guy that I really like ALOT. and well during like april may and june we were pretty much together (But not dating because he thinks its just a label, but I considerd us dating ;]) and well I liked this other guy more than him (well thats what i though) and I told him , and we sorta just stopped being togehter, we were still realllly good friends and everything and we still hung out..but now I started thinking about everything we did together and I miss him so much..and I told him that, and he told me that he thought of me as a really good friend.. but then the next day we hung out and he hugged me (like he did when we were together) and then he told me he liked me, and like the next week he was like i dont like you..and that went on for a while, and finally we started talking and everything and he emailed me and he said "im going away so you have to email me ALOT" and he put a kissy face there, and after his name he put a heart...I think he likes me and everything and I really hope he does because homecoming is coming up on friday and everything.. but do you guys think he still has feelings for me?

I think he still does. But mabye he's just cautious about it since what happened before. But It sounds like he's over it now so I say go for it!

Hope you have fun at homecoming =]

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okay well Im 13/f and Im going trick or treating with my crush and some other friends for holloween well am I too old to dress up cause I was thinking about a daisy duke look but with a little move coverage..THANKSS

You are not too old to dress up for Halloween! I am 14 and I still dress up! hehe. I'm not really sure what you're asking so I'll just throw somethings out there.

If you are gonna be with your crush:
1)talk to him alot
2)flirt with him a little, but not over excessively
3)don't act like your insecure about how the conversation is going or about how you look...guys like confidence!

If your are asking what you want to be for Halloween:
Well I sometimes go in my pajamas because I'm just too lazy to dress up hehe. Once I went as a joker and I got a joker hat and painted my face two colors, right down the middle, that was fun. Daisy Duke sounds like a cute idea, if you have a cute outfit. You don't want your crush to say "what are you supposed to be?" So I would go with something that everybody will automatically know what you are.

Good luck and have fun!

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Do any of you have friends as backstabbers and know how to deal with them...I need help!

yes! my advice to you is to try to hang out with a different group of friends. Have you heard the saying "Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer"? You can still talk to them, but I would suggest that you don't trust them with secrets, or any piece of information that could be twisted around.
Hope I helped =].

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ok it seems like my mom favors my brother way more than me. So one day I stayed home from school because I was sick. Then my mom told me since I stayed home, I was grounded for the weekend. But then today, my little brother was supposedly throwing up this morning and didnt go to his soccer parade and games but about an hour later he was outside running around and on his dirtbike and playing basketball and everything. Then he got to have his friend sleep over. Am I over reacting or am I right about her possibly favoring him more?

I used to feel the exact same way. My advice to you is to spend more time with your mom, trying to do what she likes to do. I suggest making some cookies or something that she likes. It may seem that she likes him more, but mabye she looks at you and feels all sad that her little girl is all grown up and she wants to spend more time with her little boy. Whatever the reason, you will soon be moving out and your little brother will grow up and you won't be able to play little tricks on him anymore =]. When you look at how precious life is, you should try to look past everything that can get in the way of enjoying it.
Hope I helped!

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It's about a girl. What else? The backround story; we've been in the same insanely close group of friends since 2nd grade. I haven't liked her for THAT long. Some point last year I had one of those "whoa..." moments, and realized how I felt about her. I never really asked her out, per se, but at one point I had explained how I felt, blah blah blah, she didn't feel the same way but still loved me as a friend, etc.

Not that long ago I did ask her out, again, to find the same results. I only did it because she had been acting a little differently. "Interested", I suppose. I'm not too torn up about it, I moved on before and can do it again. But should I ever bother with asking her out again? Twice seems like enough, I mean, should I just wait for the impossibility of her "coming around" (while considering other girls, of course) ?

Mabye you could try a different approach...try acting like your not interested or mabye try acting interested in another girl. If that doesnt work then mabye you could just sit her down and explain, again, that you really really like her and at least want to give it a chance, that it won't ruin your friendship, and that you don't wnat to go through life without knowning what would have happened if you had the guts to ask her out, again. Asking her out only shows that you care enough to keep asking her out.
Hope I helped =]
Good luck!

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Okay this was a month ago or w/e and i didnt know what was going on with me, but i was going to the bathroom, #2 and when i got up it was like red, i figured that it was obvesouly blood, but i din't know from what because, it didnt hurt and i didnt have sex so i was confused, if any one has an answer, and i dont think it matters anymore becuase it was so long ago and it never bugged me again, so please reply.

~*Manda

It is probably a hemroid. You can either go to the doctor, or drink a lot of liquid. Try not to eat alot of fiber.

Hope I helped =]

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okay so i am so very bored right now and i have absolutely no where to go...and i have no friends to hang out with so could someone give me some fun ideas that i could do right now to rid my boredom? thnkx

Personally I don't like online games very much anymore, my advice is to either call someone, finish homework, listen to music, have a movie night***, and eat all u want!

