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Is there something wrong with me?
OKay, i wanna kno if there is something wrong with me. All guys i like pass me over for my friends. I'm just as pretty as them but i get ignored, or labed "friend only" and iono y. Is it because i give advice? Is it that i give off the friend only vibe? (and if i do, how do i stop?)I like to become friends with the guys before i decide whether to pursue a relationship or not, but the at that point, it seems to be too late. What can i do to change and get guys to notice me? Thanks in advance!
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I dont think that you should change your hole personality just for some guys...but you can be more outgoing and act more like you interested even if your not sure if you like them yet. Its good that you like to be friends before having him as a boyfriend but maybe they dont get that and just automaticly think you just wanna be friends...
hope i helped
..::Jess::..
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OK, the first thing you gotta kno is that you don't have to change WHO U ARE just for guys. But it sounds like what you might need are flirting tips. (NOte: you don't have to become a "flirt, slut, etc" to flirt). You could try talking to them and being their friends, but try to flip your hair occasionally. Lower your head and look up at them through your eye lashes. cover your mouth with your hand when you're embarrassed or laughing. This is very flirty. If you don't feel comfortable with any of this, you could just put the thought that you like someone into the gossip chains. Eventually it might reach him. But remember it's cool to be friends with guys too. These are just suggestions, and the reason they probably think of you as a friend is because they're comfortable with you and not flirting with you. So there are several different tactics you can take here, I hope I have helped. (and by the way, I'm sure one day you will meet someone as mature as you are, and then you will have a great relationship.)
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im in the same boat as you, only im not pretty like my friends are.
all you can do is continue being yourself really..my opinion is neverrr change for someone..because dont you want someone to go out with you because they like U ? if you change..they will like you for someone your not. so..hang in there..and you will find a guy who likes you. its what i have to do also..and a lot of people are in the same boat as us. we gota hang in there
-melissa
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Try being a little bit more outgoing. Try to make yourself stand out from the crowd, be loud.. but not obnoxious. Flirting is always good. Good for you for wanting to be friends with a guy before dating them - the best thing to do is to arrange one on one friend time with them to try and get to know them even better.
Drop hints, be subtle though. If he responds in a good way then you know something is working out in your favore.
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mabye you just need to flirt a little more to get a rid of the friend vibe. I was exactly the same way! I just needed to be a little more outgoing. Do the same and the guys will be all over you!
Good luck! =]
If you need any more help IM me at: luv josi
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