Hope I helped =]

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Ok, well, this will probably seem stupid to most people... but there's this guy in my grade (8th) and last year he told my friend that really liked me and he was really sweet to me and then I started to really like him and he asked me out and we "went out" for a while but the thing is, we hardly really talked. then i guess he just told his and my friends that he didn't really like me that much anymore and nobody ever actually broke up with the other one, but we just kind of broke up in a weird way. Well anyways, then it became awkward around him. He started being kind of rude to me. Then, during like the last week of school, we kind of started talking again and it was a lot of fun we started flirting a lot- like he took my sweatshirt which was way to small for him, and put it on, and we kept messing around with eachother... then summer started. Now, he is in one of my classes, but we dont talk, at ALL. It's really frusterating, because I still really like him. The thing is, my friend told me that she thinks he likes this new girl, who is by the way extremely rude and annoying, because he was flirting with her, kind of the same way he did with me. I found out that he is going to the same high school as me, though. Do you think I might get another shot with him in the future, or is it pretty much gone? Please help me! I rate!

I think you should make the move and go and talk to him. but dont act slutty and change your style for him. He went out with you before so we know 1 thing: he likes ur style!=] Just flirt and act liek you dont care if you get back together with him. You might also try and look as if your interested in another guy..that will get to him haha.
Good luck!
Hope I helped =]

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dear summergrl05 I am 14 and I have a huge crush on this guy but my friend amanda doesnt want me to go out with him because hes her ex but my other friends say we are a good couple. amanda hates him so idk y shes all offensive of this but anyway how do I get to go out with him, my other friends think we are a good couple but i still dont know what to do or how to get him to go out with me!!! help plzplzplz!?

sounds like a sticky situation =/. heres what i would do if i were in your shoes:

I would explain to amanda that I really like this guy, and that I would be the happiest girl in the world if I could go out with him. I know you don't like him since he's your ex, but I want to give him a chance. I hope this doesn't get in the way of our friendship because your my best friend.

As for getting him to go out with you, I would first talk to him alot, flirt a little, then after a while tell him that you like him. then you could ask him to go to the mall with some friends and see a movie and just chill. this is what I did and it worked perfectly =].

The key secret to getting any guy is being confident. Guys notice if you're all shy and insecure about your looks, or how the conversation is going.

I hope everything works out for you!
hope i helped =].

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Well.... i realllllly like this kid, and i have NO IDEA if he likes me back or anything and like my friends are always like you should tell him you like him and stuff... but the thing about it is that i have 2 worries 1. he doesnt like me back! and 2. his friends are the type of guys that are like you like him and are always asking out girls for them and like there just jokin around and stuff. i dont kno so will you guys help????? should i tell him or not??
THANK YOU SOO MUCH!
XO0X


PS we are starting to become friends...weve meet on the first day of school (about a month ago)...... SORRY ITS SOO LONG!

DEFINATELY tell him. i just went through the same thing. Heres my story:
I just started high school about a month ago. I met this guy at one of the dances and we talked and stuff. then after school he comes by and talks at where i get picked up. I asked one of my friends to see if he likes me. so she told him that i liked him. now homecoming is next friday and i was hoping he would ask me, but i didnt tell anybody. i turned down an offer in case he would ask me. 2 days ago my friend called me and said that she was just talking to him and that he said he was going to ask me to homecoming!
so my advice to you is to tell him! you never know what might happen. besides, whats the worse that could happen? lol its just a guy =)
good luck!
hope i helped!

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Ok...i go to school and i feel like a geek...im not really one but i just fell like it.Like i look at all the popular girls and i wanna be like them..how do i?? does anyone know??? I used to have a lot of friends that went to my school but they moved.

Ill rate high if you help me!!

i just started high school this year...and well looking back on grade school i remember that i used to want to be popular 2. now i realize that i was being really stupid hehe. i hugn out with the "popular" group for a while, then i found out that they were mean kids that bagged on everybody cause they were insecure about themselves. my advice to you is that you shouldnt change yourself for other people. gradeschool goes by so fast im not even kidding. i wish that i had spent more time hanging out with my true friends than trying to fit into the popular group. im not sure if thats what the popular group is like at your school, but if it is, i would advise you not to be like them. if there are any new kids in ur class then you should take the time to get to know them. its really easy to make friends with the new kids cause for the most part, they dont know anybody.
if you really want to be like them, then you could dress like them, BUT DONT DRESS SLUTTY.
you could act like them BUT DONT BAG ON PEOPLE. IT WILL COME RIGHT BACK AT YOU.
AND MOST OF ALL, DONT GET PRESSURED INTO DOING ANYTHING THAT YOU DONT WANT TO DO. nobody has to make you do anything.
have fun and dont worry about it 2 much.
hope i helped!

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This is to all the 7th heaven fans....

Does anyone know if mary will ever be back on 7th heaven....they bring her up alot but will she ever appear on 7th heave again?

Thanks to any one who takes the time to answer!

7TH HEAVEN ROCKS!!!!!!!

i think she will be..i heard she was just making alot of movies and stuff.
hope i helped!

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I'm pretty tall (5'9) and have long legs, but my problem is that they have all these ugly scars on them from when I was younger and used to scratch my mosquito bites, so I rarely wear shorts or small skirts and am pretty much always in long pants. Is there any way to make the scars go away? I'm so sick of them.
(15/F)

if you go to the grocery store and look in the medicine aisle, like where there bandaids and stuff, theres scar treatment. if u follow the directions which is usually- appy twice a day on the scar-then it should be gone in around 2 weeks.
hope i helped!

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